Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Loving someone and managing a relationship is often like a spider staging a web, you can't be in a hurry, you have to take your time.
Managing feelings relies on giving little by little, as well as guiding each other to pay to meet each other's needs for love.
At any time, don't fall into the fantasy of love with wishful thinking, don't give without a bottom line, and don't be too flattering.
Women, no matter how much you love a man, don't contact him every day, do this, he will be more attentive to you.
02. Instead of chasing him, it is better to work hard to run a business
I've seen a video that says:
After a woman gets married, she gives up her job and revolves around her husband all day long.
She didn't get her husband's gratitude for her dedication, but on the contrary, he often thought she was too annoying.
The woman felt that this was not conducive to the development of the relationship, so she started her own business and started a small business.
At the beginning, she ran into walls everywhere, she kept reviewing, constantly looking for ways to break through, and was so busy that her feet didn't touch the ground.
For a long time, she didn't have time to care where her husband was, what he was doing, and she rarely shook it in front of his eyes.
The man was not used to it, but took the time to care for her.
When he found that her career was getting better and better, his attitude towards her also changed. The eyes are full of admiration for her.
Women, love a man, don't contact him every day. Instead of you running after him, you should try to run your own business.
Shu Ting wrote in "To the Oak Tree": "If I love you, I will never be like a climbing flower, showing off myself through your high branches; If I love you, I will never learn from the infatuated birds, repeating monotonous songs for the shade. ”
Strive to run your own business and make your value more tangible.
Balance career, life and love, and grasp the proportion of love in your life, so that he can see your value and be attracted to you, and he will be more attentive to you.
03. Don't contact him every day to make your life wonderful
Women, let yourself live a little more exciting, men will be full of curiosity about your time.
Qu Xiaoxuan in "Ode to Joy" seems to be playing in the world, but her view of love is very positive.
She said that women can chase backwards, but they must not be upside down, and she herself explained the difference between the two.
She likes Dr. Zhao, she is the first to show affection, take the initiative to ask him, and do a lot of new and interesting things with him. Moreover, she guided him to take the initiative to confess and turn her passive into active.
The two had a conflict, Zhao Qiping ignored her, even though she missed him very much and wanted to see Dr. Zhao, but she held back.
She doesn't call, she doesn't go to him, but chats with friends, hangs out, and has a lot of fun.
Looking at her wonderful life, Zhao Qiping finally put down his posture, coaxed her, and chased her.
Women, no matter how much you love a man, you must also keep your principles and bottom line.
Don't contact him every day because of longing, don't because of affection, and be the person who has no bottom line in love.
Giving without principle will only make men snub you more.
Sanmao wrote in "The Rainy Season Will Not Come Again": "Be a sincere person, do not give up your love and dedication to life, and live an infinite life in a limited time and space." ”
Women, what you have to do is to try to make your life wonderful, so that he can see that you are cute, tenacious, and love for life.
Seeing your wonderful, men will also be attracted and can't help but want to enter your heart.
04. Guide men to pay more to you, and rest assured that you can't be relieved
I saw a very interesting video on the Internet:
On that day, the woman put on delicate makeup, her newly made manicure was also very beautiful, she was wearing ten-centimeter high heels on her feet, and she was also wearing a very beautiful cheongsam.
She asked her boyfriend, "Do you like it?" ”
Her boyfriend is obsessed with her, with stars in his eyes and a sweet smile on his face.
At this time, the woman said, "Are you willing to mop the floor and wash the dishes like this?" ”
The man immediately said, "I'm coming, I'm coming."
The woman did not hesitate to say: I know that you love me the most, and you are the man who loves me the most in this world.
In her praise, the man did the housework and did it more energetically.
There is a passage in "Jane Eyre": "Love is a game, and you must always be equal and equal with each other in order to depend on each other for a long time." ”
Women, no matter how much you love a man, don't please every day, contact every day.
Instead, you should guide the man to give more to you, so that he can take care of you as a matter of course.
When he gets used to cooking for you, whenever he has to go on a business trip, he will worry that you will not eat well and worry about you.
When you are afraid of the dark, he is used to accompanying you, and the next time he sees a thunderstorm on a night, he will not go out, or rush home in a hurry, just to accompany you.
Women, let the man get used to paying for you and really devote himself to the construction of the relationship, he will love you more and cherish you.
05. Summary
Ro · Herrick said, "Passionate love never lasts." ”
Women, in a relationship, love a man again, don't be too courteous, let alone please.
If he doesn't want to pay attention to you, no matter how humble you are, you won't get his mercy.
Socialize with him as an equal, give him love, and learn to guide him to give to you and give you a response. Only when each other pays for each other's love will each other's feelings be more solid.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.