"Giant babies" are the product of wrong family education, referring to those adults who are not mentally mature enough, and "refined self-interest", "poor ability to resist frustration" and "gnawing old and conceited" are their common shortcomings.
Parents often disagree on the issue of educating their children because of different educational concepts, but after all, they both know that each other is for the good of their children, so they often turn big things into small things.
If parents do not approve of the teacher's education method, it is likely to rise to the level of "the teacher is irresponsible" and "the teacher is eccentric", so there are many parents who are dissatisfied with the teacher's education method and have conflicts with the teacher.
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The only son in the class did not have a certificate,
Bao's mother asked the school to give an explanation, but she was kicked out of the parent group!
Many parents have encountered the problem of "overflowing certificates", especially in off-campus cram schools, where students basically have a certificate of merit. However, a mother made a fuss because her son was the only one in the class who did not have an award certificate in the cram school and asked the school to give an explanation.
We all know that cram schools try to keep students in a different way, so if they can make students and parents happy, cram schools generally will not choose to offend parents. And the cost of the award is not high, why is the cram school short of a certificate? Did the parents offend people?
According to the mother, her son's English class is divided into three awards: the full attendance award, the progress star and the check-in star, and on the day of the award, the teacher will ask the students to take pictures with the certificate on stage, but her son is the only one in the class who does not have a certificate.
Bao Ma did not recognize the awards set by the school, thinking that it was judged by the standards of adults, and she asked the school to give an explanation, but the answer given by the school was that as long as you do not ask for leave and insist on completing the tasks assigned by the teacher, you can get the due reward.
From the screenshot of the chat released, it can be seen that the school wrote a "small essay", explaining why her son did not get the award from the perspective of the students who insisted on completing the task, from the perspective that the award certificate was earned by hard work, and from the perspective of suggesting that parents be strict with themselves.
However, it is clear that the mother did not agree with the school's explanation, and asked the teacher to tell which class to award the certificate, and when the time came, she asked her son for leave, and also bluntly said that the school should not be emotional in the education industry, which made her not believe that they could teach children well.
In the face of Bao Ma's arguments, the school seems to have lost the patience to explain, and bluntly said that "there is no need to explain the unreasonable things". But apparently this sentence further angered Bao's mother, and finally the teacher said "transfer if you are not satisfied", and then kicked Bao's mother out of the parent group.
Because of a certificate of award, Bao's mother originally asked the school to give an explanation, but she was kicked out of the parent group.
This incident has attracted the attention of many netizens, and some netizens believe that the school should give a certificate of award, which is to provide encouraging education to students, and at the same time, the school is also partly responsible for the failure of students to get the certificate.
However, some netizens believe that since students do not have the criteria for obtaining the certificate, they should not get the certificate, otherwise it is easy for students to feel that they can get honors without working hard, and I am afraid that they will not have the desire to study hard in the future.
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The love of parents and children has far-reaching plans,
Is it normal for Bao Ma to worry, or is it "a loving mother with many defeated children"?
From the school's point of view, it is very positive that they can allocate "according to the actual situation", rather than being unprincipled in order to please parents. However, it would be better if the matter could be explained to parents face-to-face.
From the perspective of this mother, on the one hand, she feels that the school's evaluation standards are unfair, and if it is fair, her child can get a certificate, on the other hand, she feels that the child will not get the certificate and affect the subsequent learning interest and motivation.
However, has this mother ever thought that maybe this award will become an opportunity to educate children, so that children can have a stronger motivation to learn when they see others winning honors for studying hard. And the difference between a child's thoughts depends on how to educate.
At the same time, the love of parents and children is far-reaching, and human nature is understandable, but parents cannot always silently help students withstand the wind and rain, and the correct family education should make students stronger after experiencing the wind and rain, otherwise it is not a loving mother and a more defeated child?
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In addition to "overprotection" in family education,
What other minefields have a profound impact on students?
The minefield of family education that this mother stepped on is overprotection, which is easy for students to lack the courage to overcome difficulties in future education and even daily life, and it is easy to give up psychologically. In addition, the minefield of family education also includes the cultivation of seedlings, absolute denial, and coldness.
It is mainly embodied in allowing students to receive advanced education and extracurricular education, so that students can feel strong learning pressure from an early age, and they will lack stamina because they are squeezed out in advance when they grow up.
Rome was not built in one day, and the "giant baby" was not developed overnight, if parents do not want to educate themselves to be a giant baby, they must correctly review the school's education methods and actively improve their family education level.