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Mencius's Insensitive Power: Is It Innate or Acquired?
In a recent talk show, Mencius talked about his experience of being hurt by friends many times because of "unclear words". She mentioned that every time this happens, she chooses to suffer silently, and even makes excuses for the other party.
This behavior sparked heated discussions among netizens. Some netizens ridiculed: "Ziyi, is this going to win the 'endurance' world record?" Another part of netizens said: "In fact, we often do this in our lives, and we dare not say anything unpleasant." Through these discussions, it can be seen that Mencius's experience has resonated with many people.
Many people feel that if there is a problem between friends, they should speak up directly and not hold it in their hearts. However, Mencius chose a different way, she didn't like to pick things up. This approach made her seem a little "blunt", as if she didn't care much about what others said and did. But in fact, Mencius just chose a more restrained and gentle way of dealing with it.
She believes that if things are singled out, they can ruin their relationship. So, she would rather suffer in silence than destroy the semblance of peace. Whether this practice is good or bad has sparked heated discussions among many netizens.
Pick out the knowledge of what you say: Is it really that easy?
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In the show, Meng Ziyi also mentioned that she is now gradually realizing that many things should actually be singled out. Not only is this a way to liberate one's heart, but it's also a healthier way to socialize. "There are some things that you really have to pick and talk about, otherwise you never know where the other person's bottom line is," she said. This courage to change attitudes has been appreciated by many netizens. Some netizens commented: "It's really hard to say it, but it's even more uncomfortable not to say it." ”
However, some netizens expressed doubts about this: "Some things are made clear, and friends don't have to do it." "It's a real question. In social interactions, many people are afraid to express their dissatisfaction directly, fearing that they will lose friends. But from Mencius's experience, we can see that if we don't find out the problem, it will allow the problem to accumulate, which will eventually lead to greater misunderstanding and harm. Netizens left messages one after another: "Instead of holding back, it's better to just say it, true friends won't turn their faces because of a word." ”
Internal Friction: The Invisible Killer in Friendship
Mencius also mentioned that in the past, she often felt internal friction because of some things. This internal friction stems from the fact that she always thinks about others, but she is uncomfortable. She said: "Every time I am hurt, I help others to come up with excuses and reasons to digest bad emotions myself. This emotional way of dealing with internal friction made her tired and made many netizens feel the same way. Some netizens quipped: "Ziyi, this is the Oscar of 'inner drama'!" ”
Internal friction is actually an invisible killer in the friendship relationship. Because many people are unwilling to face up to the problem, they always choose to endure and suppress their feelings, which is not only bad for themselves, but also has a negative impact on their friendship. Mencius's experience reminds us that healthy friendships need to be based on honesty and communication.
If you always keep the problem in your heart, if you continue to do it for a long time, your relationship will only become more and more fragile. Netizens also said in the discussion: "If you have something to say, everyone is better." "Internal friction is really a harm to yourself, it's not worth it!" ”
Say goodbye: the first step to say goodbye to internal friction
Mencius concludes by mentioning that she learned how to say goodbye. She believes that instead of continuing to let herself be consumed, it is better to say goodbye to people or things that make her feel miserable in time. This point of view resonated with netizens, and some people ridiculed: "Is Ziyi practicing 'breaking away'?" In fact, learning to say goodbye is a topic that many people need to face.
In social relationships, sometimes we have to deal with people or things that make us uncomfortable. If you don't stop your losses in time, this discomfort will only worsen over time. Mencius chose to take the initiative to say goodbye, and this courage and wisdom were admired by many people.
Netizens left messages: "Saying goodbye is actually a kind of self-protection. "Sometimes, not being willing to say goodbye can hurt you even more. This discussion shows that everyone agrees with Mencius's views, and it also reflects the importance that modern people attach to self-preservation.
The dilemma of picking and not saying clearly
Mencius's experience and her views have sparked widespread discussion on the Internet. Some netizens support her approach, believing that honesty is the most important thing in a friend relationship. Another part of netizens believes that it may lead to the breakdown of the relationship, so it is better to maintain a certain amount of ambiguity. This topic has caused everyone to think deeply: in the relationship between friends, how should we balance the relationship between picking and not talking?
Some people believe that it is a sign of sincerity to show respect for a friend. Others, on the other hand, believe that not being picky is a way to protect themselves and avoid unnecessary conflicts. Mencius's choice undoubtedly gives us an opportunity to reflect: how should we deal with problems in friendships? This is perhaps a question that has no standard answer, and everyone has their own way of dealing with it and their bottom line. And in this process, it's important to find a way to be comfortable with yourself and not hurt others.