Source: CNKI
It is said that the love of the Republic of China is sad nine times out of ten.
In that war-torn era, many poignant love stories did emerge, especially the strange woman Ding Ling, who fell in love with two men at the same time.
What's even more convincing is that she proposed to live with two men, and these two men, who should have been rivals in love, actually agreed and got along for a short time.
What method did Ding Ling use to get the three of them together? What is this unruly love that is sighed by the world?
Hot-blooded youth, progressive woman
On October 24, 1904, Ding Ling was born in a small village in Hunan Province.
However, the good times did not last long, and within a few years, Ding Ling's father died of illness, leaving only her mother and sister and brother to rely on each other.
Fortunately, Ding Ling's mother was a strong woman, and she sold what little property she had left in the family to pay off her gambling debts.
After repaying the money, Ding Ling's mother was unwilling to let the children nest in a small mountain village anymore, so she took their sister and brother to the county seat.
During this time in the county, Ding Ling and her mother became two progressive women.
Ding Ling and her younger brother went to school step by step, and her mother was not idle.
Ding Ling's mother went to a normal college, and with her excellent academic performance, she completed the transformation from a student to a teacher at the teacher college step by step.
It is said that parents are the best teachers for their children, and teaching by word and example is also the best way to educate.
Ding Ling's mother's spirit of pursuing self-worth realization deeply infected her, and she was secretly determined to become a person like her mother at a young age.
In her reading career, Ding Ling studied hard and worked hard to enrich herself.
With her profound writing skills, her Chinese grades are always among the best, and becoming a writer has also become Ding Ling's dream.
In junior high school, Ding Ling's writing talent was gradually revealed.
When her classmates were still copying some famous sentences, Ding Ling was able to transform and use these sentences on the basis of the excerpts and create something of her own.
Even her Chinese teacher said that Ding Ling's imagination was an important cornerstone for her success in writing.
While Ding Ling was still sitting peacefully in the school to study, the situation in China was turbulent.
University students in Beijing, Shanghai and many other places revolted one after another, opening the prelude to the May Fourth Movement.
Soon, the news spread to the small county where Ding Ling was located, and Ding Ling, who was full of patriotic blood, felt that she should not just turn a blind eye.
She told her mother that she wanted to join the patriotic movement, and in order to express her determination, she cut off her long braids.
The mother of the child is worried, how can Ding Ling's mother let Ding Ling go to Beijing and Shanghai, which are thousands of miles away from home?
After some discussion between the mother and daughter, Ding Ling finally compromised, and she decided to go to Changsha City, Hunan Province, not far from the county seat, to continue her studies.
After arriving in Changsha, Ding Ling found that the new school was not what she expected.
Influenced by the May Fourth Movement, Ding Ling's school respected the retro countercurrent and preached some classical Chinese, which made Ding Ling, who pursued new ideas, feel unacceptable.
Without consulting her mother, Ding Ling resolutely transferred to Shanghai. This ordinary transfer was an important turning point in Ding Ling's fate.
There is no impermeable wall in the world, and Ding Ling's other things were soon known by her mother and uncle.
Her mother, who had always pursued new ideas, did not show an overreaction to Ding Ling's transfer to Shanghai, but Ding Ling's uncle did everything possible to prevent Ding Ling's studies in Shanghai.
What's going on here?
It turned out that a long time ago, Ding Ling had a baby kiss with her uncle's son, and the uncle naturally didn't want his daughter-in-law to go away like this.
Ding Ling was unwilling to accept the arranged marriage, she resisted in every possible way, but fortunately, she finally got rid of the marriage contract with her cousin and began to make a big show in the amorous Shanghai.
The first love is in love, and the beauty is met
18-year-old Ding Ling had just arrived in Shanghai and had not yet gained a firm foothold, and at this time she met her friend Wang Jianhong.
Wang Jianhong is a very righteous person, she saw Ding Ling come to Shanghai alone to study and be lonely, so she proposed the idea of living together.
Ding Ling was overjoyed in the face of Wang Jianhong's helping hand.
Ding Ling and Wang Jianhong lived together, and the two not only studied together, but also discussed literature and books together, and became good girlfriends who talked about everything.
During their studies, the two met Zhai Qiubai, who was quite literary and talented at that time.
At an age like a teenager who is in love, in the face of the polite Zhai Qiubai, which girl can resist the temptation of her heart?
Wang Jianhong, who was frank, told Ding Ling: "What do you think of Zhai Qiubai? I felt like I was in love with him. ”
Seeing Wang Jianhong in front of her expressing her heart so calmly, Ding Ling felt a little weak, she didn't dare to admit that she was also deeply attracted to Zhai Qiubai.
