I started working as a stay-at-home mother last year, and my original intention was to be able to accompany my child's growth, because my child's childhood is only once, and if I miss it, I won't have it.
But after becoming a stay-at-home mother, I found that the pressure of life was really too great, Mr. Sun's salary of several thousand yuan a month had to support the family, and we had to be careful in terms of money, and sometimes we wanted to break a penny into two parts.
It is really difficult for a small family to take care of the two things of taking care of the children and making money, but if the elderly in the family are willing to come over and help take care of the children, the pressure on life will be much less.
Is it an obligation for the elderly to help with the children? Everyone has a different opinion, and this is also a false proposition, and there is no one standard answer.
But I found that for an ordinary family, having an elderly person to help take care of the children and not having an elderly person to help take care of the children are completely different lives.
01. There are elderly people who help take care of children, which can not only make money but also accompany children
After I got married to Mr. Sun, my mother-in-law has been helping us take care of our children when we are in need, which is really a relief for our newly formed family.
With my mother-in-law coming to help us take care of the children, we and my wife can go to work and make money with peace of mind, without worries, and we can accompany the children when we come back from work, and earn money to accompany the children.
And my mother-in-law also cooks every day and lets us take it to work to eat, which also allows us to save money for eating out to a certain extent, and we can also save a lot of money in a month, and we don't have to eat fast food outside, which is money-saving and healthy.
What's more, with the mother-in-law helping to take care of the children, we can feel the cohesion of family affection, and every day when we come back from work and see her and the children laughing, we will be extremely happy and satisfied.
My mother-in-law often said that she was the old man in the family who refused to help take care of the children, so she had to carry the children to work in the fields every day, and she knew the hardships, so she was willing to help us take care of the children, which also made us feel very gratified.
02. There is no elderly person to help take care of the children, and the financial burden is heavy
In the past two years as a stay-at-home mother, I have deeply realized the importance of money, especially when my family is sick and hospitalized, I really feel that it is difficult to move an inch without money.
In the past, when two people worked together, one person's salary could cover various living expenses, and one person's salary could be saved every month.
But now, the cost of children's milk powder diapers alone costs two or three thousand yuan, and in addition to the rest of the living expenses, there is very little money that can be saved.
What's worse is that because of the economic downturn in recent years, Mr. Sun's company has selectively laid off employees every year, which also means that he may face the risk of losing his job at any time, which is undoubtedly worse for us.
And full-time mothers seem to be relaxed, they don't have to go to work every day to be angry, but just taking care of their children has to be busy like a spinning top 24 hours a day, and the mental and physical torture is double.
Fortunately, my mother-in-law was a good mother-in-law, and when they were able to support themselves, she didn't ask us for money, and even gave us a little subsidy in money. Contribute when it's time to contribute, and pay when it's time to contribute.
Write at the end:
Is it an obligation for the elderly to help with the children? I think it's love to help, and it's duty not to help.
Most of the elderly who are willing to help their children take care of their children do so because they feel sorry for their children, but also because they have experienced a life without help when they were young, and they can experience that kind of helplessness.
There are elderly people to help take care of the children, become a solid rear for the children, so that the children can work harder to make money, and everyone can better reflect the role of "the family thinks in one place and works hard in one place".
Of course, it is not the obligation of the elderly to help us take care of the children, if the elderly are willing to bring, we should be grateful, and if the economic conditions allow, the elderly should be appropriately given "hardship expenses".
If the elderly are unwilling to bring, we can't force it, let alone use it to coerce the elderly, "If you don't help me take care of the children, I won't give you the elderly", after all, it is the responsibility of the children to support the elderly.
I just want to say to my children, if you need it in the future, I will help you take care of your children if my physical condition allows, and it's all because of one word, love!