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On January 6, the Tianxin District Court of Changsha City issued a Family Education Order, which is the first Family Education Order issued in the country after the Family Education Promotion Law came into effect. The order stipulates that the guardian Chen mou shall not allow the 8-year-old child to live alone with the nanny, but shall let the child live with him, and the child shall be personally raised and accompanied by himself or a close relative.
On January 1, the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education came into effect. Overall, this is a law with more guiding significance than normative significance.
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Why did Changsha issue this "Family Education Order"? The incident is: the man Hu mou and his wife Chen mou agreed to divorce, and the two sides agreed that the daughter would be raised by the wife. Chen remarried after divorce and took his daughter to move to a new rental house, resulting in her daughter not being able to go to school for two weeks. After Hu mou knew, he fulfilled his obligation to raise and care for the child by finding full care and asking for a nanny.
The court held that Hu's letting the child live alone with the nanny shows that he only fulfills the obligation of "raising", but also neglects to exercise the obligation of education and protection. In the end, the court rejected Hu's request to change the custody, corrected the dereliction of duty of the legal guardian Chen in accordance with the law, and issued a "Family Education Order" to Chen in accordance with the law. The court's starting point is that for minors, parents must raise and accompany in addition to raising, so that children will be physically and mentally healthy.
This also reflects articles 20 and 21 of the Family Education Promotion Law, in which the parents of minors should cooperate with each other to perform their family education responsibilities after divorce, and neither party may refuse or neglect to perform. It is not enough to leave the child to the nanny to raise.
Articles 20 and 21 of the Family Education Promotion Act
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The Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka once wrote in his book, Serenade: "It is terrible to think of parents who do not have to go through exams." This sentence once set off a big discussion on the Internet, and many netizens have exposed how their parents are incompetent and what kind of childhood trauma they have suffered. The occasional child abuse news is also frightening.
In May 2020, a 6-year-old girl in Liaoning was abused by her mother and boyfriend
Many people may feel that these are far away from us, "I have not experienced domestic violence, and I certainly will not do this to my children." But as long as you give food and don't scold, are you a good parent?
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Mr. Lu Xun once told such a story in "Hot Wind and Sui Zhi Lu Twenty-Five": "In the last year of the qing dynasty, when a teacher training school was first opened in a certain province, an old gentleman listened to it, was very surprised, and said indignantly: 'Why does the teacher still have to be taught, so it seems that there should be a father Fan Xuetang!' ’”
This old gentleman at the end of the Qing Dynasty believes that if teachers need to go to the normal school, then the father should go to the "father fan school", in his view, these two things are incredible, is a challenge and subversion of the traditional teacher power and patriarchy. Mr. Lu Xun commented: "This old gentleman thinks that his father's qualifications are as long as he can give birth. If you can give birth to this, you will naturally do it, so why should you be taught? But he did not know that in China, he was now required to be in the Fan Academy; this gentleman had to be assigned to the first level of the primary class. ”
If from the perspective of blood relations, the "qualifications" of parenthood are indeed innate, children cannot choose, and others cannot take them away; but if from the perspective of family education, the "qualifications" of parents are not so natural, because at this time parents have become a "profession", shouldering the responsibility of educating their children, and it is dereliction of duty not to educate their children correctly in morality and three views.
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Now generally speaking, people's awareness of education has improved a lot, but there are also many people who have gone into the wrong area, and it is a responsibility to understand education simply as teaching children to learn scientific knowledge, and to accompany children to write homework every day. While it is important to learn about culture and science, education does not stop there. Cultivating a sound personality and establishing a correct outlook on life, world outlook, and values can help children maintain a good attitude in the fierce social competition, and can they have a healthy psychology to face life.
Some surveys show that in 2020, the detection rate of depression among adolescents in China reached 24.6%, while the detection rate of depression in rural children was 25.2%. Experts say many depressed people pursue perfect personalities. In addition to personality reasons, studies have shown that poor birth families are also the main cause of depression in children. It is precisely because parents are the first teachers of children, the importance of teaching by example is self-evident, and it is necessary to pay more attention to family education and correctly carry out family education.
However, the life of the law lies in its implementation, and in order to promote family education legislation is a good start, and it is necessary to do a good job in implementation, implementation and enforcement. It is recommended to study more from Changsha and find ways to promote the implementation of the Family Education Promotion Law.