She and Wang Jianhong are like sisters, and it is impossible for them to fight for a man.
Ding Ling could only alienate Zhai Qiubai, and actively matched the feelings between Wang Jianhong and Zhai Qiubai.
This dramatic love triangle ended with Wang Jianhong and Zhai Qiubai entering the marriage hall and Ding Ling leaving Shanghai.
In 1924, Ding Ling came to Beijing, which was rich in academic resources and progressive in thought.
Ding Ling, who was hurt in love, devoted herself to her studies in Beijing, and soon she became famous in the literary world.
Just when she was focusing on literary creation without distractions, fate quietly came at this time.
Hu Yepin, who occupies a pivotal position in Ding Ling's life, met Ding Ling in Beijing.
After Hu Yepin met Ding Ling, he was deeply attracted by her excellent and motivated temperament.
At this time, Ding Ling was still deeply trapped in unrequited love for Zhai Qiubai and couldn't extricate herself. In the face of Hu Yepin's pursuit of him in front of him, Ding Ling did not show great interest.
Hu Yepin is just an ordinary literary editor, except for saying a few poor and sour poems, he can't come up with anything else decent to attract Ding Ling.
His confidence in Ding Ling is very firm, no matter how indifferent Ding Ling is to himself, Hu Yepin chases Ding Ling relentlessly.
She saw that Ding Ling liked to create, so she talked to Ding Ling about new literature and the temperature of words.
After a long time, Ding Ling's defensiveness against Hu Yepin decreased, and the two became good friends who supported each other.
Being able to become good friends with Ding Ling is a great step forward for Hu Yepin, he feels that he will definitely be able to catch up with Ding Ling, so he will be even more good to Ding Ling.
At that time, Ding Ling was preparing for the Peking University exam, and she was studying in a small house alone, unable to eat enough and not warm to wear. Hu Yepin looked very distressed.
Hu Yepin looks forward to the moment of salary payment every month, so that he can use his meager salary to improve Ding Ling's life.
Ding Ling was very moved, but she couldn't give Hu Yepin's further answer to pursue Peking University, she just regarded him as a friend.
In the blink of an eye, it was time for the exam.
Ding Ling answered seriously in the examination room, and this time she felt that she was finally able to enter the gate of Peking University and enter and exit the palace of literature with those idols in her heart.
When Ding Ling was confident, fate played a huge joke on her - she fell off the list.
This was a huge blow to Ding Ling, and he couldn't accept that his efforts for so long had been in vain.
Feeling lost and in urgent need of comfort, Ding Ling decided to return to her hometown in Hunan to confide in her mother.
Ding Ling didn't tell anyone that she was going back to her hometown to visit relatives, and she stepped on the southbound train alone.
At the same time, Hu Yepin, who was in Beijing, could not accept Ding Ling's farewell, and he had been looking for Ding Ling's whereabouts.
After many inquiries, Hu Yepin learned that Ding Ling was in a lost mood and returned to his hometown in Hunan.
He took all his belongings and stepped on the train to the south, and he was determined to recover Ding Ling.
A few days after Ding Ling returned home, Hu Yepin rushed to Ding Ling's home.
Hearing a hurried knock on the door, Ding Ling opened the door, and standing in front of him was Hu Yepin, who was dusty.
This young man who came to his hometown in Hunan from Beijing, just to comfort her, was shining in Ding Ling's eyes at this moment, and it was at this time that Ding Ling had a different kind of emotion for Hu Yepin.
Hu also frequently left his work and accompanied Ding Ning to relax in his hometown in Hunan.
In the two months of relaxation, the tenderness and sweetness between the two made Ding Ling temporarily forget her academic failure.
Ding Ling, who adjusted her mood, felt that it was not a way to always escape, and she still had to face her failure, so she returned to Beijing with Hu Yepin.
When he first returned to Beijing, Hu Yepin was still doing his job as a literary editor, while Ding Ling was re-examining for Peking University.
Although the life of the two is not rich, they are also happy and content, and the time they live together also warms the hearts of the two lonely young people.
Hu Yepin is a warm man and gentleman in life, taking care of Ding Ling meticulously and supporting Ding Ling on her literary path.
Perhaps the days were too peaceful, which made Ding Ling feel that the life of the two was a little boring, which also laid the groundwork for Ding Ling's empathy and farewell love later.
Three people live together and love no matter what
Soon, Ding Ling entered Peking University to study as she wished.
