When Cai Li died, Cai Han was only 3 years old and had no impression of his father. But she felt that Dad was a superman, and if he was there, they wouldn't have had such a hard time.
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Text / Li Moya Editor / Golden Flame
Bariatric surgery
Today, the 16-year-old girl has weighed 170 kilograms, which is more than her father's 160 kilograms before he died. Known as the "First Force in Asia", he once broke the Asian weightlifting record.
Because the excessive weight makes caihan's surgical risk higher than ordinary people, her attending doctor believes that weight loss surgery should be done before thyroid surgery. This also made her mother Liu Chengju's anxiety reach its peak at 10 p.m. on the 20th.
"The weight loss he's referring to is the one that cuts the stomach." Liu Chengju vetoed the proposal as early as last September, believing that cutting her daughter's stomach would affect her development. At present, when her daughter's papillary thyroid cancer is facing surgery, she feels that the doctor's advice is "shirking responsibility and not wanting to do it for my children."
"Then why did you let me do the puncture, so that after the puncture, it is easy to bring out germs?" Missing"? The key laptop "buzzed" on the coffee table, and on the screen was the attending doctor's reply page on a doctor-patient communication platform.
Liu Chengju took a fierce breath of his cigarette, threw off the slippers under his feet, and leaned sideways toward the back of the sofa. "Even if you cut your stomach, how long will it take to recover well?" Doesn't my child's thyroid disease be delayed? Liu Chengju twisted the cigarette butt and lit another one, and the loose piece of flesh on his big arm shook with it.
Cai Jianhan's mother Liu Chengju photo /CFP
After Caili's death, Liu Chengju began to smoke, keep his head, and even get tattoos, hoping to make himself look more powerful and not be bullied. But the body is deteriorating, myocarditis, cervical spondylosis, meniscus hydrocessus... Breast cancer was also diagnosed in 2012, but fortunately it was early, and there were basically no cancer cells after surgery.
"Oops, headache." Liu Chengju poured the wind oil essence in his hand and repeatedly rubbed his forehead, cheeks and the back of his neck. After putting the nearly 2-meter-long group photo of the Chinese delegation to the 1990 Asian Games back in the storage room, Cai Jianhan sat down on the pony on the opposite side of the coffee table and silently bowed his finger, because Liu Chengju had just said that he was annoyed to hear her.
Liu Chengju has a stomach full of doubts, but except for the doctor's visit on Wednesday, he can only rely on this network platform to communicate.
Liu Chengju would like to get the answer now, what to do next. She found on WeChat that the reporter who had interviewed the doctor wanted to contact the doctor, but she was afraid that she was not as good as the reporter", and when the reporter politely refused her request, Liu Chengju clicked on the other party's avatar and deleted her.
On February 18, Cai Jianhan told the story of his and his mother's experience of cancer on the crowdfunding platform, hoping to raise funds to help the family tide over the difficulties. The identity of the talented daughter of "Asian Hercules" attracted a large number of media to follow, and Cai Jianhan said that she helped her mother answer the phone and received auditory hallucinations, "The mobile phone did not ring and thought it was ringing."
Up to now, Cai Jian Han has raised 200,000 yuan in easy fundraising.
The doctor did not answer the phone. Liu Chengju already had the idea of changing the hospital to the attending doctor. In 2003, her husband Caili died of "respiratory failure from pulmonary infection" caused by apnea syndrome and died in a bed in the Department of Respiratory Medicine of the First Affiliated Hospital of China Medical University. In Liu Chengju's heart, there was some resentment and distrust of this hospital.
Near 11 o'clock in the evening, Liu Chengju sent Cai Han to sleep, and she still told reporters about her suspicions. Liu Chengju's anxious scolding and questioning came from the partition wall, and Cai Jianhan felt that this was very normal, "General parents are like this." Most of the time, she had the same view of things as her mother.
Eventually, Liu Chengju regained her senses and asked on the doctor's homepage: "What's next?" When can I be admitted to the hospital, undergo surgery, and how risky the surgery is. How much is the surgical deposit. She again explained to the doctor that she did not want to accept weight loss, hoped to treat the thyroid gland first, and said that she would contact the weight loss agency after the operation.
"Learn to be self-reliant"
At 6 a.m. the next morning, Liu Chengju opened the computer to check the doctor's reply. She was like a warrior waiting for the commander to give an order to leave immediately, and the van was already driving downstairs.
