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"I didn't give birth to him."
A boy in Anhui scored 672 points in the college entrance examination, and his parents rewarded him with 10,000 yuan to travel. But the boy was detained at the airport, and after the parents found out, they were half angry.
This boy's name is Qiu Ming, and since he was a child, his mother Li Juan's request to him is that as long as he studies hard, he doesn't have to do anything else.
Therefore, he never touched his hands in household chores such as washing dishes, mopping floors, washing clothes, etc., even if it was taking out the trash.
He doesn't know how to fit in with his classmates, let alone solve the various situations that arise in his studies and life.
He has the aura of "scholar" and "famous school", but his survivability is a mess.
But Qiu Ming is the perfect child in Li Juan's eyes, because the child is very obedient, Li Juan gives his son 300 yuan of pocket money every week, he either buys extracurricular books, or participates in various improvement classes, and never spends money indiscriminately.
Qiu Ming also did what his parents wished, from elementary school to high school, his academic performance has always been at the top of the school.
In this year's college entrance examination, as everyone expected, he scored 672 points.
For people living in small counties, this can go to a very good university.
When Li Juan and his wife learned their son's college entrance examination scores, they cried with joy. They are proud of their son, and at the same time feel that their education is very successful.
That night, Li Juan made a table of good dishes to celebrate, and the family of three also drank a bottle of good red wine.
After dinner, Li Juan thought that her son had never relaxed for a moment except for studying or studying, so she rewarded her son with 10,000 yuan and asked him to travel and relax.
Qiu Ming saw his mother generously rewarding himself for traveling, and his heart suddenly burst into joy, and even his eyes lit up.
After being happy, he immediately selected his destination Yunnan, and started a travel strategy that night and booked a plane ticket.
A few days later, Qiu Ming pulled his suitcase and got on a plane bound for Yunnan.
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Looking at her son's distant back, Li Juan seemed to see the corners of her son's mouth raised. She thought it would be nice to make her son happy.
After Qiu Ming arrived at the tourist attractions in Yunnan, he took a lot of photos, videos, and Douyin in Kunming along the way, and also made beautiful articles, and sent them one by one to share the beauty and happiness with his parents.
However, at the exit of the airport where their son returned from a trip to Yunnan, Li Juan and his wife could not see their son's shadow, and their son's phone could not be reached, so the two were very anxious.
Just when the two were at a loss, Li Juan's phone rang. The couple thought it was their son calling, but what they didn't expect was that they received a call from the police station, and Li Juan almost fainted.
The police told Li Juan that Qiu Ming was arrested for secretly filming in the women's toilet at the airport.
"Impossible! My son has always been so well-behaved and so good, could he be the wrong person with the same name and surname as someone else? ”
Li Juan would not believe that her son would do such a dirty thing.
"Let's go check it out first." Li Juan's husband suggested on the side.
When she came to the police station, Li Juan really saw the frightened Qiu Ming, who is it if she is not her son? Li Juan and his wife felt like the sky was falling, and they couldn't believe their eyes.
Although she felt that she was about to lose her adopted son, Li Juan still asked, "Why are you doing this?" ”
Qiu Ming stated to Li Juan in a trembling voice:
"Mom, in fact, I have always been under a lot of pressure to study, and when I arrived in Yunnan, I wanted to find some excitement, and I have taken photos like this several times. When I arrived at the local airport, I couldn't help it, thinking that I wouldn't be discovered, so I ......"
"I wish I hadn't given birth to you." Li Juan couldn't stand it anymore, she was ashamed and angry, and stepped forward and slapped her son twice.
It turned out that the arrangement, doting and pampering of his parents, who only focused on the child's academic performance and ignored the cultivation of the child's other abilities, deprived him of his psychological needs and destroyed his moral code.
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The police sarcastically stopped them; "Who is it here for? If you want a lesson, go home and teach it well! This statement made Li Juan's face hot and embarrassed.
It's already happened, what else? The only way to solve it is to find a way!
Li Juan had no choice but to discuss with the girl in a low voice, saying that she could spare him for the sake of her son's young age, and was willing to pay 2,000 yuan to the girl.
But the girl was not rare for 2,000 yuan, saying that there was no negotiation, since she was 18 years old, she had to file a case and detain her, and she must be punished.
Li Juan was anxious when she heard this, why hasn't her son gone to college yet? Detention may have to leave a criminal record, and it will always have a bad impact on the future future.
Li Juan pleaded with the girl again, saying that as long as she was not detained, the girl would have the final say on the apology and how much money to add.
However, the girl was determined not to reconcile, so it was useless to say anything.
Although Li Juan felt sorry for her son, she could also understand the girl's position, and blamed herself for not educating her son well.
I remember that Wang Zhanjun, president of the Beijing Institute of Education and Science and Technology of the China Relatives Federation, once mentioned in his speech:
"A child's obedience is a sign of educational failure.
Good children are most likely to make three mistakes, withdrawal, suicide, and crime.
A good child also has the possibility of three nos: no interest, no specialty, and no pursuit.
For such a child, his best destination is to spend his life in aggrieved and mediocre. ”
As long as children learn obediently, they don't have to do anything else, which is just the biggest educational misunderstanding.
Every hardship that parents shield for their children will eventually become an invisible bomb on the road of their children's lives, which will catch everyone off guard one day in the future.
In the end, Qiu Ming was detained for 10 days.
Although he can still go to college after being detained, some good universities may not be able to go to them, and this stain can never be erased or erased, and it will become a thorn in the throat of the whole family, including the person to whom he will talk in the future.
Li Juan looked at her son who was depressed and confused, so she had to say to him:
"Son, you must take responsibility for the mistakes you make. No one can pay for you, and they can't pay for it. ”
I hope that Qiu Ming can reflect on his own behavior, know how to respect others, and understand the responsibility behind his behavior.
Qiu Ming's tragedy warns us:
The most dangerous education is that meticulous parents raise a high-scoring and imbecile baby.
Grades have never been the capital for parents to show off, and they are not the only criterion for judging whether their children will be successful in the future.
As a parent, you must learn to let go, such as letting your child do housework, which can cultivate your child's sense of responsibility and gratitude.
In short, parents should pay attention to all aspects of their children, so that their children can grow up healthily and happily, and grow into social beings with sound character, responsibility and responsibility.