During this time at Peking University, she actively absorbed knowledge, worked hard to expand her horizons, and even enrolled in a Japanese class.
It was in this Japanese class that Ding Ling met a man who had been entangled with him for most of his life.
Ding Ling's classmate Feng Xuefeng is a person with a unique view of literature.
When Ding Ling's literary work "The Diary of Ms. Sha Fei" first came out, Feng Xuefeng fully affirmed her talent and put forward some sincere and pertinent suggestions.
Ding Ling felt that the man in front of him and Hu Yepin gave him a completely different feeling, Feng Xuefeng was like a scorching flame, which ignited Ding Ling's empty heart at once.
After realizing her excessive appreciation of Feng Xuefeng, Ding Ling secretly warned herself in her heart: "You can't do this, you are a person with a soul mate."
But Ding Ling's feelings for Hu Xuefeng are like a flame in autumn, and as soon as the breeze blows, it will rekindle.
In order to get herself back on track as soon as possible, Ding Ling had to examine the relationship between herself and Feng Xuefeng, and she asked herself in her heart, is the relationship between only one person and one heart considered love?
This relationship is really as Ding Ling thinks, does Feng Xuefeng have no feelings for her? Is it just Ding Ling's unrequited love?
The answer is no, Feng Xuefeng was deeply attracted by her literary talent in a day with Ding Ling, and felt that Ding Ling was a woman in the new era with maverick thoughts.
Feng Xuefeng began to show favor to Ding Ling, and Ding Ling, who couldn't resist, resisted the condemnation in her heart and responded to Feng Xuefeng's love.
This time must be the most tormenting time in Ding Ling's heart.
She reconciled with Feng Xuefeng during the day, and when she returned home at night, she had to play Hu Yepin's gentle and kind girlfriend.
Feng Xuefeng knew that Ding Ling could not choose between him and Hu Yepin, so he simply left Beijing because of the long pain rather than the short pain.
When Feng Xuefeng really disappeared from Ding Ling's life, Ding Ling realized that this man had a pivotal position in her heart.
There was not a day when she didn't miss Feng Xuefeng, and for this reason, she wrote many letters to Feng Xuefeng.
A simple exchange of letters could no longer relieve the surging thoughts in Ding Ling's heart, and a bold decision sprouted in her heart - to go to Shanghai to find Feng Xuefeng.
As Ding Ling's pillow person, seeing her abnormal behavior during this time, Hu Yepin fell into a tangle in his heart.
Should he let Ding Ling go to Shanghai in search of love, or tie Ding Ling firmly to his side?
Hu Yepin couldn't make a decision, because he knew Ding Ling's personality, and what she decided would not be easily changed.
Now that she has someone else in her heart, how can she easily trap her by her side?
But Hu Yepin really loves Ding Ling so much, even that he loves him to the point of deformity, he decided to let Ding Ling be happy, on the premise that he wants to be a witness.
Hu Yepin and Ding Ling came to Shanghai to look for Feng Xuefeng, and after many inquiries by Shen and the two, Feng Xuefeng had left Shanghai for Hangzhou.
Ding Ling, who was infatuated, was unwilling to give up, and she came to Hangzhou to find Feng Xuefeng.
After finding Feng Xuefeng, Ding Ling couldn't hold back the excitement in her patience, and she couldn't wait to live with Feng Xuefeng.
What is outrageous is that during the period when she and Feng Xuefeng lived together, Hu Yepin also lived with them, and this indecent love of cohabitation made them full of guidance from the world.
Although these three people are open-minded and progressive young people, they still can't stand the criticism of outsiders. The first person to propose to leave was Feng Xuefeng.
Feng Xuefeng told Ding Ling: "Outsiders pointed to the backbone and said that let's have three people living together is not right, you can only choose one person between me and Hu Yepin."
Ding Ling was in a dilemma, she didn't know how to choose.
One is a soul mate who resonates with his soul, and the other is a soul mate who has been with him for many years and has the most sincere and deep love for himself.
In the end, Ding Ling still chose Hu Yepin, who had been with her for many years, and this unruly love, which was criticized by the world, also came to an end.
epilogue
Looking at Ding Ling's view of love from our current perspective, it is deformed and vigorous.
Human life is a long journey, and on this journey, we meet all kinds of people, many of whom have the qualities that make our hearts flutter.
But in the face of heartbeat, we still have to abide by the moral bottom line and create a beautiful love story for a lifetime.
Resources:
CNKI "Walking in the River of Love and Faith" - Song Yujuan