Please use your golden finger to make a fortune, like and take a walk, get rich forever, pay attention to the like, it is difficult to get rich if you don't want to
In 2009, a high-profile speech caused an uproar in China's literary and artistic circles. There is an elegant and calm woman standing on the stage, she is Ding Jiali, who has won many actress laurels.
Facing more than 2,000 viewers and media reporters in the audience, Ding Jiali slowly spoke, her voice trembling slightly: "I am not flawless, I have made mistakes that I am ashamed of.
This sentence was like a bombshell, instantly detonating the audience. People can't help but wonder what kind of unknown past does this actor with both virtue and art have? Why did she choose to make all this privacy public at this moment? How did these experiences affect her? A story of growth, mistakes, and redemption begins.
In 1959 in Jiamusi City, Heilongjiang Province, an ill-fated baby girl was born, she was Ding Jiali. However, life did not give this little life a warm start.
Due to skin diseases and family financial difficulties, the young Ding Jiali was given to others to raise by her biological parents. Although this decision was made out of helplessness, it planted a seed of doubt in Ding Jiali's young heart.
Fortunately, Ding Jiali met a pair of kind adoptive parents. They are all drama actors, and their homes are full of a strong artistic atmosphere. Growing up in such an environment, Ding Jiali naturally received high-quality artistic influence.
As a child, she often accompanied her adoptive parents to the theater to see performances or accompany her grandmother to the theater. These experiences laid a solid foundation for her future acting career.
However, even living in a loving family, Ding Jiali always has a wound in her heart that is difficult to heal: "Why did my biological parents abandon me? This question was like a thorn in her young heart.
Although her adoptive parents never hid her background, and Ding Jiali was deeply grateful for their nurturing grace, the feeling of abandonment always haunted her and became an insurmountable gap on her growth path.
Perhaps it is this long-term confusion and hidden pain that has subtly changed Ding Jiali's view of love and life. In 1980, with her outstanding acting talent, Ding Jiali was successfully admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy.
However, this was not only the starting point for her to pursue her dreams, but also the beginning of her "absurd" career.
At school, Ding Jiali was influenced by some bad habits and began to pursue the so-called "freedom". For her, who is in her teens, "freedom" seems to equate with love and indulgence.
Under the leadership of her roommate, Ding Jiali was exposed to some pornographic videos and gradually became addicted to them. She began to yearn to explore this unknown world, as if to fill the emptiness in her heart in this way.
This misunderstanding and pursuit of "freedom" eventually led to the first major setback in Ding Jiali's life. In a brief romance, she makes more intimate requests.
Although the boyfriend was hesitant at first, he finally agreed. However, there were unforeseen circumstances, and Ding Jiali became pregnant unexpectedly. Faced with this sudden change, her boyfriend chose to escape, leaving Ding Jiali alone to face the predicament.
Under the huge psychological pressure and practical predicament, Ding Jiali had to have an abortion in a small clinic. This experience caused her great physical and mental trauma, and also gave her her the first taste of the bitter consequences of irresponsible behavior.
However, this lesson did not fully wake up the young Ding Jiali, but instead became the beginning of more wrong decisions for her in the future.
After entering society, Ding Jiali's love life has not become mature and stable because of age. Instead, she seems to be caught in one emotional whirlpool after another.
In 1986, Ding Jiali and Hu Guangchuan, who was also a drama actor, entered the marriage hall. Both are actors at the National Theatre and share common interests and topics, which should have been a happy marriage.
However, this marriage did not bring Ding Jiali the stability and satisfaction she expected.
When Hu Guangchuan often went out to perform due to his busy work, Ding Jiali, who was alone at home, fell into the whirlpool of desire again. She re-read the "videotapes", and one of them, about a lonely wife and a neighbor, sparked her impulse.
What is shocking is that Ding Jiali actually put this impulse into practice and brought a strange man back to her home.
