Text: Ying's mother
I raised you, and you raised me old!
But many parents worked hard to raise their children, but they raised a white-eyed wolf.
Ying's mother has a friend who works in the court, he said that their court will encounter such a situation from time to time, some old people help their children take grandchildren when they can still move, and give their children money to buy a house, but they are old, have no money to provide for the elderly, no money to go to the doctor, no ability to work, those young and strong children are hiding far away, this is a proper white-eyed wolf.
When a child is young, he is like a plant, he needs his parents to water him, he needs his parents to give him sunshine, and he needs his parents to guide him slowly.
If the child has five characteristics, parents must correct them in time, otherwise it is easy to become a white-eyed wolf when they grow up
The first feature: young master disease or princess disease
I don't do anything at home, Mom, where are my shoes? Mom, where are my clothes? Mom brings me a bowl of rice, Mom, I'm going to play. In short, the housework is not touched at all, and even the oil bottle is not picked up when it falls on the ground.
is already a teenager, and he can't even cook, if his parents don't have time, this child will nibble on a biscuit or eat instant noodles at home, and he won't want to cook a meal or cook noodles, these are all proper young master diseases and princess diseases.
When these children grow up, it is very likely that they will continue to enslave their parents, "Mom, I have to go to work now, I don't have time to cook, you come to help me cook, you come to help me take care of the children".
When his parents are old and can't move, he will tell his parents: I have no time to work, otherwise I can hire a nurse, and the money for the nurse must be paid by the old man himself......
The second feature: the pot throwing class
Once a child makes a mistake, he learns to shake the pot.
For example, if a child accidentally breaks a bowl or breaks something in the house, the mother asks who broke it, and the child will talk about him left and right, and will say that it is none of my business that he is rotten, and he is constantly shirking responsibility anyway.
At this time, if the elderly in the family have children, for example, grandma may say: Oh, he is just a child and he is broken, why do you ask him so much? My grandson is very well-behaved, and he must have said that he didn't get it, and he definitely didn't get it.
This will make the child lawless, feel that he is not afraid of doing something wrong, anyway, there are people in front of him, these children will become children who will not make mistakes, and it is others who make mistakes, and when he grows up, it is easy to throw the responsibility of taking care of his parents to other brothers and sisters.
The third characteristic: the type of rigidity with parents
Many children reach adolescence, they like to work against their parents when they grow up, at this time parents must learn the correct guidance, if parents can't learn the correct guidance, and adolescent children are also against it, then the home is really like a battlefield, noisy every day, these children are also difficult to get along with their parents.
When the relationship between parents and children is not good, when the parents are old, the child is very likely to become a white-eyed wolf, after all, what he remembers is that his parents are not good to him.
The 4th feature: the bandit type
It is normal for a child to want something when he sees something at the age of two, because the child does not have a sense of property rights at this time, he does not know that this thing is someone else's and cannot be robbed, and at this time parents must also learn to guide.
For example, if you want other people's things, you have to exchange your own things, and let the children have a sense of property rights, your things are yours, other people's things are someone else's, you can't rob other people's things, and your things can not be given to others.
But if at this time parents tell their children to grab what you want, and you can't grab it for your parents to help you grab it, it will make the child form a strong consciousness, always feel that he wants to get everything, and forcibly occupy other people's things, such children will also become little overlords when they grow up.
Xiaobawang is selfish, as long as he wants to get it, he will even rob his parents' pension, his parents' house, and his parents' car.
The fifth characteristic: I like to compare
Many children begin to learn to compare after entering the upper grades of primary school or junior high school, and their classmates have brand-name watches and brand-name shoes, so I also want to buy them.
And the same scholar may be in business, with a monthly income of 100,000 yuan, and your parents only have a salary of 3,000 yuan per month. And if the parents don't buy it, the child will cry and roll around, and if you don't buy it for me, I won't go to school, and I'm very shameless.
At this time, if the parents meet the needs of their children regardless of their own family conditions, they will raise the child's appetite, and the child will feel that as long as I want it, I will get it, so when the child grows up, if he wants a house and luxury goods, he may also go to his parents to ask for a pension to buy, which is a proper white-eyed wolf.
The reason for chasing it is that when we educate our children, we must have certain principles, educate children gently and firmly, and never compromise in the face of principles, so that children can understand what to do and what not to do, so as to avoid raising white-eyed wolves in the future.
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