I believe that everyone has heard a story: in order to enable the eaglet to learn to fly and hunt life independently, the mother eagle pushed the eaglet down from the cliff of the cliff, and the panicked eaglet desperately instigated its wings in the process of falling, and finally incited her wings when approaching the cliff and learned to fly.
At first, we were shocked and touched by this scene, because the eagle mother's mother's love was too great and heavy, even if it loved its child deeply, it had to push the child out of the warm grass nest and let it face the cruel world by itself. The reason why Mother Eagle can be fierce is because the world will not stop running the law of the jungle because the eagle is pitiful.
Our parents are not like this, hoping that we will grow up healthy and happy, and at the same time hoping that we can independently face the dangers of society.
In order to exercise their children's ability to be self-reliant and self-reliant, many contemporary parents have emerged in an endless stream of tricks, enrolling their children in classes and formulating various training plans, such as eloquence training, etiquette learning courses, swimming on cold days, etc. Children complain every day, while tired and running around to implement plans, while being deeply dissatisfied with their parents, often making trouble with their parents.
And Cai Mei'er as a representative of tiger mother education, is the object of people's hot discussion, people pay so much attention to her is not because of her high education, but because of her book "Tiger Mother War Song", which describes how she carried out tiger mother education for her children, such as daughter Sophia won the second place in the exam, then tiger mother prepared more than 20 test papers for her every night, and limited time to complete, overtime is not allowed to eat.
This kind of education makes netizens cry out for terror, which is simply a cruelty to children, rather than promoting growth.
However, the fact is that tiger mother education is not a minority in China, in addition to tiger mother education and eagle father education. Under the training of wolf father He Liesheng, He Yide, a "naked running brother" who was sentenced to cerebral palsy at birth, learned to fly an airplane at the age of 5 and graduated from Nanjing University at the age of 11.
Eagle Daddy weak son
He Yide was born in February 2008 in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province. The family had just been immersed in the joy of ushering in a new little life, but suddenly they were told the bad news: because the child had only been in the mother's body for seven months, congenital underdevelopment, which led to complications of premature birth, Anddo (He Yide's breast name) was most likely suffering from cerebral palsy.
At that time, He Yide's father, He Liesheng, had entered middle age, and it was hard to look forward to this baby, and this bad news made his joy suddenly turn into a thick worry and sadness.
It is not easy to have children in middle age, but children are very likely to suffer from cerebral palsy, which can't help but make He Liesheng, who has just become a father, start to worry about the child's future life, cerebral palsy is simply that life can not take care of themselves, how should children take care of themselves after parents are old?
As we all know, premature babies are born with insufficient development, resulting in their own immune function will be much weaker than that of ordinary people. Premature babies are mainly manifested as stunted, manifested by much shorter height than their peers, dyskinesia, lack of communication with people, and mental retardation.
Due to Duoduo's premature birth, weak congenital physique, often fever and cold, He Liesheng often and his wife and son rushed to various hospitals to treat the children, resulting in the couple being tired, very anxious, and more worried about Duoduo's future life.
Mandatory training
Such a rushing life can't help but make the couple start thinking about how to cure the child, but after they asked a number of Western medical institutions, they got a reply that they needed to use drugs and add sterile environment assistance.
He Liesheng did not want his children to live in sterile wards and not have the opportunity to see the outside world, so he began to formulate a growth and healing plan for Duoduo.
When Duoduo was only six months old, He Liesheng began to train his children's athletic ability, he put He Yide, who was still a baby, on the ground, constantly trained his crawling and building blocks, and accompanied the child to complete the project.
After He Yide adapted to this life, He Liesheng gradually strengthened the intensity of training. After He Yide learned to walk, He Liesheng led him to the outdoors to play other sports, and he often played football and kites with his son, hoping to stimulate children's interest in sports.
In addition, in order to understand the results of training, He Liesheng fixed his child to the hospital for physical examination every two months.
In order to let the children grow up healthily, He Liesheng has worked hard not only to formulate special plans but also to accompany him personally.
Throughout today's society, there are not many fathers who can do such a meticulous job, most families choose medication, and those with better conditions will send their children to sterile wards for treatment and visit their children regularly, while those parents who are poor can only take their children home and try to earn money while treating. However, He Liesheng's stubbornness and love for his son could not bear to see the child suffer, so he found another way and used his father's love to heal the child.
Kung Fu pays off, He Liesheng's eagle father education has paid off, and all of He Yide's performances are indicating that things are slowly getting better. So He Liesheng worked harder to train his son, not only formulated a physical exercise plan for him, but also reported him a lot of tutoring classes, such as street dance classes, martial arts classes and so on.
Early years jackie chan
In 2012, when the lunar calendar Chinese New Year's Eve, the father and son were on the hot search because of a video in which 4-year-old He Yide was naked, running in the snow with only a pair of underwear, and running while crying, and the temperature at that time was about minus thirteen degrees. Beside the naked He Yide, his father He Liesheng was following closely.
After someone put the video on the Internet, it aroused the widespread concern of the society, and netizens directly called wolf dad too terrible, and he was very distressed. Normal men can't stand being naked for a few minutes at minus zero, not to mention a young child, some people wonder if he is abusing children, and some people say that this way of education is too extreme, which is very unfavorable to the growth of children, and various theories are different.
Netizens also called He Yide a "naked running brother", and the little He Yide was also famous throughout the country.
But there is no doubt that this method of education is too hurtful, in order to exercise the child's physique can take a gentle approach, such as keeping warm is the basic protection of the child, can not let the child run naked on the street, otherwise it may be counterproductive.
He Liesheng did not care about the public opinion of the outside world, he continued his eagle father-style education, and the requirements for He Yide were getting higher and higher. It is said that He Yide was able to calmly fly an airplane at the age of 5, and legend has it that under the protection of professionals, He Yide successfully flew a lightweight glider across the safari park.
After graduating from elementary school when He Yide was 9 years old, he jumped directly to college. What's even more amazing is that he only spent two years to complete all the courses of the university, and at the age of 11 he successfully graduated and successfully obtained a diploma from Nanjing University.
brief summary:
He Yide's life has not been smooth, he has paid too much for today's achievements, bearing the weight that he should not bear at his age. Father's love is like a mountain, it allows He Yide to grow up healthily and get rid of the tragic fate of cerebral palsy, but it is also too heavy, so that He Yide is overwhelmed.
He Yide once said bluntly in an interview that he prefers the life of ordinary people if he can, and he did not like his father's way of education before, he was very tired, and he did not dare to tell his father.
He Yide was forced to precociously mature because of premature birth, and at an age when a child should have been innocently playing, he had to wear a suit and tie, pretending to be a small adult facing the cruel society alone.
What we see is that he confidently stands on the stage and shows generously, but behind the surface is his helplessness and compromise, forced to compromise with life, and he lives as tired as an adult at a young age.
Perhaps He Liesheng's original intention is good, in order to help He Yide cure cerebral palsy, he forced him to train, but his eagle father-style education is too "eagle", high-intensity training of his son, and even let him run naked in the snow, although this practice of forced training allows He Yide to become a dragon as soon as possible, but also let He Yide lose too much childhood freedom and happiness, so that he is not suitable for the age to carry the unsuitable baggage, crawling forward under the heavy father's love.