Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Love is like a pack of sandwich cookies, you never know what it really tastes like when you don't tear the package.
When we were in love, we used to think that when we were with our beloved, as long as we loved each other, we could overcome all the difficulties in this world and grow old together.
When I walked into marriage, I realized that love is not as beautiful as I imagined.
Those sweet and happy loves, in the minutiae of life, gradually become extremely bland.
How much a man loves you can be seen from washing the dishes.
02. Men don't love you and never go into the kitchen to wash dishes
I know an Uncle Li, he and his wife have been married for more than 30 years, and the relationship between the two has always been very bad.
His wife is in the community and often complains about him, doesn't feel sorry for her, doesn't love her. I never take on the work at home. Married for more than thirty years, I haven't washed the dishes once.
Uncle Li once said that those trivial things at home should be handled by his wife.
Once, when his wife was sick, he didn't care for her and didn't help with the cooking. He ordered takeout himself, and after eating, stuffed the entire trash can.
Finally, approaching the age of sixty, his wife insisted on a divorce and ended their relationship.
In marriage, how much a husband loves his wife can be seen from the trivial matter of washing dishes.
There is a very classic line in "The First Half of My Life": "It's a good thing to have contacts and contacts, what is unilateral payment called, it's called sacrifice." ”
If a man doesn't love you, he will feel that all the housework in the house should be borne by his wife alone. He couldn't see how hard she worked, how hard it was.
No matter how many dishes and chopsticks are piled up in the sink at home, he can turn a blind eye.
Even if a woman is sick, he won't go into the kitchen and wash the dishes. He would only subconsciously feel that all those jobs should be done by her, and he had no pity for her.
03. Men love you and will actively wash the dishes after eating
In marriage, the more you love your man, the more willing he will be to share it for you.
"It's okay, it's love" said: "Love is not about giving up something for the other party, but about doing something for the other party." ”
In life, when you encounter big things, he will not back down and will not let you face it alone. He is willing to share a little more as much as possible and is willing to face it with you.
No matter how small things in life, he is willing to bear them with you, and he will not leave them to you alone.
When you cook at home, he will come up to you and say in your ear, "Thank you, wife". And, take the dish in your hand and help you wash it.
After eating, he will stay at the table, talk to you, and chat with you.
I won't turn around and hold my phone, lie on the sofa, swipe my phone, and hand over a table of leftovers to you to clean up alone.
After you finish eating, he will actively clean up the dishes and chopsticks and go to the kitchen to wash the dishes.
The man who loves you is happy to share the housework, and after eating, he will take the initiative to wash the dishes, let you rest for a while, so that you can also have a moment of relaxation.
04. A man really loves you and asks you to wash less dishes at your in-law's house
In the TV series "Chenghuan", after Yao Zhiming fell in love with Mai Chenghuan, he became very considerate.
For a while, Mak Chenghuan lived with her parents in his house. After they ate together, he would rush to wash the dishes and never let Mai Chenghuan wash the dishes and chopsticks.
He loves her, is willing to favor her, and is willing to take on the task of washing dishes for the rest of his life.
Whether a man loves you or not depends on whether he is willing to favor you and whether he is willing to protect you at your in-law's house.
Some women are very tired in their in-laws' house, and she is responsible for all the big and small things in the family alone. When the man saw it, not only did he not share it, but he also felt that it was what she should do.
No matter how many people in her in-law's family eat, she is the one who cooks; No matter how many dishes and chopsticks there are, she is the last one to wash the dishes.
Yishu said: "Feelings are such a thing, it is unreasonable, to fall in love with a person, the body is not up to the Lord, and the heart is not up to the Lord." ”
really favors women, and men will let her live a relaxed life at her in-law's house. When the family eats, he will wash the dishes or help his parents.
Let his wife have time to rest, and let the family know that he cares about her, and no one can snub her or bully her.
05. Summary
In a relationship, if you want to judge whether a man loves you or not, it can be seen from the matter of washing dishes.
Washing dishes is a small thing, but it is an indispensable housework in three meals a day.
A man loves a woman, he is willing to share the housework and keep the little things in life in mind. He implements love into the details of life, just so that women can live more easily.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.