Gen-la Hengyu said:
"Life 阅尽秋云厚,世事经多蜀道平。"
In this life, the more things people experience, the more transparent they will be; The greater the difficulties to endure, the more lofty the pattern will be.
It is necessary to believe that a person's character is enough to determine his pattern, and his pattern can determine his fate.
I like Kazuo Inamori very much in "The Way of Living" and says:
"Where does man need to be away from the mortal? Work is the best place to cultivate the spirit.
As long as you work hard every day and cultivate a noble personality, a better life will be within reach. ”
Take out a good character, actively polish yourself, open your horizons, support your own pattern, and finally hold up your own destiny.
It's like taking out a good attitude, cultivating positive emotions, working hard every day, cultivating a noble personality, and slowly you can reap the benefits of your own beautiful life.
01
nature
In many cases, only when a person has a strong character, a positive character, an open-minded character, and an optimistic personality can he keep his bottom line and stick to his own standards in the face of all kinds of bad things and bad people in life.
Many people are easily dissatisfied because of a moment in their lives, because of the temporary wear and tear and influence of the people around them, and then their mentality slides to the brink of collapse.
In the end, no matter what you do, it is easy to be influenced by the people around you, and it is easy to interfere with the process of your important things because of the influence of the outside world, and in the end the gains outweigh the losses, or even achieve nothing.
So the monk said:
"Bear with him, let him, let him, avoid him, bear with him, respect him, ignore him, stay for a few more years, and look at him."
It is precisely because a person is too easily influenced by others, his personality is not firm enough, and even he chooses to avoid problems once he encounters them, so he cannot truly tap his potential and talents, and even cannot achieve so-called satisfying results in related fields.
Therefore, show a tenacious character, change yourself positively, learn to be tolerant, tolerant, optimistic, calm, live well, and don't pay too much attention to others.
In this way, life can go more smoothly.
The famous psychologist Adler once said:
"Under the domination of a positive personality, people can stimulate their inner subconscious and make the most of their work ability."
Only a positive personality can produce positive emotions, and positive emotions will stimulate the subconscious deep inside.
It can even be said that the positive subconscious in a person's heart is able to turn it into energy for action, and then give full play to his work ability.
Writer Bowen said:
"A person who likes to complain has a bitter face and a soulless shell all day long, which will only lead him step by step to despair, but he doesn't know it."
Polishing a good attitude, because this good attitude is the best state for yourself, and the best state of life can make you live more comfortably every day, more calm, more calm, and more happy.
On the contrary, a person who likes to complain has a bitter face all day long, and life is like a soulless shell, which can only make his life more and more boring, more and more tired, and more and more confused and desperate.
02
pattern
In life, those who really have a pattern have always known how to constantly hone themselves, grow and mature themselves in their work.
Therefore, they can come up with a kind of self-improvement belief and willpower to fulfill themselves, and in the face of all kinds of challenges and troubles, they can also get rid of them in time, and they will not be affected and hurt all the time.
I like a line in "Mrs. Meso":
"For those who make things difficult for me, if they have to defeat them for them to relent, then let them continue to make things difficult.
Because when I step on a bigger stage, they are automatically replaced by the applauding audience. ”
A person who really has a pattern will never be stingy or set limits on himself, but knows how to stand in a higher position and look at more people and things.
Then, you can also look at everything from a more comprehensive and three-dimensional perspective, so that the bad people and bad things in life will not affect you to become better.
I especially like a quote from "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel":
"Those who are unreasonable can continue to make things difficult for me.
Ten years later, what I have changed is my own life, and what they have changed is only their own difficult objects. ”
People who really have a pattern, the best way to deal with bad people and bad things is to never be reasonable, but to stay away from it soberly and immediately.
Then, return to the focus of your own life, constantly improve yourself, deepen your experience, refine your wisdom, nourish your soul, and harvest the pattern.
03
命运
A person's character can determine how big his pattern is, and a person's pattern can determine a person's fate.
Many times, we are prone to influence our behavior because of momentary indulgence.
Then, because of a momentary negative behavior, a negative habit will be formed, and this negative habit will affect a person's personality.
Therefore, if a person can always maintain a positive and positive character, it actually means that he can cultivate a more positive habit and let himself have positive behavior.
In the end, this kind of behavior can nourish a positive personality and cultivate a positive personality, so as to create a more positive energy pattern, and rely on the pattern to lay out their own destiny.
Dale Carnegie said:
"Unless someone else asks him to do it, a person who will never take the initiative to do things is doomed to achieve nothing."
In many cases, only by constantly doing, constantly experiencing, and constantly experiencing, can a person truly achieve his dreams through long-term actions.
In the end, once people realize their dreams, they will be confident in the future and more confident in themselves.
Therefore, the tribulations and challenges of history do not mean anything, and the most important thing is how we should create our own opportunities and energy through them.
As Rabindranath Tagore said, it is only after hellish ordeal that one can refine the power to create heaven.
I like what the writer Zhou Guoping said:
"When a person devotes all his mental energy to commenting on the rights and wrongs of small things, he has no strength to care about important things."
I deeply believe that many times, if a person uses his precious time and energy, as well as his mental energy, to put some meaningless and valuable things and people, then he will be entangled and entangled in the rights and wrongs of some particularly small things, and in the end, his fate will be more bumpy and tortuous.
Only by knowing oneself, polishing oneself, improving oneself, and transforming oneself can we finally create a good character, a lofty pattern, and fulfill one's destiny.