Text: Su Jian talks about life
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"The Complete Biography of Yue Yue" mentions:
"Tigers and leopards are unbearable to ride, and people's hearts are separated from their stomachs."
The human heart is hidden in its skin, difficult to peep into, difficult to understand.
Human nature is the most unscrutinized thing in the world.
If we don't have a deep relationship, it's hard to get to know this person on the surface.
When we are young, we are easily confused by extroversion, trapped in relationships, and prone to gains and losses.
After living to a certain age, he has already experienced the blood flow of his head and blood, and he slowly moved from the chaos to awakening.
There's a proverb that says, "Even if you don't understand anything, you have to understand human nature."
To see a person thoroughly, it is enough to look at these three points:
1. Attitude towards parents, see character
In the Zhuangzi, it says:
"If you are a person in the city, you will resign and let go, your brother will be a concubine, and your eldest relatives will be gone."
Relatives are the people who have been with us the longest in this world, and they are also the people we deserve the most tenderness.
They gave us life, raised us as adults, and were the closest people in our lives.
What kind of character a person is, you can know it by his attitude towards his parents.
I once saw such a story:
A mother carefully boiled a pot of nutritious soup, rode a bicycle for several kilometers, and finally delivered the soup to her son when it was time to eat.
My son was in the hospital, and shortly after the operation, the doctor said that the nutrition should keep up.
When the mother carefully handed him to her son, the son opened the lid and immediately closed it again and said, "What kind of soup do you think you are cooking?" I don't want to see it, let alone eat it."
The mother accompanied the smiling face and said, "You should drink the soup, the doctor said to increase nutrition."
The son impatiently put the soup on the table next to him.
Then, in a very unpleasant tone, he sent his mother outside the door.
When he came back and saw the soup on the table, his son didn't think about it, he picked it up and poured it directly.
The person next to him looked at it, although he was silent, but his face was full of contempt for him.
A person who can't even tolerate his parents can't stand the test of humanity after all.
A person's attitude towards his parents is not only filial piety or unfilial piety, but also the benevolence and righteousness of gratitude and retribution.
A person's character is judged by his attitude towards his parents.
If you have a bad attitude towards your parents, you can't have a deep friendship with such a person.
2. The attitude in the face of interests is to see the hearts of the people
The Analects says:
"The gentleman is righteous, and the villain is profitable."
In the back and forth of interests, you can see through a person's truest character and the so-called warmth and coldness of human feelings.
Some people, driven by interests, can abandon morality, extinguish their conscience, and do not hesitate to harm those who are good to them.
Some people even deceive their relatives for their own little benefit, and in the end they will only end up alone.
There were two brothers in the village.
One year, my brother told my brother that he wanted to do business and wanted to borrow some money from my brother.
The elder brother didn't say a word, so he lent all his savings to the younger brother.
The younger brother took the money and left the country, where he made a big business.
After a few more years, my brother became seriously ill and urgently needed a sum of money and needed surgery.
The elder brother remembered the money he had lent his younger brother back then, and the elder brother called his younger brother to ask for it.
The younger brother, who has now become a scenic figure, not only did not fund his brother's money, but even borrowed his brother's money back then, and he flatly denied it.
In the end, my brother didn't ask for the money, and it was thanks to the donations of his neighbors that my brother was able to survive.
From then on, the elder brother and the younger brother did not interact with each other at all.
However, after a few years, the younger brother lost money because of his business, and he was unable to repay other people's money, and was finally beaten to death.
Looking back at my brother, he opened a breakfast shop in the town, and the business was very prosperous, and the family was happy.
Lao Tzu said:
"A good man is deeply hidden, and a gentleman is virtuous and foolish."
Let's not blame those who value profit, because it's all part of human nature.
To see if a person can have a deep friendship, you can know it from the interests.
People who are unmoved in the face of interests and do not forget their original intentions bring their own light and are warm wherever they go.
In the face of interests, character determines the life or failure of a person, and people fight to the end, in fact, it is character that fights.
3. Attitude towards the weak,
See self-cultivation
The ancients said:
"Don't humiliate people because they're weak, don't honor people because they're noble."
A person's self-cultivation is hidden in the attitude towards the weak.
There will always be some people in life who rely on their own little power and a little capital to trample on the dignity of others.
There is no love in the heart of this kind of person, and there are only dark trade-offs.
In the ancient Western Jin Dynasty, there was a man named Gu Rong.
Once, he was invited to a banquet.
At the banquet, he saw the servants who had come with him, and when he saw the meat on the table, he was salivating.
Gu Rong didn't say a word, and gave his share of meat to this servant.
The person next to him said Gu Rong: "It's just a subordinate, is it worth your kindness to him like this?" With his identity, he has never even tasted the taste of meat. ”
Gu Rong said: "He holds the meat all day long, serving me, how can he not even know the taste of the meat?"
Gu Rong tried his best to be kind to his servants, he treated the weak well, understood the hardships of the low-level people, respected and treated everyone at the bottom.
Later, Gu Rong went to fight and was about to be captured by the enemy.
At this critical moment, someone actually secretly saved Gu Rong.
Later, Gu Rong learned that the person who saved him was the one who accepted his gift of meat back then.
If you want to see through a person's true character, it is enough to look at his attitude towards the weak.
When a person habitually disrespects the weak, then the person is not worthy of associating anymore.
Don't humiliate people because they are weak, they are people worth associating.
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Life is long, you meet more people, and you have experienced more things, so you can see a person's character clearly from his words and deeds.
Good character is a person's most powerful backer, and it is the best pass for walkers.
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