When his adoptive father found out about this, he angrily asked Ding Jiali: "How can you do such an act! Where do you place Hirokawa? However, Ding Jiali seemed unusually calm, and even replied indifferently: "Ah! In this day and age, don't you tell him that it's not okay? This attitude not only shows her irresponsibility for her marriage, but also reflects her inner loss and confusion.
The result of this affair was that Ding Jiali became unexpectedly pregnant again. When she approached the mysterious man and asked for a solution, he replied indifferently, "I don't care who this child is."
Faced with such a cruel reality, Ding Jiali once again chose to have an abortion. This experience brought her even more physical and mental trauma, and also made her taste the bitter fruits of irresponsible behavior again.
However, fate seems to have played a cruel joke on Ding Jiali. Just when she gave birth to her daughter Ding Ding with Hu Guangchuan and was determined to start a new life, Hu Guangchuan filed for divorce.
"Let's get a divorce, I'm already with a woman older than you." Hu Guangchuan's voice on the other end of the phone was cold and resolute, "Don't think I don't know what you have done, I just want you to taste this kind of pain too."
The breakdown of this marriage dealt a huge blow to Ding Jiali. Perhaps in order to escape the past, or perhaps because she thought that she could not give her daughter happiness, Ding Jiali made an incomprehensible decision - to hand over her newborn daughter Ding Ding to her ex-husband to raise.
This decision not only affected Ding Ding's growth, but also became Ding Jiali's biggest regret and guilt in the future.
In 1990, Ding Jiali entered the marriage hall again, married a teacher, and gave birth to a son, Guoguo. People thought she had finally found her place in life, but the marriage didn't last long.
Ironically, it was not Ding Jiali who cheated this time, but her husband. After experiencing the pain of betrayal, Ding Jiali chose to divorce. This time she decided to keep her son by her side, which seemed to be a kind of amending for the past.
Two failed marriages made Ding Jiali deeply suspicious of love and marriage. She began to devote all her energy to her acting career, trying to find self-worth in the success of her career.
However, the emptiness of the heart and the desire for love did not disappear from it. At the peak of her career, forty-year-old Ding Jiali met actor Sun Honglei, who was 11 years younger than herself.
The two became acquainted with each other because of their collaboration on the drama "Marie Curie", and then fell into a vigorous relationship.
Although the outside world has a lot of complaints about this relationship with a large age gap, Ding Jiali seems to have found the happiness that she has not seen for a long time. However, this relationship still failed to come to fruition in the end.
Regarding the reason for their breakup, there are different opinions in the outside world, some people think that it is caused by the age gap, and some people speculate that Ding Jiali's past experience has affected Sun Honglei.
In any case, the end of this relationship once again cast a shadow on Ding Jiali's heart.
Despite the twists and turns in her love life, Ding Jiali has made brilliant achievements in her acting career. At the age of forty, she has already won the honor of "Grand Slam" actress, and the number of awards is dizzying.
Her acting skills have been unanimously recognized by the industry and the audience, and she has become a leader in the Chinese film and television industry.
However, just when her career was at the peak, Ding Jiali ignored the most important family relationship. In the 15 years since she handed over her daughter Tintin to her ex-husband's custody, she has only visited her daughter twice.
This alienation not only reflects Ding Jiali's escape from her role as a mother, but also exposes her deep selfishness and uneasiness.
The first visit took place during Tintin's teenage years. At that time, Tintin was living in his uncle's house, and life was not satisfactory. Heart-wrenchingly, during this visit, Ding Jiali witnessed her uncle slap Ding Ding in front of her, but chose to remain silent.
This silence not only did not protect the daughter, but deepened the estrangement between the mother and daughter.
Tintin, who was already grown up at the time of the second visit, begged his mother to take him home. Faced with her daughter's request, Ding Jiali chose to escape again and left resolutely.
This decision undoubtedly dealt another heavy blow to Ding Ding's young heart, and also brought the mother-daughter relationship to a freezing point.
