People's pursuit of marriage can usually be divided into two categories: one is that true love is priceless, and the other is a door-to-door pair. It is said that true love is priceless, but when you really wander with a poet, the wind and snow will lose in the matter of not being able to eat; they all say that the door is right, but there is no love and care, and the two people are like being tied up in a responsibility relationship.
So what exactly is the most suitable marriage? Quite simply, on the basis of true love, there is also love on the premise of door to door.
husband and wife
Loving this thing depends on your own feelings and the degree of attention of both parties, so today we mainly talk about the door to the door. The old saying always says that marriage needs to be a door-to-door pair, but what exactly is a door-to-door right? In ancient times, door-to-door pairs usually referred to social status and economic status.
"Mendang" is a stone pier or stone drum placed at the door of a large family, representing the state of wealth; "household pair" refers to the prominent columnar wood carvings and brick carvings on the lintel of the large family, usually appearing in pairs, with the theme of rare animals and birds, representing the official position. Therefore, through the door to the door, you can understand the family's wealth level.
Door to door
Now, the definition of the door is not only social class and hierarchical shackles, but more individual. It includes the following three aspects: 01. Portal" is comparable; 03. Personality is similar.
01. Three views and harmony
The main reason for the three views is to be able to have the opportunity to find a solution that is acceptable to both sides when solving the problem. The three views are related to a person's family background, growth environment, educational cognition, personal experience, etc.
I once hosted a wife online who was struggling with whether to divorce herself because she had a conflict with her husband, and the reason for the conflict was to borrow money. The two people once had a conflict over the issue of borrowing money, and finally the husband said that he would definitely tell his wife to borrow money in the future. But the last time, the husband lent money to the same person, cut first and then played, and directly lent out a month's salary, leaving not a single cent for the family. After the wife questioned, the husband said that because of his face, he could not discuss with his wife, and because of his wife's intransigence, he simply blackmailed his wife.
Three views is actually a very general concept, you like potatoes I like sweet potatoes is not a three-view problem; you think brothers are more important, I think two people's homes are more important is the three-view problem. Some husbands may shirk the problem of borrowing money, tell their brothers about their difficulties, and wait for discussion with their wives before making a decision; some husbands may choose to lend a small part, after all, their own home still has to live; and some husbands may feel that their money can be decided by themselves, without considering their wives and families.
And these different choices actually represent the three views, and the three views and two people can have the possibility of reaching agreement on major events.
02. "Portal" is equivalent
The "portal" here has something to do with wealth, but what is more important is that the two families do not feel high or low to marry each other, that is to say, mutual respect. When one of the two families feels that they are in a high or low position, it is easy to affect the small couple getting along after marriage, especially when the small couple has unclear boundaries between the big and small families and needs to rely on their parents.
Although we are increasingly emphasizing the boundaries between large and small families, in reality, because of the pressure of life, many couples cannot balance work life and children, and their parents naturally intervene in their small families. And when two families can't respect each other, it is easy to cause conflicts and destroy the happiness of the small family and everyone. So it is also important that the two families can respect each other.
03. Similar personalities
The most appropriate thing about the similarity of two people's personalities is that they are easy to understand each other, because they can empathize, which is often referred to in psychology. People with similar personalities can sometimes eliminate a lot of unnecessary communication conflicts, and therefore consume less or slower love, which is more appropriate in a sense.
So, the most suitable marriage actually depends on these 3 aspects, and the door is priceless and true love. What do you think about the most suitable marriage? Feel free to leave your thoughts below! You can also send a private message to us, a professional emotional marriage expert to answer your questions.