First, Ding Jiali was born in an ordinary family in Jiamusi City, Heilongjiang. Fate didn't seem to be very kind to her from the start.
When she was just born, she was weak, and coupled with the deep-rooted patriarchal concept of that era, Ding Jiali was ruthlessly abandoned by her biological parents in infancy.
Just when this fragile baby is about to lose hope of survival, a couple who are unable to have children appears. They took Ding Jiali home as if it were their own. The adoptive parents are both engaged in literary and artistic work, and the home is full of artistic atmosphere.
Under the influence of such an environment, Ding Jiali has shown extraordinary artistic talent since she was a child. She is not only good at singing and dancing, but also reveals a beautiful temperament in her manners.
Such an outstanding Ding Jiali soon became the school flower in junior high school, attracting the attention of many boys. However, in the face of the pursuit of these adolescent boys, Ding Jiali's heart has already quietly fallen on a special person.
It was a sunny and handsome sports student, with a tall figure and a hearty smile that always made Ding Jiali's heart beat faster. It's a pity that the young age and the school's strict ban on early love make this relationship only stay in secret eye contact.
In the past three years, Ding Jiali and the boy can only express each other's hearts by eyebrows. After entering high school, Ding Jiali originally planned to muster up the courage to confess to the boy she liked.
Fate played a joke on her again. The two were placed in different classes, and the opportunities to see each other became less and less common. Every time, I finally mustered up the courage, but I gave up timidly the moment I saw the boy.
In this way, the confession was delayed again and again. It wasn't until the eve of the college entrance examination that Ding Jiali finally made up her mind to confess to the boy immediately after the exam. However, a sudden downpour of rain extinguishes her plans.
When she plucked up the courage to knock on the boy's door the next day, she was told that the boy had moved. Ding Jiali inquired in many ways, but never found the whereabouts of the boy.
This first love, which ended before it began, left deep regrets in her heart and laid the groundwork for her future emotional path. With excellent results, Ding Jiali was admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy as she wished.
With a vision for the future and a love for art, she stepped into this institution of higher learning with great anticipation. However, fate always seems to like to joke with her, and Ding Jiali experienced a relationship that hurt her heart-wrenching during her college years.
Soon after entering college, Ding Jiali met a boy who could speak well. Perhaps because of regret for the unsuccessful relationship in high school, Ding Jiali was soon moved by the boy's sweet words and fell in love unsuspectingly.
She thought she had finally found true love, but she never thought that this relationship would cause her so much damage. In the days of love, Ding Jiali suddenly found out that she was pregnant.
For a girl who has just stepped onto a college campus, getting pregnant out of wedlock is undoubtedly a heavy blow. She told her boyfriend nervously, hoping to face this dilemma together.
Second, her boyfriend's reaction made her fall into an ice cave - he even denied that he was the father of the child. This sudden change plunged Ding Jiali into great panic and despair.
She was afraid to tell her parents and friends for fear of bringing shame to her family and worrying about affecting her studies and future. Under great pressure and loneliness, Ding Jiali had to go to a small clinic alone.
In that small and humble clinic, Ding Jiali endured the bad words of the surgeon and completed the first abortion operation in her life alone. Lying on the cold operating table, she felt not only physical pain, but also psychological trauma.
This experience left a deep psychological shadow on Ding Jiali, and it also made her have a great distrust of her relationship. After this blow, Ding Jiali decided to devote all her energy to studying.
She worked hard to improve her acting skills and showed excellent performance in class. Although this painful experience took her a break, it also made her stronger and more focused on her career.
In this way, in the following college years, Ding Jiali devoted herself to the study of performing arts. Her efforts were not in vain, and her acting skills have been significantly improved, laying a solid foundation for her future development in the entertainment industry.
After graduating from university, Ding Jiali gradually gained a firm foothold in the entertainment industry with her excellent acting skills and unremitting efforts. During a work, she was introduced to Hu Guangchuan.
The two are of similar age and have similar interests, and they soon developed a good impression. Compared with the previous emotional trauma, Hu Guangchuan's maturity and stability gave Ding Jiali a sense of security, and the two quickly fell in love.
Third, the good times don't last long. During the love period, Ding Jiali found out that she was pregnant again. At this time, both of them were on the rise in their careers, and getting married and having children immediately was not the best choice for them.
After some difficult consideration, the two finally made a painful decision - to have another abortion. This is the second time that Ding Jiali has experienced such pain, and her heart is full of guilt and self-blame.
Fortunately, Hu Guangchuan did not leave Ding Jiali because of this. After their careers stabilized, the two finally entered the palace of marriage. Ding Jiali thought that she had finally found a home in life, but her married life was not as good as she imagined.
The busyness of work made the two get together less and leave more, and the relationship gradually faded. Ding Jiali began to feel lonely and uneasy. In a moment of weakness, Ding Jiali became entangled with a married man.
This indecent love brought her a short-term stimulus, but it also planted the fuse of the breakdown of the marriage. When Hu Guangchuan found out about his wife's infidelity, his anger and sense of betrayal made him immediately file for divorce.
Although Ding Jiali was pregnant at this time, the relationship between the two was irretrievable. For the sake of the child, they barely maintained a superficial calm, and waited until the child was born before officially going through the divorce procedures.
After the divorce, Ding Jiali raised her daughter alone, while Hu Guangchuan chose to start a new family. Time passed, and the pain gradually subsided. At a cultural event, Ding Jiali met a university lecturer.