Mother and daughter walked on the road of the community, ready to get in the car to go to the hospital. Photo / Li Moye
"Reply," Liu Chengju leaned down and read it word by word, "first ask the respiratory department to take a look, if the cardiopulmonary function can tolerate surgery, and then consider the operation, the admission deposit can be paid ten thousand first." Liu Chengju picked up the mobile phone and hung up a number, and asked Cai Hanhan to pick up the maza and check the bill and hurried downstairs.
Cai Han could only sit in the row of seats in the middle of the van, and after looking out the window in silence for a long time, she put her head against the window and fell asleep.
On the way to the hospital, Cai Han kept looking out the window. Photo / Li Moye
An hour later, the van arrived at the hospital, and Liu Chengju and Cai Jianhan squeezed their bodies into the line on the escalator. Liu Chengju was too anxious, holding up the registration voucher on WeChat directly into the department, but found that she had not been called for a long time, came out and found that she had to follow the order of scanning the code to report, Liu Chengju was on fire, roaring: "I don't count the 8 numbers I hang on the Internet?!" ”
One morning, Liu Chengju's mood was like riding a roller coaster. When doing lung CT, because it was far away, the doctor could not arrive in time when calling the trumpet, the next patient entered first, Liu Chengju's anger came up again, and the doctor quarreled, before taking off his coat and standing aside. It was not until he got the report sheet in the afternoon, showing that "there was no abnormality in both lungs", that Liu Chengju's mood was stable, and he walked out of the hospital hand in hand with Cai Han.
"Now I have autonomic disorders, depression, and I say that I am anxious to see my eyes." Liu Chengju knew very well that he could not control his temper, and once threw a plate and a bowl because of a sentence from his mother, and he was so frightened that he cried loudly. She said that this was a problem that fell in the six months after Caili's death.
Caili won the men's weightlifting undifferentiated championship at the Beijing Asian Games and broke the Asian record.
The death of Caili brought great changes to Liu Chengju. "Learn to be self-reliant," Liu Chengju repeated in a hoarse voice, "how to say it, what to do I know how to do it." Yes, that's the sentence. ”
This woman was also a weightlifting team athlete in Liaoning Province, who has won three national championships. But in the years after losing her husband, she set up stalls, delivered milk, and worked as a cashier on the night shift at an Internet café. As a result, the stalls encountered the rainy summer in Shenyang, which was rarely seen in Shenyang; because Liu Chengju's knees were watery, he could only be delivered milk by his father, but the old man broke his leg when he went down the stairs; when the cashier fainted at the bar.
Most of the physical pain stems from the former weightlifting career, Liu Chengju does not complain that her parents let her practice sports, but regrets that she "chose the wrong one by herself."
In the afternoon, Liu Chengju received a salary text message. "Hey, I got 400 bucks." She was very happy, holding up her mobile phone to show the reporter, more than 2400 yuan. After retiring from the army, Liu Chengju was assigned to work in a state-owned thermoelectric company, and rarely came to work due to physical reasons, "knowing the situation at home, taking care of the leadership, and having all the benefits." ”
The 200,000 yuan on the crowdfunding platform has been raised, but Liu Chengju does not know how to get this money, and can only rely on the loans of relatives and friends to see a doctor. A foundation called to supervise the money, but Liu Chengju was unwilling.
"Don't leave me in the future"
Compared with his mother's loud voice, Cai Jian han seemed very quiet, and even when he spoke, his voice was gentle. Behind the lenses of 500-degree astigmatism, the eyes are squeezed into a triangle of fat, but long eyelashes can be seen with their eyelids upturned. During the medical treatment, Cai Jianhan was silent most of the time, occasionally taking out her mobile phone to look at it, but there was no one to greet her. Like mom, she had few friends.
At birth, he was 2.95 kilograms, and when he was six or seven months old, he began to take hormone-containing drugs due to asthma, coupled with the obesity genes of his parents, and his weight soared. In elementary school, she often saw children huddled together pointing at her, "Maybe talking about my figure."
Cai Jianhan once took the initiative to find children. "Tell them I'll play with you, they say I won't play with you." Cai Jianhan suddenly looked out the window and smiled, there was an astringent feeling, "Slowly get used to it, put aside in the classroom for a while, at noon, it's almost class, go to the toilet and come back to class." So noon passed. ”
Cai Jianhan's only good friend met in junior high school, because both of them were too fat to wear school uniforms, and Liu Chengju just happened to have a phone number for a custom manufacturer.
