I've seen a particularly reasonable passage:
"When you stop filling the void with words, something important comes to the surface.
Conversation makes people have to constantly turn their brains to safely avoid their emotions, but silence is like emptying the garbage in the head. ”
You will find that the noisy life and restless mind will only live this life as the moon in the water, the flower in the mirror, and the void and superficiality.
People who know how to choose silence are reflecting, cultivating, accumulating, upgrading, and transforming.
In the end, you can have enough ability and confidence to live your life the way you want.
"Caigen Tan" says:
"Those who have been in wait for a long time will fly high; Developer, Xie Duzao. ”
In order to be successful, there must be a process of accumulation behind it.
Suffice it to say, if you make a name for yourself too early, you will only miss out on the necessary opportunities, and in the end, it will be difficult for you to get the rewards you want.
Wise and wise, wise and foolish, constantly accumulating strength, in silence, through the warmth and coldness of human feelings, through the ups and downs, and finally arrive at their own beautiful world.
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Silence is self-cultivation
It has been said that silence is a person's greatest cry.
Indeed, sometimes, the reason why a person has to choose silence is because he has no choice, because he is helpless, and it is also the pressure that cannot support reality.
Therefore, choosing to remain silent, in the eyes of some people, is a kind of cowardice and a manifestation of incompetence.
But in fact, in the face of a sense of powerlessness in many things, we must have the wisdom to let go and look away.
This kind of wisdom is seen through and understood through experience.
Indeed, you have to believe that many things are not something you can change if you want to, and it is not something you can say and don't care.
Too often, choosing to shut up, choosing to be silent, not to care, not to argue, but to make your life calm and happy.
Some people say:
"Talking well, it's never as simple as being able to speak, but knowing when to shut up and putting the part you see through in your stomach."
In a person's life, there will always be too many things and too many people who make them feel helpless and difficult to figure out.
If you can't control yourself, you always preach, you always complain, you always get angry.
Saying so much is not helpful and will only make you angrier, more aggressive, more tired and more miserable.
Getting along with people and being moderately silent is the greatest cultivation.
After all, you are not the other party, and you can't be the other party, so how can you empathize?
I agree with Lin Yutang's words:
"When you're angry, it's better to say less than not to say more."
Therefore, speak well, be silent in moderation, and don't be too aggressive in everything, and don't take things too seriously.
In this way, you can also make yourself a little less injured and less wronged.
And if you think about it, the relationship between people, sometimes it's better to learn to give up than to explain.
And sometimes the more you explain, the more you explain it, for the other party, it is undoubtedly rubbing salt on your own scars.
In the book "Speak Well", there is a sentence that says:
"The wounds of speech are all dark wounds, and if no one wakes up, they will not know until they die."
Smart people know the truth of saying less and listening more in everything, so that they can uphold a pragmatic attitude of being a person and doing things.
In this way, in the necessary silence, clear your thoughts, shape your personality, gain inner peace, and practice alone.
In the end, gain inner freedom, have personality cultivation, achieve character literacy, and truly live this life.
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Silence is wisdom
Life is short, and when facing bad people and bad things, learning to be silent and remaining silent is a person's greatest wisdom.
Because you have to know that entangled with these things is actually a waste of your time and affects your mood.
If you continue to fight, you will only suffer greater losses and greater grievances.
Sometimes, I choose to be silent, not to be more serious, not to be competitive.
In fact, it is to let others go and be kind to yourself.
In life, don't live too reluctantly, and don't live too passively.
Especially in the real moment, if a person is always susceptible to being restrained and distracted by others.
Then, you are prone to all kinds of troubles and troubles.
Therefore, it is better to be silent, quietly listen to the true thoughts in your heart, be down-to-earth, and improve yourself step by step.
In this way, it is truly ready to go, and the last blockbuster is amazing.
The Tao Te Ching says:
"To the extreme, to keep quiet, all things at the same time, I will observe and recover."
Speaking is a profound wisdom and a rare knowledge.
When a person chooses to be silent, it means that he will no longer fight, it means that he is looking down and letting go, and he is letting go.
There is a saying on the Internet:
"Silence is not because there is no emotion, but because there is no point in saying more."
Believe in the power of silence, but also believe in the wisdom of silence.
Many times, when you choose to be a silent person, no longer care, no longer entangled, no longer think too much, and no longer go to internal friction.
Then at this time, your body, mind and spirit are healthy, and you are also full of hope and energy, and even in silence, you already have great energy and strength.
As Huang Tingjian said:
"Ten thousand words are better than one silence."
So, be silent, take out your silence, face the changes in the world, neither humble nor arrogant, not impatient or impatient, and finally really in silence, there is something to be silent, and there is suffering to bear by yourself.
In this way, in the silent years, it will be rejuvenated and reach the other side of success.
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Silence is decent
Yishu Says:
"The most important thing to be a human being is to be decent."
In fact, in many cases, the more you explain, the more silent you become.
This kind of silent aura makes people feel decent.
Be a silent person, whether in the face of criticism, or slander, or in the face of misunderstanding, or resolution.
In this way, in silence, there is no fighting, no grabbing, no arguing, no talking.
This kind of you can look strong anyway.
Lin Yutang once sighed:
"It is better to argue with a voice than to argue with a voice.
It is better to argue with words than to argue without words. ”
One person cannot change another person, just as one person cannot wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep.
No matter what others think, no matter what others say, living in this world, everyone will have grievances and resentments.
But no matter what, silence yourself and let yourself settle down.
Really live in your own world, don't explain, don't care, take out more time and energy, to grow yourself, to transform yourself.
In the end, you will be able to do what Lao Tzu said:
"The husband is the only one who can't fight, so the world can't fight with him."
At this time, you will definitely be more independent, more sober, more silent, and at the same time, stronger and more decent.