The two hit it off at first sight and soon established a romantic relationship. The lecturer's knowledge made Ding Jiali feel warm and reassured, and she thought that she had finally found a harbor to rely on.
Soon after, the two tied the knot and soon welcomed a lovely son. Ding Jiali thought she had finally found true love, but the nightmare struck again. Shortly after the birth of her son, she was surprised to find out that her husband had cheated on him.
This blow was tantamount to a bolt from the blue for Ding Jiali. She couldn't understand why her husband would choose to betray when he had a happy family. The disheartened Ding Jiali chose to divorce again and ended her second marriage.
The failure of her two marriages brought a huge blow to Ding Jiali, and it also made her begin to reflect deeply on her life choices. She begins to realize that in her pursuit of love and career, she seems to have neglected her responsibilities as a mother.
This realization made Ding Jiali feel guilty, and it also became the motivation for her to change later. In the ups and downs of her career and feelings, Ding Jiali ushered in a new turning point.
While filming the TV series "Marie Curie", she met the young actor Sun Honglei. Although the two are partners in the play, there is a big gap between their identities in reality.
Fourth, Ding Jiali was already a big star who had won many awards at that time, and Sun Honglei was just a little-known actor. However, such an identity gap did not prevent Ding Jiali from having a good impression of Sun Honglei.
She was attracted to the young man's talent and charisma, and soon developed strong feelings for him. Perhaps because of the setbacks of her past relationships, Ding Jiali decided to take the initiative this time and no longer miss the person she liked like she did when she was young.
Ding Jiali desperately wanted to help Sun Honglei, and used her fame and connections to introduce him to a lot of resources, hoping to help him gain a firm foothold in the entertainment industry.
Her behavior is not only out of appreciation for Sun Honglei, but also in the hope of narrowing the gap between the two. However, the reality is always cruel. Maybe it's because of the age gap, maybe it's because Ding Jiali has had two failed marriages, and the relationship between the two has never been able to go further.
Despite Ding Jiali's efforts, they still failed to get together in the end. The end of this relationship made Ding Jiali fall into a trough again. She began to reflect on her life and realized the various wrong choices she had made emotionally over the years.
She can't help but wonder if she really understands what love is and whether she is capable of managing a long-term relationship. This unsuccessful relationship became an important turning point in Ding Jiali's emotional life.
It made her look inside her heart and think about what she really needed. At the same time, she also began to realize that in the process of pursuing love, she neglected her responsibilities as a mother.
Ding Jiali began to understand that perhaps true happiness does not lie in constantly looking for new feelings, but in learning to cherish the people around you, especially your children. This kind of cognition laid the groundwork for her later awakening and change.
As she grew older, Ding Jiali began to deeply feel her indebtedness to her children. Looking back, she realizes that she has been pursuing her career and love life at the expense of her children's growth.
This perception is like a hammer that shatters Ding Jiali's self-paralysis for many years. She recalls her daughter, who spent most of her time in foster care at her uncle's house after her divorce from Hu Guangchuan.
For more than ten years, Ding Jiali and her daughter have only met a handful of times. Every time they meet, the strangeness and alienation in her daughter's eyes make her heart like a knife. And her son, because of the lack of father's and mother's love since he was a child, has become a submissive personality and lacks self-confidence.
These are the direct consequences of her past neglect of motherhood. A deep sense of guilt drove Ding Jiali to resolve to change the situation. She first brought her daughter, who had been in foster care with relatives for a long time, back home and began to work hard to make up for the lost time.
Although it was not easy to get along at first, Ding Jiali did not give up, she patiently communicated with her daughter, and worked hard to repair the mother-daughter relationship that had been estranged for many years. In 2009, Ding Jiali made a surprising decision.
She convened a public forum, and in front of everyone, she did not shy away from denouncing her absurd behavior over the years, including her experiences with divorce and abortion. "I know it's a shame, but I still have to say that I've been divorced, I've had an abortion," she said. This kind of honesty and courage shocked everyone present. Ding Jiali used her own experience as a warning, hoping to give young people some inspiration. She told everyone not to repeat her mistakes and to cherish the people around you, especially her family.
This public confession is not only Ding Jiali's summary of her past, but also a declaration of her starting anew. Since then, Ding Jiali has begun to devote herself wholeheartedly to the role of mother.
She tries to spend time with the children, helping them build self-confidence and make up for their past shortcomings. Although the process was not easy, Ding Jiali persevered. She deeply felt that true happiness is actually around her, in the bits and pieces of getting along with her children.
Today's Ding Jiali, although she is getting older, she has not given up her acting career. In the hit drama "Welcome", the audience can still see her wonderful performance.
Fifth, her acting skills have become more and more proficient, and her role interpretation has become more deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, showing the charm of a mature actor. Ding Jiali's story is like a mirror, reflecting the trajectory of many people's lives.
Her experience tells us that people will inevitably have times of confusion in this life, but the key is to wake up in time and have the courage to change. As the saying goes, "The prodigal son does not change his money when he looks back".
Although Ding Jiali is not a "prodigal son" in the traditional sense, she finally realized her mistakes and took action to change them, and her courage and determination deserve our respect.
Ding Jiali's story is undoubtedly a process of "waking up from a big dream", and it is also a process of continuous self-reflection and self-improvement. She has grown from a girl who was hit by life to a responsible mother and an excellent actress.
Her experience may give each of us some inspiration and thoughts: no matter what mistakes we make, as long as we are willing to change, it is never too late.