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It has been said that the life of an adult is to heal itself after countless breakdowns.
Yes, no matter what kind of crying you go through, life still has to go on, and the city is still busy when you wake up in the morning.
But only you know how exhausting it is to try to control it but still inevitably collapse because of a little thing.
People and things that always feel annoying seem to be everywhere and all the time.
In psychology, this process is called "emotional exhaustion".
The more susceptible emotions are, the weaker one's control over oneself becomes, and the slightest disturbance can pierce the appearance of calm that has been painstakingly maintained.
But is there really that much to care about?
Not really.
The reason why people suffer is that they have too many desires, but they don't know what they really want.
Life can't find the focus, everything is important, every voice is concerned, and in the chaos like a fighter fighter.
As a result, you are exhausted, only to find that the world is still your enemy at every turn.
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Writer Ma Dejiu said: This world, which seems to be noisy and noisy, with all kinds of people, etc., is all mud and sand, but in essence, it is still your own world.
One has to have the ability to recognize oneself.
If you can't learn countless lifestyles to find the one that matches you, then many troubles are actually adding to your own blockage.
Don't use other people's lives as a reference, because that's someone else's way.
Behind every kind of life you envy, there are hardships that you can't endure; Behind every seemingly glamorous story, there are unknown hardships.
Blind comparison and envy not only do not bring happiness, but will make people lose their way and add countless troubles.
It's better to put your focus back on yourself and be yourself.
It is our life's mission to move forward steadily according to the appropriate pace, and to cherish and be grateful for what we have received.
Don't expect too much from anyone, because regret is the norm of life.
There are some things that you give a lot, and you may not be rewarded; There are some relationships, no matter how hard you try, it is difficult to maintain them.
It has nothing to do with whether you are good or not, whether you work hard or not.
It's just that the world is impermanent, and there are too many places that are beyond the reach of manpower.
If we want to be able to understand, it is not easy for everyone, and they all have their own bodies and involuntary words.
We will not be easily disappointed, let alone rashly criticized and depressed.
As Yishu wrote:
"The sign of a person's true maturity is that he finds that there are fewer and fewer people to blame, for the simple reason that everyone has their own difficulties, and you don't necessarily understand their lives."
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The best state of life is to establish a clear sense of boundaries for yourself, so as to adjust your life to "low-consumption" mode.
Things are prioritized, and people are close to each other.
We have a limited amount of time and energy to do something meaningful.
And, once you have chosen the direction, don't look left and right, hesitate, and be more determined and persistent.
Invest in the field you are good at, do what you like to the extreme, and work hard for a long time to cultivate the branches and leaves.
As for small frictions, small contradictions, and small gains and losses in life, they may happen every day.
But these are actually inconsequential little things, no need to worry about them, and it is not worth wasting your energy and emotions to care about.
The reason that is indiscernible will pass as soon as you let it go; If you don't like it, you will turn the page if you endure it.
A lot of unsatisfactory is because I care too much.
I like a passage from Zhu Deyong very much:
"Seeing the world clearly doesn't make the world a better place. But it may make you better at seeing what the world is like and getting better. ”
Sometimes, people don't need to live so tightly, a little relaxed, a little more tolerant, just another form of strength.
In our own life channel, we are always the first protagonist, and the rest are foils.
How much influence others can have on you depends on how much power you decide to give them.
If you don't take him seriously, it's not a problem.
Someday, I think you'll understand that it's not life that has been tormenting you, but that you've never let yourself go.
Life is too short, so stop asking for trouble.
If you have to find something, then look for fun, find fun, and try to please yourself as much as you can.
Because there is only one biggest trouble in life, and that is: you have lived the way you hate.