1. Don't care if your worries are true or not
We will always have a lot of "what if" worries, what if the door is not closed properly and the thief comes in? What if the gas is not turned off properly and everyone in the family is poisoned to death? What should I do if I get infected with bacteria and get sick? What if a cat or dog scratches it and doesn't find it, and it has rabies? And so on all sorts of whatever.
Every day, all kinds of accidents make us tired and restless, so we will do some compulsive behaviors to reassure ourselves again and again, but have we found that our compulsion is not getting worse and worse in the process of finding peace of mind again and again?
So, when we have obsessive thoughts, try not to follow the needs of the obsessive thoughts to do compulsive behaviors, of course, at first you will be very uncomfortable and anxious, just like you feel when you don't smoke after the onset of addiction.
But don't be anxious at this time, because this feeling of discomfort and anxiety will not last forever. It won't take long for it to weaken and subside, and then I will naturally regain my sanity and mind.
Of course, this is a process, and the compulsion will come out repeatedly, but we also deal with it in this way repeatedly, two weeks a week, two months a month, and finally, we will find that our compulsion is getting weaker and weaker, and the anxiety is getting lighter and lighter, and this is the process of our compulsive heart change.
2. Don't try to control your obsessive thoughts
People will have obsessive thoughts, but if you think it is abnormal, try to control it, eliminate it, then you will be transferred into the trap of obsessive thoughts, and you will become unable to extricate yourself, and eventually it is likely to develop into obsessive-compulsive disorder, but if we learn to get along with obsessive thoughts, then obsessive thoughts are also a thought, not only will not affect us, but can also be used by me.
I understand that sometimes some obsessive thoughts can interrupt what we are doing, or make us feel very uncomfortable and anxious, but you must understand that thoughts are not out of our control, and they are not something you can get rid of if you want to.
There is an experiment in psychology called the White Bear Experiment, where 10 people were found and asked to do everything they could to prevent the white bear from appearing in their minds within 3 minutes, and finally found that no one could do it. But the amazing thing is that after the experiment, after no longer having any requirements for the subjects, it was found that almost no one thought about the white bear in the following time.
This experiment tells us that our brain has a pattern: the more you don't let it think, the more it thinks. Instead, if you don't ask for it, it will slowly stop thinking. Why is this happening? In fact, the reason is very simple, the process you control is the process of intensifying attention.
(It is recommended that anxious and compulsive friends read two books "Emotional Self-Help" and "Overcoming Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder", I believe it will be of great help to your recovery)
So, what should we do in the face of anxiety and obsessive thinking in the future? It's very simple, it's to let it come, it goes and let it go, remember the "five noes" principle, don't push, don't welcome, don't resist, don't care, don't ignore, and you just do what you are doing, you will find that your heart will become free and open-minded, transparent and sober.
Friends, remember the "five nos" principle: do not push, do not welcome, do not resist, do not care, and ignore.
Everyone is welcome to type it out in the comment area and let it become your "talisman".