Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
"Bouquet of Love" wrote: "Love is such a thing, you can't be half of a person, love is one for one person." ”
Love needs two people to maintain, and without the participation of either of them, they can't be together until they grow old.
Some men are distracted in marriage, and they forget their original intentions and manage their feelings while walking. gave his heart to another woman.
After going around outside, I found that marriage was better, and I wanted to return to my family.
It's easy to betray a marriage, but it's hard to return to a family.
When a man returns to the family after changing his mind, he will encounter the "test".
02, the test of two people not having the same heart
From the moment a man betrays his marriage, there is already a separation between him and his wife.
His mind is on how to make himself happy and how to make himself happy. For marriage, there is not much time and energy to take care of it, so you can only ignore it.
Inevitably, the burden of the family will be transferred to the wife.
When a wife finds out that her husband has changed his mind, she will suddenly feel that everything she has silently dedicated to the family is worthless.
She would feel like she was living like a joke, giving him all her true heart while he betrayed her.
Since then, there has been a gap between the two people, and it is difficult for them to be with each other anymore.
When a man returns to the family, he will find that his wife no longer believes in him, and she has her own life plan and goals.
Two people are under the same roof, like strangers, and they can no longer enter each other's hearts.
03. I can't erase the hurt in my heart
After a man betrays his marriage, there will be a scar in a woman's heart.
The scar would fester, inflame, and bleed repeatedly, making her feel painful.
still remembers that in the movie "Beijing Love Story", there is such a bridge:
Liu Hui and Xiang Ling, the two of them sat on a yacht and blew the sea breeze to celebrate their wedding anniversary together.
seems to be a very loving couple. They have been married for more than 20 years, but their hearts are not the same, everything is just an illusion.
It turned out that Liu Hui betrayed her when she was young.
Although, she forgave him, but in her heart, she never really forgave him.
She would often be suspicious of him, and often wonder if he had betrayed her again. The romance and happiness of the two people, because of that betrayal, can never go back to the beginning.
After a man betrays his marriage, a woman will have an indelible scar in her heart, she will repeatedly remember the harm he has done to her, and repeatedly suspect that he will betray her.
When he goes out, she will wonder if he is looking for a woman outside of marriage. He answered the phone, and she wondered who was calling him.
Between husband and wife, without trust, it is difficult to reconnect with each other, and it is difficult to continue to walk hand in hand.
04. The test of falling in love with each other again
When a man changes his mind and betrays his marriage, it means that he no longer loves his wife.
To return to the family, it is not just about cutting off contact with the woman outside of marriage and returning to live at home. Instead, I want to re-establish a relationship with my wife and let my heart return.
But I didn't love my wife anymore, and it was very difficult to fall in love with her again.
You will still face her shortcomings, her habits that are incompatible with you, the status quo that you have nothing to talk about, and your fragmented married life.
And a woman, after knowing that you betrayed your marriage, she will also clearly know that you do not love her.
After she is hurt, she will put away her true heart and will no longer give all her love to you.
If two people don't accept each other, it will be almost difficult to go on in marriage.
In the book "Quartet", it is written: "Mutual love is realistic, unrequited love is unrealistic. There is a deep river in between. ”
If a man betrays his marriage, he can re-establish a relationship with his wife and fall in love with each other again, so that he can truly reach the end of the day.
05. Summary
Life, this life is very long. In marriage, you may encounter all kinds of things.
No matter how many storms you encounter, no matter what happens, don't betray your marriage at will. Because it is a great harm to oneself and one's wife.
Between husband and wife, if you encounter any problems, you must solve them in time. And, be patient to express your love for a long time.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.