Many people say that people born in the 60s are the last people to be filial to their parents, and they are the first batch of people who may have no one to support them. In fact, in the concept of many of our elderly now, the concept of raising children and preventing old age has already been put down.
If we in the 50s and 60s find that our children do not have the ideal filial piety, then we must stop in time, do what I said in 6, and stop losses in time:
First of all, what counts as unfilial piety? For example, as soon as the parents open their mouths, they will yell at the elderly, or say: Shut up and talk less. Or gnaw at the old without a bottom line, and let the elderly take care of their children to subsidize the money, and they have no sense of responsibility for the family at all. Or, I or my children know how to celebrate their birthdays, treat the elderly, celebrate their birthdays every year, and don't even have the mind to come and visit.
The above behaviors are not forgotten by the children at all, or they are temporarily emotionally unstable, they really do not put their parents in their hearts, and when they encounter these situations, we have to withdraw in time.
01 The elderly who are still helping their children and grandchildren to subsidize the family, if the children are always impatient with us, can't listen to what we say, and always look at their faces carefully every day, then we must make an appointment with them in three chapters, propose a few days off a month, and give them the rest time to take care of the housework and take care of the children, otherwise they will have no sense of family responsibility at all.
If we are careful in what we do, and we are still criticized by our children because of a little problem with housework or taking care of our children, then we must leave decisively and let them figure out their own way.
In fact, this earth can be turned away from anyone, and when we can help, they are a kind of life, and when we leave, they can still live by themselves.
02 If you find that your children are gnawing at the old endlessly, in addition to asking us to contribute, they also ask us for money. Then we must not be stupid enough to save our own money and end up subsidizing them.
In case they lose all our money and don't give us a pension, then it's too late for us to regret it, so we must keep our money bags.
The money we usually save is saved and kept for our own retirement, that is, our children don't care about it in the future, we can also go to a better nursing home by saving and pension.
03 Our children are not good to us, let's not be sad, we must learn to be doubly good to our wives.
Even if they are filial children, they have their own small families to maintain and care for, and the energy and time allocated to us are limited after all, and the wife is the one who can accompany us to the end.
04 If our children are not filial, we should redouble our exercise.
The most difficult thing for people is that they have no money when they are old, and the other is that they are in poor health or disabled and need to be taken care of.
Therefore, the biggest blessing when you are old, one is to have it in your hands, and the other is that your body can take care of yourself, we are not very demanding, even if you can dress and eat yourself, it is much stronger than others to take care of it.
Therefore, for this small goal, we must take more care of our bodies, be self-disciplined when we can move, and insist on exercising.
05 If our children treat us badly, we must not be angry, we must learn to rely on external forces, and we must learn to care for ourselves.
For example, if you don't want to cook one day, go out to eat or order a takeout.
For example, if you can't cook, then ask an hourly aunt to help. I really need someone to take care of me, so I ask a live-in aunt to help.
When we are old, don't worry about money anymore, we must use external forces when we need to, so that we can live more easily.
06 Children are not filial, we should take the initiative to learn new knowledge. For example, the various functions of mobile phones, we must always maintain enthusiasm to learn.
Now as long as you go out, you have to use a smartphone, take the bus, go to the hospital to see a doctor, go out to travel and book a hotel, we try to learn all this, and we don't need to ask for help.
Speaking of numbers, it's really better to rely on ourselves than on anyone.
Do you think so? You are also welcome to criticize and correct my views!