People who know how to be silent will definitely live more calmly and indifferently.
And this state of mind can also allow you to understand others, tolerate others, and see through without saying anything in reality.
In this way, in silence, explore yourself inward, dig yourself inward, prepare for development, and cultivate yourself.
Mr. Feng Youlan said: People often need to say a lot of things before they can fall into silence.
Always believe that the power of silence and the wisdom of silence will definitely make you better, happier and healthier.
Therefore, try to be silent, and the world will definitely give us more surprises, as well as touches and blessings.
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silent
You will find that those people in life who talk and talk endlessly, no matter how close to them, will feel disgusted and hated.
In fact, the worst manifestation of a person's emotional intelligence is that he loves to talk too much, loves to express too much, and loves to evaluate too much.
There is a saying: "The benevolent are not responsible, and the good are not judged." ”
Obviously, silent people are often more likely to win the favor of others and gain the recognition of others in interpersonal relationships.
Because in interpersonal communication, people who know how to be moderately silent are more cultivated, more emotionally intelligent, and can also give people a feeling of getting along and less stress.
It is true that communication between people is essential, but if you say too much, you can even forcibly interject endlessly.
Then, even if the other party won't stop you at that time and won't refute you, he has actually rated you in his own heart.
The ancients: Many words and many defeats.
In the adult world, in fact, no matter how chaotic the heart is, but in the mouth, there is no word.
After all, those who are truly mature have always known that blindly complaining, confiding, and talking endlessly will not only fail to solve any problems, but may bring more trouble to themselves, or even more problems.
Instead of being too expressive and keen to vent, it is better to choose silence, restrain your desire to express, and let yourself taste and digest in silence no matter how many joys, sorrows, and sorrows you experience.
In the end, you can make yourself more mature, live your own rational, mature, and calm.
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Silence continues
People's hearts are unpredictable, human nature is complex, and there are many sufferings in the world.
Therefore, it is actually very contradictory for people to live.
However, a truly mature person will never set up all kinds of obstacles for himself because of the downfall, changes and impermanence of life, and dare not move forward.
In fact, this life is very short, and it is very easy to be in a passive state.
Therefore, one can only return to silence, calm one's heart, and stabilize one's mentality.
Then, a person has enough mental strength and energy, and when he is down, when he feels lost, he can soberly tell himself not to complain.
In this way, I never expect others to empathize with me, and I never let my life become a joke in the eyes of others.
But more often, he is willing to return to the life behind him, choosing to be silent, and quietly hibernate at the trough of life.
In the end, he single-mindedly strengthened his wings and strengthened his abilities behind his back.
As Nietzsche said, "Whoever will shake the world will remain silent for a long time." ”
In this way, a person will be able to stabilize his emotions, his mentality, and his ideas whether in good times or adversity.
In this way, insist on silence, then silence, and constantly polish yourself, accumulate yourself, and transform yourself.
Then, in the end, you will definitely be able to fulfill yourself and achieve yourself.
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Be silent
There is a sentence in "Zengguang Xianwen":
"Leave half a sentence on the lips of the words, and let three points when the matter comes to the end; After being in the accident, he spoke less, saw through the favor but nodded. ”
To be truly powerful, you must know how to control your mouth, and never give people a sense of superiority that is complacent and domineering.
It's about knowing that there is not much difference between people, so there is no need to elevate yourself and step on others.
Then, you can really make yourself live a more conscientious and humane life.
In this way, in the face of the ups and downs of life, the heart can still be calm, plain, and peaceful.
In this way, there will be less unnecessary gains and losses, and more importantly, a sense of awe, and you will not be kidnapped by vanity in daily life, nor will you be seduced by the applause of others.
But always be able to stay awake enough, be rational enough, and then in silence, see through human nature, understand life, and live your life simpler and happier.