In reality, a far-sighted family will never marry these three kinds of people.
If you don't get married, at least you can have less trouble; But if the knot is wrong, it is really difficult to stop the loss, and it is troublesome every day.
When it comes to marriage, it's better to be single than to make do with it.
If you find someone to marry, you will only fall into a bigger pit and you won't be able to climb out.
Therefore, the phrase "rather lack than excess" is simply the golden rule of marriage.
01
People with large family gaps.
Marriage is not just a matter of two people, it is also about the background and conditions of two families.
In real life, of course, feelings are important, but if the other party's family conditions are too big a gap with yours, then this relationship should be carefully considered.
One of my college classmates ended up marrying a completely different girl from the girl he liked in college, but because the other party's family conditions were better, he chose a materially superior marriage.
Marriage is not determined by emotions alone, and the material foundation is also important.
If the other person's family conditions are much worse than yours, you need to consider whether the other person has pure motives.
Maybe he doesn't love you, but because he likes your family's financial conditions.
This kind of marriage with a large gap has huge hidden dangers, and you may eventually find that the days after marriage are not as beautiful as you imagined.
02
Grumpy people.
Adult life is tired enough, who has the time and patience to deal with their partner's emotional out-of-control?
After getting married, temper and character are particularly important. If the other person or the other person's family is screaming at every turn, or even unable to control their emotions, then such a marriage will only make you miserable.
Imagine that there is a "roaring war" going on at home every day, what is the problem that you can't sit down and talk about?
In reality, I have a relative at home who is of this type, often yelling at her partner at home, and can't control her emotions even at work.
Such a temper not only hurts the family, but also affects the career.
Marrying such a grumpy person is a kind of torture for yourself, who simply do not know how to communicate and listen.
When choosing a partner, you must carefully examine the temperament and character of the other person.
If the other person or their family members are emotionally out of control and often yelling at every turn, and have no sense of communication at all, then you had better give up as soon as possible.
Marriage should be mutually tolerant and supportive, not a battlefield where people quarrel and throw things every day.
Grumpy people will only turn family life into an endless nightmare.
03
People whose parents are of bad character.
Some parents, as soon as they see that their child's target family has a problem, firmly oppose their child to continue the relationship.
To be honest, I'm afraid 99% of girls' parents will do this.
After all, the behavior of parents greatly affects the growth and behavior patterns of children.
Everyone has small shortcomings, which is nothing, but if the partner's parents have a big problem, then they must not get married.
In reality, the influence of the family is extremely powerful, and almost no one can completely resist the influence of the original family.
Do you say, will the parents' behavior and moral concepts be passed on to their children? Quite possibly!
Even if it is not copied exactly, it will leave some deep imprints on the child.
In the end, it will only be their own children who will suffer, and they will be involved in such family problems, and they will continue to have trouble in the future.
For example, I watched a film and television drama before, the man's father cheated, and his mother didn't care about the house, and he fooled around with other men all day long.
The children of this kind of family, even if they behave well in love, who can guarantee that the influence of the family will not be exposed after marriage?
You said that the parents' style is not necessarily inherited from the children, but the children who grow up in this family atmosphere will be affected to some extent.
For the sake of the child's future marital happiness, it is best to stay away from the family where the parents have problems.
Therefore, when choosing a partner for a child, it is not only necessary to look at the other party himself, but also to carefully examine the other party's parental behavior.
If there is a problem with the moral character of the parents, the children raised are likely to have all kinds of troubles after marriage.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, it is the union of two families, and the character of the head of the family plays a vital role in it.
A long-term happy marriage is inseparable from the healthy atmosphere of both families, and this must not be ignored.
Let my words come into your heart
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