Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
I saw a sentence in a book that said:
"Those who love you are afraid that they will not give you enough; People who don't love you are afraid that you will ask too much. ”
I think so.
In marriage, if a man truly loves you, he will favor you and protect you with all his heart, so that you will not be surrounded by sorrow and will not let you worry about trivial matters.
As long as he can give, he will give for you as much as possible.
Men don't love you anymore and no longer treat you as a wife, and there will be behaviors that are very painful.
02. Men no longer treat you as a wife and will not protect you
Man, with you in his heart, no matter when, he will protect you with his heart and not let you be wronged.
In the TV series "A Tree of Peach Blossoms", when Luo Yaohui and Sheng Kai got married, they were very good to her at first.
And blooming, also because of love, is very good to my mother-in-law.
She is bent on running a good family with him, and she is bent on treating her mother-in-law as a mother.
However, her mother-in-law couldn't get used to her and often picked on her. No matter how well she did and how much she paid, she was not satisfied.
Faced with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Luo Yaohui did not reconcile the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but did not hesitate to stand on his mother's side, accusing his wife and bullying her.
Sheng Bloom's love for Luo Yaohui was consumed.
She felt that in marriage, she was the only one working hard, and there was no belonging.
Man, no longer see you as a beloved, when you are hurt and bullied, he will not stand up for you.
No matter how much you give, he feels that you are not good enough and do not give enough.
When there is a conflict between you and your family, he will not hesitate to protect his family, stand on their side, and bully you.
Between you and your interests, he will choose to sacrifice you to protect his own interests.
The less a man loves you, the less he will protect you, the more he will no longer treat you as a treasure, and he will not cherish you with all his heart.
03. There is no response to your love and dedication
When two people are together, the family needs to be run together, and things need to be carried together.
As long as the hearts of two people are together, no matter how big the wind and rain are, they can face it together.
I have a friend Wang Yan, and when she and her husband first got married, they kept in touch every day.
Wherever she goes, send him a message, he sees it, and he responds; Whatever she said, he would listen to it with relish.
If she gives him a gift, he will definitely give her a bag or a necklace to please her.
If she cooks, he will wash the dishes. She tidied up the house, and he would mop the floor.
After seven years of itching, the man changed his mind, and there was a rift in their relationship.
When she texts him and talks to her, he gets annoyed; She cooks him a table of his favorite meals, but he doesn't come home to eat......
Later, she found out that her husband fell in love with someone else, and his heart was no longer in her.
A man, who does not respond to your love and dedication to you, means that his heart is not in you.
No matter how much you give, he will take it for granted. Moreover, he will not give you anything in return.
Your message, he sees it, and there will be no response. He will just turn a blind eye when you need help.
I saw this sentence in the book: "If there is no reply to the message, don't send it again, if there is no response to the feelings, just let it go, and if you don't want to pay attention to you, don't bother anymore." ”
A man doesn't love you anymore, no matter how much you give, he won't remember it in his heart, look at it in his eyes, and there will be no response.
04. Summary
Hermann Hesse wrote in the Song of Ticino:
"It's not the end of love, it's the driving force of love, and I dedicate this love to the flowers by the roadside, to the sparkling sunlight in the glasses, to the red dome of the church. Because of you, I fell in love with the world. ”
People who truly love you will make you feel the incomparable beauty of this world and make you feel that you have someone to rely on.
Women, if you meet the person who really loves you in the vast sea of people, then manage your feelings with your heart and treat him well.
If you meet someone who is not ladylike, then stop the loss in time and don't let yourself be hurt.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.