Since ancient times, "door-to-door pairs" has been one of the primary factors that everyone considers when choosing a marriage partner. But recently, its status is quietly changing...
On November 15, Lily Jiayuan Group released its latest investigation report on the concept of marriage and love - "Talking about Feelings or Settling Accounts" (hereinafter referred to as the "Report").
Through the data, the "Report" reveals the various views of couples on money in romantic relationships, as well as those inconvenient words.
Does talking about money hurt feelings?
According to the report, more than half of singles who have had emotional experiences have said that they have had differences or conflicts because of money and lovers:
The proportion of men who have had disagreements is 56%, higher than the proportion of women who have disagreed;
Conflicts caused by daily expenses, purchases of large items or valuables occur most often among lovers;
And single people with a history of marriage have a greater proportion of conflicts than unmarried people.
Is the money conflict between lovers only about money?
Nearly 60 percent of single men and women admit that when solving money-related problems, they also consider whether the relationship is for marriage purposes.
More than 40% of single people will be connected to the depth of their feelings, and nearly 1/3 said that they will take into account the degree of their love for each other.
That is to say, when lovers have conflicts over money, they are often accompanied by deeper quarrels. It is not difficult to see that "talking about money does hurt feelings."
Male and female mate selection
Increasing emphasis on "consistent view of money"
Different growth environments have created different views of money, which on the surface seem to be the fundamental views and attitudes of money, but in fact it is also closely related to the outlook on life. Therefore, whether the concept of money fits or not is often an important part of mate selection.
The findings of the view of money in intimate relationships show that:
59% of women believe that "inconsistent views of money cannot go together", while in this view, men identify with 48%;
Another 30 percent of women and 24 percent of men believe that the same view of money is the only way to have the same economic ability.
At the same time, how does the concept of money play a role in choosing a mate? According to the report, 82% of women and 67% of men believe that "it is better to be consistent or similar".
According to different situations such as age, education and love experience, it is specifically subdivided:
With increasing age, the proportion of people who want to be consistent with or similar to the lover's view of money increases;
With the increase of academic qualifications, this proportion is also increasing, and the rate of promotion of men is significantly higher than that of women;
The proportion of people with love experience for the consistency of the concept of money is significantly higher than that of people who have no love experience.
Expecting "a consistent view of money"
Better than "door-to-door"
In the marriage market, "door-to-door pair" has always been an unavoidable mate selection criterion, especially in the concept of elders, and it is more important to value "door-to-door pair".
With the emergence of the concept of marriage freedom and love freedom, the standard of mate selection has gradually tilted to the spiritual aspect - in the concept of modern young people, the matching degree of the spiritual world of two people and the consistency of the three views are also an important part of mate selection.
Especially when the concept of money is consistent and the "door-to-door pair" can only choose one or the other, the report shows that 62% of men and 55% of women have chosen "money view consistency".
It is worth noting that academic qualifications and income have gradually become variable factors in marriage and love.
With the increase of academic qualifications, the proportion of women who choose money is consistent with the decline, and the decline rate of women is significantly higher than that of men, and only four women with postgraduate degrees or above choose the same view of money.
It can be seen that with the popularization of higher education, the proportion of women receiving higher education is getting higher and higher, and women's sense of independence is slowly awakening. In the choice of marriage and love, women are more pursuing the matching degree of all aspects, so with the increase of academic qualifications, women are more identified with the "door to door".
As income rises, the proportion of men who choose "money-like" gradually increases, while the proportion of women who choose this option gradually decreases with rising income.
In the survey of the concept of money in intimacy, 42% of men agreed, and 34% of women agreed with this option.
After two people are together, the future life is not only an economic problem and contradiction, but also a collision of the cognitive concepts of two people and two families, and the connotation and extension of "door-to-door pairing" are also constantly expanding.