Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
A sincere love, like building a house, requires enough patience and resilience on the part of the operator. Brick by brick, lay the foundation.
A man really loves you and will not stop solving all kinds of problems that arise in the business.
will not let the marriage of two people leave a little hidden danger. He will work hard to ensure the safety of your relationship and strive to create a future that belongs to you.
The man you love, how long will you love you, look at one detail: problem-solving skills.
02. If you love and stay together, you will encounter all kinds of problems
A cousin of mine, who was chatting with me not long ago, said:
After getting married, I realized that marriage is really not that simple.
My husband and I often quarrel over small things. After a long time, the marriage entered a burnout period, and he and I became speechless.
I am anxious about my children's studies, and I am worried and worried about the health of the elderly.
But he often felt that I was thinking too much, not sharing, and not working hard. The burden of my family weighs on me, and I feel so tired.
Whenever we quarrel over some minor issue, I can't help but want to get a divorce.
Managing feelings is actually a process of solving various problems.
Sigmund Freud said, "Life is like a game of chess, and it is sad that one mistake leads to a loss; And life is not as good as playing chess, it is impossible to play another game, and you can't regret chess. ”
If the man does not actively solve the problem in the marriage, the woman will feel that she has no support in the marriage and feels that she is carrying a weight forward.
The family has no money, he doesn't work hard, and lets his wife face it alone; The children in the family are rebellious, he doesn't care, and lets the woman take care of it alone.
Men who do not actively solve family problems will eventually exhaust the feelings between husband and wife.
03. A man who doesn't solve the problem doesn't actually care much about you
A man doesn't solve problems in his marriage, not just because he's immature or lazy. Rather, he doesn't care much about you at all.
Robert · Stanton said, "The solution to the problem is not about the size of the problem itself, but about the attitude you face the problem." ”
The man who loves you will actively solve the problems between each other. He worries that some problems will accumulate and cause the two to no longer be close.
When something goes wrong, he will communicate with you and communicate with you. He cares about your thoughts and feelings, and will draw up several solutions to the problem for your reference.
If he loves you, he will face up to these problems and actively find ways to solve the problems between you.
If a man doesn't love you, no matter what problems he encounters, subconsciously protect himself first and dissociate himself from you.
He doesn't want to take any responsibility, he doesn't want to face problems with you. Habitually getting by, piling up all the contradictions and problems together.
Men who are unwilling to solve problems are not so concerned about the relationship between you.
04. The more you love your man, the more he will deal with problems in a timely manner
Gao Xun in "Please Advise for the Rest of Your Life" often deliberately shows a very intimate posture with Gu Wei.
And, the person Gu Wei loves is Lin Zhixiao, as long as he has the opportunity, he will explain to her, saying that he is not in love, and he and Gao Xun are colleagues now, and they will only have a colleague relationship in the future.
Once, Gu Wei saw Lin Zhixiao being bullied by colleagues in the hospital, and he immediately protected her, saying: Lin Zhixiao is the person he likes, stop joking and making his girlfriend sad.
Gu Wei loves her, so he will deal with the problem in time and not let Lin Zhixiao misunderstand him.
When two people are together, they will be because of differences in life, because of different concepts, and because of other factors, which will lead to constant conflicts.
However, a man who truly loves you and cares about you will deal with the problems between you in a timely manner.
He will not let the problems and misunderstandings between you stay overnight, will not allow the contradictions to magnify, and will not let others hurt you.
He couldn't just let it go and turn a blind eye. He will actively solve your problems and repair your relationship.
A man loves you, he knows how to take precautions and fix every hole in the relationship. Because, he is afraid that the relationship will be ruined, and he is afraid that one day he will lose you.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Whether a man loves you or not, in fact, depends on one place: his ability to deal with problems.
Men love you, no matter how difficult it is, they will try to solve problems, reduce conflicts between each other, and eliminate differences.
He will respect your ideas and meet your needs as much as possible. Be very serious about everything you do, take care of your emotions, and don't act like you don't care.
loves you, afraid that you will be sad and leave him, so he will patiently deal with those complicated and trivial things between you.
Because I love you, I want to go further into the future with you.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.