Xu Yajun was born in a military family, and grew up in the army when he was a child, a boy with thick eyebrows and big eyes. He has shown outstanding charm since he was a child, recalling his childhood, there was always a group of little girls chattering around him, which made him quite proud.
However, Xu Yajun is not in the spotlight just because of his outstanding appearance. He was mischievous and talented, and these traits laid the groundwork for his future acting career. Xu Yajun, who was still young, was favored by the CCTV Children's Performance Troupe, although the teachers complained about this disobedient child at first, but his talent was finally recognized.
"At that time, the teachers didn't want me to join the CCTV children's performance troupe," Xu Yajun said with a smile, "and they thought I was too naughty and afraid of causing trouble to the troupe." However, it was his natural talent for acting that led him to successfully enter the troupe, paving the way for his later career as an actor.
"I think I'm really lucky," Xu Yajun lamented when talking about his acting career, "Many actors have to go through twists and turns to make a difference, but I have a relatively smooth one."
However, fate always likes to play tricks on people. Just when Xu Ya's military career was at its peak, love attacked him fiercely. This young but well-known actor will face the biggest test of his life.
When Xu Yajun's career was booming, he met his first love, that is, his first wife. Their fate made them fall in love at first sight and quickly fell in love. Recalling that sweet time, Xu Yajun's eyes still flashed with tenderness: "That feeling is really indescribable, as if the whole world has become different because of her appearance."
However, happy times are always short-lived, and Xu Yajun and his wife did not enjoy the joy of their newlywed marriage for too long, and the bad news suddenly came. Xu Yajun's wife was diagnosed with a serious illness, and the news was like a thunderbolt from the sky, instantly shattering the beautiful hopes of the two.
In the face of his wife's illness, Xu Yajun showed an extraordinary strength and sense of responsibility. He resolutely put down all his work and stayed by his wife's side day and night. "During that time, I didn't think about anything, I just hoped that she would get better," Xu Yajun said with a deep choked voice in his voice, "I am willing to exchange everything for her health."
During that time, Xu Yajun took care of his wife wholeheartedly, his eyes were full of worry, and the smile on his face became less and less, as if he was ten years old, and the brilliance in his eyes was replaced by deep worry.
However, despite all Xu Yajun's efforts, fate still cruelly took his wife away from the world. This blow was a catastrophe for Xu Yajun. His world collapsed in an instant, leaving him with an incurable wound.
"During that time, I felt like the walking dead," Xu recalled, tears glistening in his eyes, "I couldn't accept that she left me like this." "
This experience left a deep shadow on Xu Yajun's heart, and it also made him cherish the people around him more in his future love life. However, the wheels of fate did not stop turning because of this, and new challenges awaited him.
Time flies, and Xu Yajun gradually came out of the pain of losing his wife. While filming a film and television drama, he met his second wife. The two quickly established a relationship and entered the palace of marriage.
However, the marriage seems to be lacking some passion and more like a mutual consolation.
Xu Yajun's personality has obvious macho tendencies. In the process of being pampered and raised from a young age, he tends to be very selfish and rarely considers the feelings of others. "I was a little self-righteous at the time," Xu Yajun later reflected, "I always felt that my ideas were right, and I rarely listened to others' opinions."
This personality trait began to emerge in his second marriage, sowing the seeds for future conflicts.
At this moment, fate played a joke on Xu Yajun again. During a filming process, he met actress He Qing. He Qing is a classical beauty with sweet dimples and a particularly charming smile.
She had outstanding performances in the four famous novels and was one of the high-profile actresses of the time.
When Xu Yajun and He Qing cooperated, they were deeply attracted to her. He said it was a special feeling, as if he had been touched by something. They are a couple in love in the play, and the feelings in and out of the play are intertwined, so that Xu Yajun gradually falls into it.
The plot just touched the pain point in Xu Yajun's heart. The character he played in the play already had his first love, and the two grew up together since childhood, but they still fell in love with the character played by He Qing.
This plot seems to be a true portrayal of his real life.
Although Xu Yajun knew that it was wrong to do this, he still fell hopelessly in love with He Qing. "I knew it would hurt a lot of people, but I couldn't control my feelings," he admits, "and it felt like it was meant to be."
In the end, Xu Yajun chose to confess. He plucked up the courage to admit to his second wife that he had fallen in love with He Qing and hoped to break up peacefully. "I told her that I had completely liked He Qing and didn't love her anymore, and I hoped she would let us go and fulfill us without pestering," Xu Yajun recalled, his tone full of guilt.
When the news came, the second wife seemed to have been struck by lightning, and she was resolutely opposed at first, but Xu Yajun's indifference made her see the essence of this marriage more and more.
With disappointment and heartache, Xu Yajun's second wife finally agreed to the divorce. The end of this marriage heralds the beginning of a new chapter in Xu Yajun's life. However, he did not anticipate that an even greater challenge awaited him.
