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There is a social phenomenon - the tide of family severance.
It refers to the phenomenon that young people have less contact with their relatives, or even sever, which reflects the change in individual values and the importance of personal space in modern society.
Many middle-aged and elderly people don't understand the tide of breaking off relatives, they are all relatives with blood relations, why do they have to break off relatives?
The key point is that the concept of "blood relationship" has become weak in modern society.
Especially the post-90s and post-00s, who are mainly only children, basically have no concept of blood relationship. In their view, the only relatives are the parents at home, and not other relatives and friends.
Facts have proved that the group most affected by the wave of family severance is actually relatives in rural areas.
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There is an opinion on the Internet: the group of relatives is now dying.
You ask the post-60s generation, what do they think of their relatives? The post-60s generation will answer you that a certain relative is very good with him, and he must have a good relationship with his relatives.
You ask the post-70s generation, what do they think of their relatives? The post-70s generation will answer you, just go to visit relatives during the New Year's holidays, and there is no contact at other times.
You ask the post-80s generation, what do they think of their relatives? The post-80s generation will answer you that you only know such and such relatives, and do not know other relatives. I don't like to associate with relatives.
You ask the post-90s generation, what do they think of their relatives? The post-90s generation will answer you, who are your relatives? I haven't been in contact with them since I was a child, so naturally it doesn't matter.
You ask the post-00s, what do they think of their relatives? The post-00s will answer you that you don't know much about your relatives, even your cousins don't know each other, and you don't have their contact information except for visiting relatives and friends with your parents.
It can be found that from the post-60s to the post-00s, people's feelings for relatives have gradually become flat, and they have gradually become indifferent to the group of relatives, and there is less and less contact with relatives. In this way, isn't there a wave of family breaks?
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There is a question: from the post-60s to the post-00s, why is the tide of family breakage intensifying?
Let's talk about the changes in the objective environment first.
The post-60s and post-70s generations basically grew up in rural areas. The countryside is a place where clans live. The post-60s and post-70s generations grew up with relatives in the family, and even grew up wearing a pair of pants.
I have been in contact since I was a child, and I have feelings since I was a child, so when I grow up, I often contact, I often come and go, I often deal with each other, and I pay more attention to the feelings between relatives, and it is more normal.
The post-80s generation is relatively young, they not only have the experience of rural life, but also grow up in the tide of urbanization. When I was young, I had contact with relatives of the same age. When I grew up, I lived separately and had little contact.
The process of urbanization will break up the clan model in rural areas. Once upon a time, it was a family that lived in a village. Nowadays, it is a family of people living separately in different cities. This is "atomization".
Many of the post-90s and post-00s generations are only children and grew up in the city. This is destined that they don't know who their relatives are, and they don't want to know who their relatives are, let alone have kinship feelings.
One generation of relatives, two representatives, three generations do not know, and four generations become passers-by. And the post-90s and post-00s who are only children have just accelerated this process.
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Let's talk about the change in personal perception.
In the past, people would take their families back to their hometowns to visit relatives and friends during the New Year's holidays, and there were few other options.
Nowadays, during the New Year's holidays, people either sleep at home, take the family to travel, or choose other forms of entertainment. It seems that fewer and fewer people choose to go back to their hometown to visit relatives and friends.
You will find that at this stage, the holidays are all "tourist seasons". The Spring Festival holiday is the peak season for tourism; The May Day holiday is the peak tourist season; Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, and November are also peak tourist seasons.
What does the tourist season mean? People would rather travel than return to their hometowns to visit relatives and friends.
There are three reasons for this "don't want to".
First of all, the elders of the hometown have passed away, and contact with other relatives has been severed. If you can't go back, there's no point in going back.
Secondly, from attaching importance to the feelings of large families to attaching importance to the feelings of small families and individuals. His own family of three/four is a relative, and no one else is a relative.
Third, the atomization of society, which leads to the atomization of individual pursuits. Everyone is like an atom, wandering outside the group, pursuing their own life, not the life of the family group.
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Write to the end
Speaking of this, one word comes to mind, the hollowing out of the countryside.
At this stage, only the elderly are left in the countryside. Most of the young and middle-aged people have gone to the cities to work hard, and when they have settled in the cities, no one has stayed in the countryside.
With the departure of these old people, the traditional carrier of family affection in the countryside disappears, and there is really no affection between relatives. The group of relatives will also gradually disappear.
We might as well ask ourselves, do we want to associate with relatives back home? Or do you want your relatives back home to disturb your life?
Except for those who still live in the countryside, and those who live in big cities, they basically don't want it.
It can be seen that the essence of the tide of severing relatives is not artificially severed from relatives, but the change of the objective environment and people's concepts, which has led to the dilution of kinship and blood feelings.
Text/Shushan has deer