Author: Wen Qiusheng
Original article, plagiarism must be investigated
01. Introduction
Marriage, like an invisible thread, binds two people together.
Between husband and wife, in addition to the inseparable feelings, there are also each other's families, children, friends, and property, etc., which have become an inseparable whole.
Even if there is a problem in the relationship, divorce is not a simple matter.
The real reasons why the wife betrayed the marriage and the man who was reluctant to divorce were these.
02. I am not ready for divorce and need buffer time
My buddy, once on the way to deliver information to a client, I found my wife shopping with another man.
He was angry, but he didn't rush up and tear his face with his wife.
For a long time after that, he was very unhappy and depressed. After he told our brothers about it, we asked him what he was going to do.
He said that it is not easy to divide the property of the husband and wife, and the two people open a company together, and many important customers are maintained by her, so it takes more time to deal with them. Moreover, he said that he was very confused and was not ready for divorce at all.
He stood still and had more evidence of his wife's betrayal of the marriage.
After arranging the children and the elderly, he filed for divorce with his wife.
Divorce also requires a process, and it is not as simple as going to the Civil Affairs Bureau to change the certificate.
After a woman betrays her marriage, the man is not in a hurry to divorce, probably because he is not ready for divorce.
I saw a sentence on the Internet: "Love is art, marriage is technology, and divorce is arithmetic." ”
I think so.
Divorce means that there are many things to communicate between husband and wife.
For example, the division of property, the custody of children, and many other practical problems have to be negotiated.
A man forbears, not because he still loves his wife, nor because he is cowardly, but because he wants to minimize his losses.
03, the affection for his wife is too deep to let go of her
Zhang Xianliang said: "Husband and wife divorce because they have no feelings; Some couples divorce because their feelings are too complicated. ”
Never, never underestimate how deep a man's love is.
Some women can't feel their husband's love in marriage, so they choose to betray him.
But when the man really learns about her betrayal, he may not choose to divorce immediately, but will choose to tolerate.
He will find a way to win back her heart and give the woman a chance to go home.
Even if he knows that a woman's heart is not in him, as long as she is still around, she is still a wife, and she is satisfied.
Of course, when he learns that his wife has cheated on him, he will be angry, bitter, and desperate.
Obviously, the person who made the mistake was his wife, but he would reflect on whether he was not good enough to make her choose to betray her marriage.
The feelings for his wife are too deep, and it has become a habit to love her, and he is reluctant to divorce and give up his feelings for each other.
I'd rather hurt myself and live a tormented life than let go.
04, the family needs, the wife still has her value
Lan Tianyu in "If the Years Can Go Back" knew that his wife Shangguan Hui had betrayed him spiritually, and he was very angry.
He couldn't bear it, so he immediately separated from his wife and said that he wanted a divorce.
However, the child is still too young, and he does not want to cause great trauma to the child's young mind because of the grievances and grievances between adults.
So he endured it and kept in love with his wife in front of his children.
His heart was tormented and painful, but he couldn't really break off with his wife.
The reason why a woman betrays her marriage, her relationship breaks down, and a man does not dissolve her marriage is because the benefits of a marital relationship often outweigh the dissolution of the marital relationship.
A woman has a lot of responsibilities in the family, and all aspects of the family are inseparable from her care and care, and she still has her value.
He has to take care of his family's emotions, take care of his children and parents, so he doesn't dare to divorce easily.
Although his wife betrayed the marriage, he would still maintain the existence of the marriage sensibly first.
When everything is ready, go through the divorce procedures and resolve the crisis peacefully, which is more beneficial to both people.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
"A divorce is like being hit by a car, but if you can get through it, you'll be looking around cautiously when you go out on the street in the future," Kerr said. ”
The longer the marriage lasts, the more boring, boring, and all kinds of troubles you will feel that you can't get rid of.
However, once you seek happiness outside of marriage, no longer be faithful to your marriage, and lose your principles, then the relationship between husband and wife will also be destroyed, and they will gradually drift apart.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.