Text: Su Jian talks about life
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In the blink of an eye, 2024 is about to pass, and looking back at the first 53 years of my own, I can only describe it in four words: a sigh.
When I was a child, I always thought that I could "go to the end of the world with a sword" with a stunt and become a "hero" that everyone envied.
I even thought that when I grew up, I could become a dragon and phoenix among people, and rely on my own ability to make the people around me live a good life.
However, day after day, year after year, I finally understood that I was so ordinary.
Looking back, most of our post-70s generation are still farmers, and they are still workers.
The dream of the past has been wiped out bit by bit by the years.
Even though we, the post-70s, have tried our best, we are still at the bottom of society.
Maybe it's fate, right?
In your life, you are an official, you can't farm, you are a farmer, you can't be an official.
Although the gears of fate are always turning, the "head" and "tail" always coincide.
1. Parents' cognition,
will often determine our way out
There is a saying among the people: "A dragon gives birth to a dragon, a phoenix gives birth to a phoenix, and the son of a mouse will make a hole."
When I was a child, I thought this sentence was funny, but of course, I didn't understand the truth in it.
Later, after entering junior high school, Xiangling, a good friend of mine, dropped out of school.
Xiangling studied much better than me, and I asked her why she dropped out of school.
She said that her parents let her go to the city to work as a nanny, and she had 200 yuan a month, which could also reduce the burden on her parents.
In this way, after Xiangling dropped out of school, she went to Zhengzhou, and she really saw the outside world, with high-rise buildings, which was an eye-opener.
Later, one after another junior high school classmates around me dropped out of school to join the "job" before they graduated.
Some learned tailoring, some rushed to sell fabrics, some went to the city to work as nannies, and some worked as hotel waiters....... are engaged in the lowest level of life.
And their parents, including my parents, are happy to think that it is a great thing for their children to earn money without spending money on the family.
When we were children, we had countless dreams, however, these dreams were lost in front of "making a living".
We began to live according to our parents' arrangement, and followed our parents' fate to go through again.
Of course, there are also a small number of parents who regard their children's learning as the top priority and force their children to jump out of the farm.
But the vast majority of parents are just like my parents, with very small cognition and pattern, which restricts their vision and prevents our vision.
2. Poor,
Sometimes it's powerless to change
Although he dropped out of school before graduating from junior high school to earn money, he still had a hard time living after decades of sleeping in the open air.
It's not that you don't work hard to make money, but your cognition, pattern, and thinking determine the way out of life in the future.
So, we began to work hard to support our children to study, hoping that their children would one day "fly" out of this home.
Most of the villages have been deserted, and the occasional people who remain in the village are not able to get together.
For the sake of their children, the people in the village have gone to the city to buy houses, even if they have no money, they have to borrow money to buy, just hoping that their children can have a good way out.
But when my children went to college and joined the workforce, they found that it was still difficult to find a job.
Those children who study top in the top are admitted to good universities and can find better jobs, and those who do not enter the university, their children come out and become like us.
Today, even though we are in our 50s, we are still struggling to survive.
Every day, for three meals a day, for the future of the children, and even for the mortgage and car loan for the children to get married, they are still running around.
"If you don't suffer from studying, you will suffer from life."
After all, those of us born in the 70s cannot reach a height because we are not at the bottom of the books, or we do not have a skill.
3. There are still opportunities.
It's just that thinking limits us, and we only seek stability
In this society, only 20% of people can succeed, and the remaining 80% of people are at the bottom, which is the "28 law".
Countless people want to be in the 20%, including us.
Fate has given us opportunities again and again, and we can only watch the "opportunity" pass by us.
To put it mildly, it is because we have no capital in our hands, and even the only capital we have is to support our families, and we don't even have the courage to invest.
In this way, the poverty year after year has trapped us, the poor are very stable, and the poor make people lose their fighting spirit.
The thoughts of our ancestors have been like this for generations, no one holds them up, and no one guides them, so you can imagine how difficult it is.
It's like a little snail that has been lying there all its life, and as soon as it gets something special, it immediately retracts its body back into its shell.
It is like a frog at the bottom of a well, only seeing the sky as big as the mouth of the well every day, croaking all day long, and its thoughts and consciousness have bound it, and it is confused and has no motivation to move forward.
Opportunities come and go, and now that I am in my fifties, I have no more opportunities, I am old, I am young, and I can't afford to toss anymore because of my physical discomfort.
4、
In our life, we have experienced from the countryside to the city, and even to a foreign land thousands of miles away, to work and struggle.
However, we can't control this thing.
Countless individuals have simply moved from one place to another, continuing to get up early and stay late to support their families, and the reality has not changed in the slightest.
Eventually, the option of "freedom" will gradually disappear from the subject of our destiny.
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