In interacting with people, what kind of person is called an emotionally intelligent person? The simplest way to understand it is that as long as you are a person who can make others feel comfortable with you, then you are an emotionally intelligent person.
In emotion, the performance of high emotional intelligence is not only knowing when to say what kind of words to say to girls, but also what way to speak to make girls more comfortable. There are also those who don't talk when they shouldn't, and don't pull her to chat when girls don't want to chat, and be a "fun" person, which is also high emotional intelligence.
So how do you judge whether a girl wants to or not, and whether she is interested in chatting with you?
In fact, when a woman doesn't want to chat with you, she will use these words to "hint" at you, don't be stupid and don't understand.
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"I'm busy right now, next time we'll talk"
In the dead of night, you send a message full of enthusiasm, looking forward to a long late-night conversation with her, only to receive such a reply. Don't be in a hurry to lose, this is most likely a gentle rejection she gives you.
We often say, "Time is like water in a sponge, as long as you want to squeeze it, there will always be it." But sometimes, she chooses not to crowd because she wants you to understand her busyness and boundaries.
So, when she says, "I'm busy right now, next time we'll talk," instead of dwelling on it, give her plenty of space and time.
True concern is to know how to let go at the right time, so that she can feel your understanding and respect. You might as well return a relaxed smile and tell her, "Okay, you get busy first, I'll wait for you." Such a response not only reflects your demeanor, but also leaves a natural opportunity for the next chat.
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"Aren't you going to work tomorrow?"
The late-night chat is in full swing, but you don't realize that the night is dark until she gently asks, "Aren't you going to work tomorrow?" "The air freezes instantly.
"Go to bed early and wake up early to maintain your health." This old saying is particularly apt at this time. She's actually reminding you in a subtle way that it's time to rest.
Behind this sentence is her concern for your health and a subtle reminder of your own time management. Don't misinterpret it as she's chasing you away, but she's telling you in her way, gently, "It's late at night, it's time to rest." ”
At this time, you might as well take advantage of the trend and say goodnight, which not only reflects your thoughtfulness, but also makes her feel your maturity and understanding.
03
"You're not sleepy, are you?"
The chat entered the middle of the night, and the topic was still hot, but she suddenly threw out this question with a hint of surprise and concern.
"A weary heart needs gentle soothing." She may be using her exhaustion as an excuse for you to rest.
This sentence is actually her hope that you can care about yourself, take care of your body, and don't insist on saying "not sleepy". At this point, you might as well be honest: "It's a little late, maybe it's too happy, time flies too fast." ”
Then, naturally, it's a move to end the conversation, which preserves the pleasant atmosphere of the chat and shows that you care about her feelings.
04
"I'm going to eat / I'm going to take a shower"
These two reasons have almost become the master key to chat interruption. It sounds common, but it actually has a deep meaning.
"Life requires a sense of ritual, even if it's a simple routine." She chose to use these daily activities as a reason to end the chat, perhaps to maintain the sense of ritual of this daily routine, but also to leave plenty of room for your imagination.
So, don't rush to ask, "What's delicious?" Or, "Do you need me to wait for you?" That probably only made her feel more embarrassed.
The best thing to do is to accept her "everyday excuses" and respond simply: "Okay, go and come back quickly, I'll wait for you." This keeps the chat coherent without putting too much pressure on her.
05
"Good Night"
These two words, simple but powerful, are the gentlest farewell of the night.
"Every end is a prologue to a new beginning." When she softly said "good night", it was not only the end of today's chat, but also the preview of tomorrow's story.
But don't let this simple "good night" be the end of your conversation. You can reply with a warmer "good dreams, see you tomorrow", so that she can feel your warmth and anticipation before falling asleep.
Remember, true emotional communication is not about the number of words, but about the connection of hearts.
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These are just a few of the "suggestive" phrases that women often use when they don't want to continue chatting. I hope that male compatriots can capture these subtle signals more carefully, learn to observe words and colors in communication, and make every relationship more harmonious and beautiful.
In addition, when chatting, if a girl has a crush on you, she will also hint to you that she wants to end the chat, but it will be gentler.
For example, in WeChat chats, she will generally make you perceive by reducing the enthusiasm of chatting.
Maybe you were very interested in chatting at first, but slowly, the speed of her reply, the number of words were much less, indicating that she was tired and wanted to end the chat, and had no desire to continue sharing with you.
At this time, you should have withdrawn early. If you accept it in a boring state at the end of the chat, it's also not good, because the last end of the interactive state, the feeling of boredom for you, will last for a while after the chat ends.
The right time is to find a good atmosphere, take the initiative to end the chat, give her a feeling of unfinished, and she will look forward to the next opportunity to interact with you.