Cai Jianhan and Liu Chengju are like two straws tied together, supporting each other and being mother and daughter to each other.
Waiting for the car to go home at the entrance of the hospital, Cai Han and his mother habitually sorted out each other's hats. Figure/CFP
When CaiLi died, Liu Chengju was 30 years old and Cai Han was 3 years old. Liu Chengju said that because of the frequent illness of her children and her deep feelings for talent, she did not choose to remarry.
2012 was the year that Knocked out Liu Chengju. The discovery of breast cancer, the death of his father, Liu Chengju collapsed like an old building that had been seriously eroded. Premature heart beats, atrial fibrillation, leg injuries... Cai Jianhan, who had just entered the first grade of junior high school, could only take leave to go home to take care of her mother.
When it came to junior high school, both mother and daughter were as taboo as if they had touched the moldy head, and Liu Chengju turned his head sideways and skimmed his lips: "Don't mention the teacher, I didn't have a month to dissuade my children." Cai Han felt that it was because of her long leave of absence and poor English grades.
"Going to school every day is like going to the battlefield." Cai Jianhan said that during those days, he went to school every day with his heart.
Taking care of her mother and grandmother became Cai Han's full-time job. When her mother and grandmother threw the kitchen dishes and bowls and ran downstairs, she cried and chased them down, but she was afraid that something would happen to her grandmother and ran back immediately.
Cai Jianhan, who was ready to learn a craft, chose Chinese medicine, "In fact, Xinmin's Chinese medicine school is really learning Chinese medicine, but it is too far from home." Xinmin is not more than a hundred kilometers away from Fushun, where she is, but she can't go, she has to take care of her grandmother and mother, and she found a chemical school that opens Chinese medicine on the spot.
Before the pre-admission physical examination, Cai Jianhan was found to be thyroid papillary cancer, according to her attending doctor, this is not a fatal disease, the operation is almost risky, but Cai Jianhan does not seem to know about it. She doesn't admit her fear of facing "cancer," but with tears in her eyes, she keeps worrying about who will take care of her mother and grandmother if she dies.
On the afternoon of February 19, rain and snow swept through Shenyang and Fushun, and the mother and daughter walked in the community. Figure/CFP
Liu Chengju was very guilty, but she had no way to get the mother and daughter out of the predicament, and could only ask the media, the Liaoning Sports Committee and the Liaoning Provincial Government for help again and again. She has not been in contact with her former teammates for a long time, and after Caili's death, she went to the weightlifting team several times, complaining that her life was down, and everyone knew that as long as she appeared on the weightlifting team, she was asking for money, so her previous teammates "avoided her".
The van preparing to return to Fushun was parked on the side of the road waiting for reporters to interview, and the black film pasted on the glass window made the outside look like a mirror that could reflect light. A middle-aged man suddenly stood in front of the car window to comb his hair, looked left, right, left and right several times, and left satisfied, while the cai han in the car was already laughing. It's like collecting a new joke, and Cai Han is particularly happy, laughing when he thinks about it along the way.
Her life was too tedious. No dreams, no favorite things, no favorite stars, no favorite boys, no little secrets in front of her mother, and unwilling to go out to play, she feels that the most relaxed thing is to sit in the room in a daze to "empty herself", but these days there is no chance, she feels very tired.
When I went to the hospital with my mother, Cai Han han thought of her father most often. Although she was too young to be impressed when caili died, she felt that her father was a superman, and if he was there, they would not have had such a hard time. "Sometimes I think about it, but after all, that fate is like this, and that can't be changed." Cai Han lowered her head, she thought, Dad should be very spoiled her, "My mother should be black face, he should be white face."
A family portrait taken with her parents as a child
Cai Jianhan was curious about his "Hercules" father, often typing his name into the search box. She found 160 kilograms when her father died, so when she weighed more than 150 kilograms, she began to vaguely worry about whether she would be too fat to get closer and closer to death.
Exercise, meal replacement, cupping... Cai Jianhan tried a variety of weight loss methods but it did not work. Losing weight is like turning into a dead end, there is no way out. Cai Jianhan was already reluctant to look at his weight on the scale, and was ready to take a step to see one step at a time.
Liu Chengju often dreamed of caili: "Dreaming of caili seems to be where to eat sometimes, sometimes where to hang out, sometimes like a big road, I am here, he is over there, I will run over and shout at him, put my arms around him and cry, don't leave me in the future." ”
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