After the divorce, Xu Yajun and He Qing were finally able to be together in a bright and bright way. Their love story has been rumored to be a good story, and many people envy their good match, calling them "fairy couples".
Xu Yajun recalled that time, saying: "We were really a good match at that time, and many people envied us."
However, the passion in the period of love is always replaced by various contradictions in reality, as said in the sketch "Xi Shi in the Eyes of the Lover": "Love is like an onion, peeled off piece by piece". Xu Yajun and He Qing are both people with extremely strong personalities, and their self-esteem is extremely high.
Xu Yajun admitted: "None of us are willing to back down, and every quarrel is like a war."
Neither of them likes to bow to each other, and they are even more reluctant to compromise or compromise. This similarity in personality has become a major obstacle in their marriage. He Qing is a typical female personality who likes to pay attention to the small details in life, while Xu Yajun is more inclined to look at the big picture.
After getting married, the two soon had a lovely child. It was thought that the birth of a child would strengthen their relationship, but the opposite happened. The responsibility of taking care of the children only exacerbates the conflict between the two.
In their marriage, Xu Yajun showed a strong machismo, he always hoped that everything would develop according to his wishes, and rarely considered He Qing's feelings at all.
"I was very ego," Xu later reflected, "and I always felt like I was in control."
Xu Yajun asserted that his ability could support the whole family, and he didn't even want He Qing to go out to work. "I once said to He Qing that with my own strength, I can completely support her and the child.
"But I ignored her personal needs."
However, He Qing is a woman with a strong ability to think independently. She doesn't want to be limited to the role of a housewife, but pays more attention to the details of life. She hopes that Xu Yajun will pay more attention to her family and be more considerate to her, but Xu Yajun often finds it difficult to do so.
This failed marriage made Xu Yajun fall into a trough again, and it also made him begin to reflect on his own problems. "I began to realize that true love is not only about passion, but also about mutual understanding and respect," he said.
This failed marriage experience was an important turning point in Xu Yajun's life, which made him deeply enlightened in his future love life.
After three failed marriages, Xu Yajun was full of exhaustion and confusion, which made him question whether he was really suitable for marriage and whether he could find someone who could truly understand him.
"I was really confused during that time," Xu recalled, "and I felt like I was going around in circles on relationship issues."
It was at this time that the god of fate favored him again. Xu Yajun met actress Zhang Shu, who also graduated from the Central Academy of Drama. Zhang Shu also has a good development in the entertainment industry, but unlike the women Xu Yajun met before, she has a gentle personality and does not fight or grab.
Zhang Shu's appearance is like projecting a ray of sunshine into Xu Yajun's life. "She's really good at talking, she doesn't fight or grab," Xu Yajun said, "and this kind of personality made me feel good right away."
Zhang Shu understands Xu Yajun's career and can tolerate his little temper, and more importantly, she will not compete with Xu Yajun, but silently supports him.
The process of getting along with Zhang Shu allowed Xu Yajun to gradually abandon the concept of machismo and learn to be considerate of others. He knows that love is not only passionate, but also mutual understanding and support in ordinary life.
Zhang Shu taught him how to love and how to tolerate.
In the end, Xu Yajun and Zhang Shu entered the marriage hall. Their marriage is stable and happy, there is no vigorous love story, but there is also a long-term warmth. The harbor that Xu Yajun has been striving for finally has a home.
"With Zhang Shu, I feel unprecedented peace," Xu Yajun revealed, with a happy light in his eyes, "Our days are light and happy, which I have never experienced before."
Xu Yajun finally realized that true love does not lie in excessive romance, but in supporting each other and growing together in daily life. This marriage has become the most stable and happiest relationship in Xu Yajun's life.
Looking back on Xu Yajun's emotional experience, we can see his growth process in love. From the initial youth and ignorance to the later mature atmosphere, Xu Yajun can be said to have survived the winds and waves in his life.
This extraordinary experience has undoubtedly taught us a vivid lesson about love and made us deeply understand the true meaning of love.
Xu Yajun's teenage love process had a profound impact on him, although that relationship ended in a flawed fit because of his youth. "That relationship made me deeply aware of the fragility of life and the weight it can't bear," he said.
Therefore, I cherish the people and things around me even more."
Xu Yajun and He Qing's marriage made him deeply feel that true love requires tolerance and understanding from both parties, and more importantly, it needs to think about each other. "Both of us were too strong," he recalled, "and we didn't learn to give in to each other."
At the same time, Xu Yajun's story also reminds us that finding a suitable partner requires not only fate, but also self-growth. Only when we truly know ourselves and learn to respect others can we meet the person who is truly right for us.
Just like Xu Yajun finally met Zhang Shu, he said: "Meeting Zhang Shu made me understand what true mutual understanding and support are."