Whether online or in reality, I often hear people ask questions like this:
Why are there people who are smart and hardworking, but locked to the bottom?
In fact, if you elaborate on these reasons, there are really a lot;
For example, this person is just quicker than others and seems to be more clever, but he lacks the perseverance, composure, cognitive level, pattern, and luck that a successful person and a class jumper must have.
Or if this person likes to immerse himself in the grand narrative, talk about it, talk endlessly, and implement it in practice, he begins to entangle internal friction, escape from fear, and can't grasp good opportunities, then he is naturally far from success.
In fact, if you want me to say, a person is locked at the bottom for one reason:
It is this person who listened to the advice of some people around him who had never succeeded when making major life decisions, or was artificially fooled and deceived, causing him to make a wrong choice and lose a rare opportunity to turn over;
And this person himself has been seriously morally kidnapped, deeply trapped in emotional bondage and emotional quagmire, unable to extricate himself, unable to change his own fate.
Those who have a certain amount of experience know that among the many elements of a person's success, hard work is actually the most inconspicuous and the most neglected;
To be precise, your timing is not right, your method is wrong, your mentality is wrong, even if you are smart and diligent, you are still off track, and you are still "contrary" to success.
The factors that can really determine the great ups and downs of a person's fate are strategy and direction;
For example, what major to choose, which city to go to, what industry to engage in, when to buy and sell a house, what kind of person to marry, who to partner with, and how to educate children.
No, I scored 100 points in today's school exam, I had a monthly salary of 1,000 yuan more than my peers when I first joined the job, I worked two extra hours a day, I fell in love many times, I controlled the freedom and expenses of my children, and I did whatever others did.
Strategy and direction are like the trunk and root system of a big tree, and everything else is trivial;
The impact of the forks and branches of large trees is often small, because they can be pruned and repaired;
However, if there is a problem with the root system, it will require "major surgery", and most of them will be "difficult to return", and if you want to completely eradicate the negative effects, you need to cramp and peel the skin, and be reborn.
Any one of the strategies and directions, good or bad, suitable or inappropriate, will cause a world of difference.
In fact, many people can't turn over because there have been no truly successful people around them to imitate, learn and copy;
It is precisely because there are no successful people around him that what a person hears and sees is wrong, so he will be trapped at the bottom;
What is at the bottom, the bottom is a world where black and white are reversed;
The people at the bottom, of course, have their limitations and helplessness, misfortune and bitterness;
The people at the bottom have their pitiful and their hateful.
The reason why people at the bottom have always been at the bottom is because they have never had a relatively lasting shining point and highlight moment in terms of wealth, identity, status, occupation, education, personal talent and skills, and even appearance and figure, expression and communication;
It is that their cognitive level is very low, and they have a lot of "problems" in their thinking and habits but they don't know it.
The characteristics of many low-level people are short-sighted, greedy for small and cheap, jealous, rejecting new things, resisting advanced ideas, and stepping on each other;
When they deal with people, they will first look at the identity and arrogance of others, they dare not provoke them, they look gentle and polite, and they want to cheat others and take advantage of others;
In fact, everyone is not stupid, you take advantage of others once, and people don't know or care;
Occupy twice, people will wake up, you want to occupy again, there is no chance, and you have accumulated a bad reputation, what you lose is your own financial luck, people will not think about you if they have good things, let alone guide you and guide you.
Moreover, people at the bottom always hope that others can help them more, they regard themselves as victims, and think that it is natural for them to get support and help from others;
However, this is a commercial society, which pays attention to mutual benefit and win-win cooperation;
If you don't have the character and ability that others are optimistic about, why should people favor you and help you?
People at the bottom can only see the visible financial benefits, lack long-term thinking in their minds, they don't understand the meaning of accumulation and precipitation, they don't understand the impact of emotional survival on a person's physical and mental development, and they don't know the huge potential and value behind a small experience and opportunity;
If you live in the midst of such a group of people and are morally kidnapped and asked to give and give all the time, I advise you to stay away from them.
If you want to succeed, you must go against their concepts, cognitions, habits, and thinking;
If they are narrow-minded, you have to be generous;
They are timid and reckless, so you have to be bold and careful;
They reject new things, so you have to be good at studying the merits and development potential of new things;
They are emotionally unstable and upside down, so you have to be calm and stick to your principles.
Otherwise, you will be spinning in the mud for the rest of your life, at the mercy and manipulation of them.
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