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In the countryside, if the first child is born, it is possible to have a second child, and in the city in 2016, the second child was also fully released, and this year it was even more open to the third child, so the second child family is really many, there are two children in the family, many parents are easy to be eccentric!
Two-child and three-child families are prone to various eccentricities, see if you have been recruited
Patriarchal eccentricity
For example, some families favor sons and daughters, and they love boys more, and girls are snubbed more.
The eccentricity of raising girls richly and raising boys poorly
It is that girls should be rich, boys should be poor, girls should eat well, dress well, and use well, while boys should eat and wear worse than girls.
Older siblings want younger siblings
You are an older brother, you are an older sister, to let the younger brother or sister, many parents in the education of children often with the big to let the small to educate the boss!
In addition to the above three common eccentricities, there is now a new type of eccentricity, which is also very common, and the new eccentricity is that the child who is well-behaved in the family is easily ignored by the parents, while the more naughty child is valued by the parents.
For example, the younger sister is more introverted, and the academic performance is better, while the sister is more naughty and rebellious, so most of the parents' energy will be placed on the sister's body, and ignore the care for the younger sister, which is actually a new type of eccentricity: pay attention to the more mischievous ignore the introverted and well-behaved.
Whether it is the common three kinds of eccentricity or the new type of eccentricity, many parents feel dissatisfied in it, but for children, it is painful.
The "new type of eccentricity" is increasing, and the children in it are suffering, and parents should not think about it
Naughty kids will be more naughty
There are two children in the family who are already in a competitive relationship, and the main direction of this competition is the attention and attention of the parents, so the naughty children find that as long as they have something to do, the parents will come to care for themselves, which will make the naughty children become more and more naughty.
Introverted children will be more introverted
It is not that introverted children who do not like to talk do not need the attention of their parents, if because another naughty child snatches up a lot of attention, it will make these children more silent inside, and even feel that the parents do not love themselves, but love the well-behaved and obedient self, which will lead to the child being more well-behaved and more obedient, what kind of pain in the heart is swallowed in the stomach, once the child grows up, something breaks out, the child will become very rebellious, and even cause irreparable consequences.
There are two children in the family, and it is important for parents to be fair and just
Materially, it is necessary to treat all people equally
For example, if you buy textbooks for your brother, you must also buy some stationery for your sister, so that your children can feel that I am also the baby of my parents and mothers.
When the guests come to the home, they must also be treated equally when giving red packets, and the eldest and the second must be given, especially when the second child is just born, they must start to do it when someone comes to see the newborn to seal the red envelope.
Attention should also be as balanced as possible
For example, when the mother just gave birth to the second child, she may put more energy into the newborn baby, but she must also take a certain amount of time to accompany the boss every day, so that the boss can feel the love and care of the mother.
Chat with your child often
Some children are more introverted and more well-behaved, such children, in fact, more need the attention of parents, mothers should often chat with these children, understand his inner world, when the child is willing to communicate with their parents when something happens, in order to avoid the child's negative emotions after the accumulation of outbreaks.
Every child is an angel, every child needs the meticulous care and love of parents when you are young, if you want to have two children, then you must be equal, in order to let the child in the care and love of the parents to achieve two brothers and sisters love each other, and can also support each other in the future.
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