Parents are the students who need the entrance exam the most

Recently, a video interview of a "seven-year-old boy was abused by his mother but still missed her" was exposed by the media and triggered heated discussion among netizens. A 7-year-old boy in Xi'an, Shaanxi Province, has been living with his mother since his parents divorced, and whenever his mother is in a bad mood, she will beat him with a wire knife and so on. After two years of domestic violence by his mother, the boy said he still wanted to be with her.

In March 2018, a girl in Guangxi Province was dragged upside down by her father with her feet tied to the tail of a motorcycle and her head upside down, and the perpetrator was sentenced by the court for abuse; in July, a girl in Wanning City, Hainan Province, was suspected of being beaten to death by her father, and the perpetrator has been caught by the police...

As people who brought their children into the world, these parents failed to build the first barrier of safety for their angels.

Susan Campbell, a psychology professor at the University of Pittsburgh, said that domestic violence and psychological pressure from parents can affect children through the age spectrum, and the affected children have a more difficult psychological process, they are difficult to get along with other children, and they perform worse in school.

As we all know, every child will have an entrance examination before entering the school to test whether the child meets the criteria for entering the school for study, and those who fail to pass will not be admitted to the school. As for parents, there is no test to test whether they can take on this heavy responsibility. Yes, that's a lot of work! Usually we think that teaching is the most sacred profession under the sun, then if fatherhood can also become a profession, the author believes that this profession is more sacred and important, each of us from the fall to the society, parents are definitely the first teacher of our lives. The undisguised words and deeds of these two teachers affect the child all the time, and are imitated all the time, and this imitation has a subtle impact on the child's character, and it is completed without feeling for a long time. In fact, if a child lives in a friendly and warm environment, he will become a healthy, upright, optimistic, and productive person in the future. On the contrary, if a child lives in a family full of ignorance, barbarism, depravity and selfishness, he may later become a rude and uncultured person who is even harmful to society.

Our traditional view is that children are "privately owned" and that they have no right to interfere by beating and cursing others at will. "Filial piety under the stick" is even more enshrined as a classic. But how can we ever think that parents think that the most effective way is to use cold sticks to make children obedient, exposing their own incompetence in educating their children, and the results of this entrance exam as parents must be failed.

We bring our children into the world in order to accompany a small life to see this colorful world, and if we become the cathartic object of our own bad emotions, we will fail not only this innocent life, but also the future of this world.