Writer: Easter Egg Mom
Have you ever encountered someone littering?
Have you ever encountered someone cutting in line?
Have you ever encountered something that makes you feel that it doesn't fit your three views?
Many times, as adults, we will choose to be silent, but how can we explain that children have encountered it?
01 "Mom, that person is littering!"
When I returned to my hometown with Easter eggs, I encountered a rather embarrassing thing.
The neighbor's house was being demolished to build a new one, and it was also hot when we went, and there was a worker in his fifties who was drinking mineral water.
A bottle of mineral water went down, and the workers breathed a sigh of relief, it should have quenched their thirst, and the whole person felt a lot better.
Then, the empty mineral water bottle was thrown directly on the ground.
When the easter egg saw it at this time, he couldn't help but say, "Mom, that person littered!" ”
It's embarrassing, it's really embarrassing, because the place is so big, although everyone is busy, but no one speaks, and the whole venue only hears the sound of work, so the sound of easter eggs is particularly abrupt.
The worker glanced at the eggs, ignored them, and went back to work.
From the worker's point of view, he quenched his thirst, and that was enough, whether it was garbage or not had nothing to do with him. He just wants to finish a day's work and get a day's money.
For rural people of this age, they may understand this kind of thing, but they will not follow it.
Because, they have become accustomed to littering.
Then, wait for someone else to clean up, or finally clean up together.
So, we're not surprised.
However, from the child's point of view, he could not understand that "everyone is responsible for protecting the environment". The trash can only needs to be walked an extra 10 meters to get there, so why not send it to the trash can and just throw it away?
What would you do if you encountered such a thing?
02 In the face of "quality", the first reaction of parents determines whether their children can protect themselves
When we educate our children, this kind of behavior will be called "lack of quality".
What the child doesn't understand is, why double standards?
They are children, so they have to follow the rules, they have to talk about quality?
Those people can be unqualified?
To be honest, Easter egg mothers feel that in the face of this "unfair" quality problem, the first reaction of parents also determines whether their children can protect themselves.
It's at home, and the worker doesn't bother with a child.
However, if outside, the child meets someone who is "more accountant", then what will happen to the child?
Possibly, others ignore it.
It is also possible that someone else will give the child a "lesson".
Because, people who don't follow the rules, they are more likely to do things that don't follow the rules.
On the contrary, children who follow the rules are sometimes easy to be raised too honestly by us, and they may not even imagine that there are still people in the world who do not follow the rules and teach others.
As adults, we will choose to "turn a blind eye" to protect ourselves.
So, what about children?
We must not only let the children continue to abide by and maintain order, but also let the children distinguish between right and wrong, and let the children not be affected by the "non-compliance behavior" of others.
Otherwise, the child will either be easily bullied by the "non-rule-following" person, or will gradually develop an attitude of ignoring the rules, causing the child to also become a "non-rule-following" person.
03 That's what I said to my child
First of all, I didn't say to my children: don't worry about others, just take care of yourself!
This sentence is easy to make children have an attitude of ignoring the rules, and the child will be psychologically unbalanced, and he also wants to become a person who does not follow the rules to break this imbalance.
Secondly, I didn't allow my children to really "discipline" others for not following the rules.
This kind of behavior can also make others feel uncomfortable, and in case of a little dispute, then a little thing can become a big thing.
Finally, I said to my child: Yes.
did not deny the child's words, because what he said was indeed the truth, and the parent's "yes" to the child was a positive feedback, telling the child: yes, this is not right.
Even if someone else hears it, it's not a big deal. He himself made a mistake by not following the rules, and it was he who was embarrassed, and it shouldn't be us.
This will prevent the child from becoming a non-conformist.
What are parents worried about when their children will have conflicts with others and be bullied?
Then the rest of the words will be said to the child in private.
We can tell our children:
That person threw the garbage directly on the ground, probably because he didn't develop a good habit;
That person cut in line, probably in a real hurry......
Then tell the child that the rules may be different in different environments.
Let's talk about queuing.
Easter Egg Dad is also an honest man, we used to have a prenatal checkup in the town hospital, and there was no number, but after the doctor came, he squeezed in one by one.
Honest as Easter Egg Dad, we always queue up, but we all have to be the last.
Later, he found that even if the past prenatal checkup was submitted early, there would still be people who would take advantage of the doctor's inattention to change the order of the prenatal checkup.
So, the easter egg dad began not to line up, but stared at the prenatal checkbook, and if anyone moved, he immediately said: "Please don't touch our prenatal checkup!" ”
When a group of people don't follow the rules, then we have to learn to survive in this environment.
Therefore, what we want to educate our children is never to follow the rules, but to let them know that following the rules is for us to live better and safer.
Finally, as parents, we should also lead by example!
(The picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted!) ）