This alienation lasted for years, and it was only in 2018 that there was a turnaround. On the stage of the popular variety show "I Am an Actor", Ding Ding tearfully poured out his bitter journey over the years.
She asked her mother, "Why did you give birth to me and then abandon me?" This sentence not only expresses the pain in Ding Ding's heart, but also hits Ding Jiali's heart.
Faced with her daughter's complaint, Ding Jiali finally realized her dereliction of duty as a mother. The grievances and pains accumulated over the years poured out like a flood that burst the embankment. With tears streaming down her eyes, she admitted: "I am not a good mother, I owe too much to my daughter too selfishly."
At this moment, Ding Jiali finally understood that her absurd behavior not only hurt herself, but also hurt her innocent daughter. She said frankly: "I am not a qualified woman, and my impulsiveness and rashness in the past have made my daughter the biggest victim."
If I were to go back in time, I would not have chosen to divorce easily.
This public outpouring of emotions not only touched everyone present, but also became a turning point in the repair of the relationship between Ding Jiali and Ding Ding. Ding Jiali finally realized that no matter how brilliant her career achievements are, she can't make up for the lack of family affection.
She is determined to make amends for her past mistakes and rebuild her relationship with her daughter.
Since then, Ding Jiali has worked hard to play the role of a good mother. She not only gives her daughter more care in life, but also guides and supports her daughter in her career.
Although this kind of effort came a little late, it finally did not miss the last chance to save family affection. Mother and daughter embark on a difficult but hopeful path to reconciliation, opening up new possibilities for a once broken relationship.
After realizing her mistake, Ding Jiali began to go all out to repair her relationship with her daughter. She no longer sees her career as the whole of her life, but strives to find a balance between career and family.
This change is not only reflected in the love for their daughters in their lives, but also extends to their professional careers.
In order to support Ding Ding's entry into the showbiz, Ding Jiali put down her figure as a movie queen and participated in the TV series "Old Chinese Medicine" with her daughter. During the filming process, Ding Jiali spared no effort to impart her acting experience accumulated over the years and patiently guided Ding Ding's acting skills.
This kind of relationship between teachers and friends has made the relationship between the mother and daughter heat up rapidly, and the interaction between them is more like a good sister with a common heart.
With the support and encouragement of his mother, Tintin's acting career has gradually improved. Just last month, the movie "Must Get Your Hand" starring Ding Ding finally hit the big screen.
This work not only marks an important milestone in Tintin's acting career, but also allows the audience to see the acting talent she inherited from her mother.
Although Ding Jiali herself is over 64 years old, she is still active in the film and television industry with her profound acting skills. This year, she starred in the TV series "Ordinary Road" once again showed the charm of her acting skills, and won enthusiastic responses and unanimous praise from the audience.
This work is not only another monument to Ding Jiali's acting career, but also symbolizes a new starting point in her life.
Under the dual nourishment of career and family affection, Ding Jiali seems to have a new brilliance. Her story teaches us that even if you make mistakes, if you face them, you will always have a chance to start over.
Looking back, Ding Jiali in her youth suffered deep damage to her family due to her impulsive and irresponsible behavior, which led to the breakdown of her family and her loved ones. However, she did not choose to escape or sink, but bravely faced the reality and tried to make up for her past mistakes.
Today's Ding Jiali is still brilliant in her career, and she is even more fruitful in family affection. Her relationship with her daughter Ding Ding is getting closer and closer, like a pair of good sisters who talk about everything.
This hard-won family affection has become the most precious gift in her life.
Life seems to be rewarding Ding Jiali's courage and hard work in the best way. In the second half of her life, she re-bloomed with dazzling light, not only continued to shine in her acting career, but also found true happiness and satisfaction in family and life.
Ding Jiali's story tells us that as long as we have the courage to face the past, we will always have the opportunity to start a new chapter in our lives.
This article aims to advocate positive social energy, no vulgarity and other bad guidance, if it involves copyright or character infringement issues, please contact us in time