1. The more enthusiastic you are, the more disappointed you are
When I first got involved in the world, I maintained a strong curiosity and enthusiasm for things, and I had endless energy all day long, and I found it interesting to see new faces and get in touch with new things.
At that time, enthusiasm was exploration, vitality, and upward vitality.
However, the more time passes, you will find that the once abundant kindness gradually withers, and the once ardent care gradually fades.
Because you find that you are the only one who is enthusiastic, and most of the others show a look of irrelevance, then who will show your enthusiasm to?
They don't think that you are enthusiastic because of the old-fashioned warmth, but they think that you are too much, and it seems out of place in the atmosphere where everyone is alone.
The more you experience the warmth and coldness of human feelings, the more you will find that it is redundant to be enthusiastic about unworthy people.
It's just your self-righteous kindness, and they don't buy it, and they don't even look at it.
You finally come to your senses, unilateral enthusiasm is not exchanged for equal treatment, but is misunderstood, ridiculed as wishful thinking, and the more you hold on to this illusory expectation, the more you give, the more disappointed you become.
Your warm greetings, others do not care, your warm smile, others do not respond, your enthusiastic help, others are not grateful, but accustomed to it, if you refuse, the other party is not adaptable, why do you become indifferent?
See, if enthusiasm is your norm, once one day you are no longer enthusiastic, you will become a target for everyone.
Thousands of times the enthusiasm is instantly forgotten, but, once indifferent, unforgettable.
In this case, instead of decorating interpersonal relationships with enthusiasm, it is better to establish boundaries and rules with indifference and alienation.
You don't have to be on call to help, and you don't have to say a lie, your time and energy are precious and you don't waste it on the people who consume you.
Be enthusiastic about those who matter, be enthusiastic about those who deserve it, be generous to those who know how to be grateful, and for others, it doesn't hurt to release a little more indifference.
2. Excessive enthusiasm is easy to make people defensive
Many times, everyone is used to ignoring and turning a blind eye, if suddenly there is a person who behaves enthusiastically, very positively, very actively, kind-hearted, has a very shallow friendship but does not care, and is willing to stand up and pull out the knife to help.
Then, the beneficiary will only feel that you have bad intentions and that you will have something to offer, and will not feel that you are kind and compassionate.
In their world, they are full of calculations and sinister calculations, and they are accustomed to living the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain.
Such people often do not believe that there are really people in the world who do something purely out of good intentions.
At this time, your enthusiasm turns into courtesy and flattery, and instead of being polite and flattering, they will be extra vigilant, and they will always be anxious, repeatedly imagining whether your helpfulness is at the cost of asking for more than expected returns, and the more they think about it, the heavier their guard, the more they feel that you are trying to do wrong.
Instead of being rewarded and rewarded, your enthusiasm is branded as malicious speculation, don't you think it's not worth it?
Maybe you don't believe it, people will not be surprised by an otherwise cold person, but they will be wary of an overly enthusiastic person.
Because what you pursue is beauty and human touch, and everyone is used to the hot and cold world, and the spiritual world is not similar, how can you collide with the spark of understanding and identity?
Seeing this clearly, you will no longer let enthusiasm and kindness overflow, but respond with politeness and dismissiveness.
3. Take back your enthusiasm and pay more attention to yourself
Instead of releasing unappreciated enthusiasm to others, it is better to take back the energy, pour the enthusiasm into yourself, tap more inner potential, and pay more attention to your own development.
At least, the more you put your heart into yourself, the easier it is to get results.
Put enthusiasm into work, the more focused, the higher the work efficiency, the faster the ability to improve; The more immersed you are, the better the learning effect and the faster you absorb knowledge. Devote your passion to reading, and the more you read and understand it, the more it will be useful to you.
Be passionate about life, you will live a wonderful life, be passionate about your goals, you will achieve something, be passionate about your career, and you will have an ideal income.
In this world, there are too many things worthy of your enthusiasm, but the cold enthusiasm for not being hot is a deep disappointment to yourself.
As one person said: do something and don't live up to your mental state. Don't be too positive, don't be too enthusiastic. I know the scale of enthusiasm I should have.
Indeed, if you have low energy and only a weak enthusiasm for things, please don't waste it and use all your energy to improve yourself;
If you are chivalrous by nature and righteous and thin, then, please control the scale of enthusiasm, be enthusiastic about the enthusiastic person, and stop the loss in time for the person who should not be enthusiastic.
In this way, you will live more and more transparently.