In today's era of information explosion, gossip seems to have become a part of people's lives, especially when some celebrities or public figures are involved in the so-called love story, which often attracts everyone's attention like watching the excitement, and someone made up a story about actress Hu Jing's name "Too beautiful to be favored by the richest man abroad, in order to let her sleep peacefully, she is willing to remove her organs", which sounds like a horror movie, especially after you know how ridiculous it sounds
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Love is supposed to be sweet as honey, but it turns into a nightmare, how many secrets are hidden in it? Today, let's delve into those pathological behaviors in the name of love to unmask true "love".
When we talk about pathological love, we must first clarify a concept, that is, this kind of love does not have the basic characteristics of a healthy relationship at all, many of us may have experienced some relationships, at first it feels very sweet, but slowly, but find that the other party's behavior gradually exposes a certain pathological tendency, the desire to control is often the first manifestation of pathological love, some people always want to be in the name of love, asking the other party to obey themselves 100%, which is actually a kind of psychological possessiveness
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Think about it, have you ever made an appointment with your romantic partner, and then the other person suddenly called, asked where you were, who you were with, and even asked you to report your movements every hour? Doesn't this kind of love sound a bit excessive? Let's not talk about how much these behaviors affect your life, this desire to control alone is enough to make people feel suffocated, and it is human nature to want to have freedom in love, but some people see this freedom as a threat, and instead choose to use the name of "love" to bind each other, isn't this the essence of selfishness?
Let's take a few examples around me, a friend once told me that his girlfriend would ask to check the mobile phone information every day, and restrict him from socializing with female friends, at first he thought it was his girlfriend out of concern, but after waiting for a while, he found that he had lost almost all his social circles, he began to blame himself, but felt that he was sorry for his girlfriend, because he also wanted her to feel at ease, the more he tolerated it, the more his girlfriend's behavior intensified, is this a "control game" in love? In the end, the relationship ended without a hitch
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Speaking of which, we can't help but ask: who is this kind of love good for? From the victim's point of view, pathological love undoubtedly brings a lot of harm, in order to take care of each other's emotions, but slowly distort the self, you may think that two people together is to compromise with each other, but the other side of the scale is also very important, that is, to keep the self intact
In some social news, there is no shortage of tragedies fermented because of sick love, some cases that eventually turn into domestic violence due to excessive control, and even suicides caused by emotional blackmail, people are often too easily kidnapped by emotion, thinking that they can endure everything for the sake of "love", and a truly healthy love should support each other, rather than letting one party suppress the other
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So, how can you identify this sick love and effectively stay away from it? Let's start with some "red flags", first, observe whether the other person has a sense of respect, healthy love is based on equality and mutual respect, while pathological love is blindly demanding and controlling, if the other person always interrupts you, or only focuses on their own point of view when discussing things, you should be careful
For those who are already in a morbid love, you may want to consider seeking professional help, sometimes the advice of friends and family is important, but the advice of a professional may be more intelligent and in-depth, and a counsellor or emotional expert can not only provide practical advice, but also help you rebuild your confidence and understanding of love
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Let's go back to the beginning of this topic, true love should be based on mutual trust, equality and mutual assistance, rather than dependent on control and sacrifice, sick love often drags people into the abyss, and a healthy relationship can allow each other to grow in love at the same time, each of us has the opportunity to find their own happiness, rather than becoming a "horror story" in love