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From the things and objects that a woman chooses, we can see her true taste, including her friends and the men standing next to her, which are also the true refractions of taste.
Not only that, from a man's character and literacy, you can judge the level at which a woman is located.
The so-called clustering of things, people in groups, the psychological law of attraction, runs through all aspects of our lives. What kind of person you are, you will meet what kind of person, so choose what kind of person, which is also the main reason why many people say that different circles cannot be hard-melted.
You know, women of higher rank and women of lower rank, the men chosen will be very different. This is not empty talk, but has a certain factual basis.
In the view of psychologists, a person's choice of the other half is actually making up for the imperfections and lack of their own hearts, which is the so-called "love compensation effect".
The so-called love compensation effect is designed to emphasize that the more a person lacks something in his heart, the more he likes to find what kind of person to be his love object and marriage partner.
Let's take a simple example.
Girls who have been poor since childhood will want to become richer than ordinary people, and they will want to marry rich people more than ordinary people; and girls who have lacked love since childhood will be grateful and easily fall into trouble whenever others have a little kindness to her when they grow up. Moreover, they prefer the mature and considerate uncle type who will take care of people, which is also the so-called Oedipal complex.
It is precisely because of the compensatory effect of love that many women choose the wrong person. Because they are too concerned about their own inner needs, they ignore each other's real character, so that in the end, they are hurt to the skin.
Under normal circumstances, the lower the level of a woman, the more she likes the following two kinds of men, and this kind of like, often with a certain degree of blindness, is difficult to bring real happiness.
One: Nouveau riche or landlords who have nothing but money, have poor character and low morals
Although most women care more about men's money than they care about the character of the other party, and whether they are sincere about themselves, some women are just the opposite.
They live too snobbish, too materialistic, how the man's character is, whether he is good or not, it does not matter at all, what matters is whether he has money and whether he is willing to spend money for himself.
Such women are usually of a very low level because their minds are barren, short-sighted and limited.
In Jia Pingwa's "Temporary Sitting", there is a woman named Xin Qi, which is a typical example.
She is very beautiful and in good shape, and is the type that makes it easy for men to fall in love at first sight, but she is not simple. Compared with the local girls in Shanghai, she does not have any advantage, she comes from the countryside, her family is poor, so she wants to gain a foothold in the big city.
But she is not a down-to-earth person, but wants to take shortcuts, so she wants to climb the rich and change her destiny. It's just that the results are not ideal, and the harder she tries, the more she is looked down upon.
Because, from the very beginning, her efforts were in the wrong direction.
When she was the lover of a rich man, she also mistakenly thought it was love, and foolishly waited for the other party to divorce and marry herself, and the result was nothing more than a cold eye and a joke.
The level at which Xin Qi was located determined her choice, and she thought that she could rewrite her fate by relying on men, but it was because of her silly naivety. A woman who really has a pattern and has vision will not turn low-quality men who have nothing but money into the scope of mate selection, because they are simply unreliable.
Two: Men who are good at coaxing women to be happy, but never specialize, and will only blindly play with feelings
In today's fast-paced era, there are very few men who are loyal. But it is loyalty that can make a relationship last, and only loyalty is the most reliable quality of a man.
For women, meeting a loyal man can be described as a rare luck.
Because even if he does not have a lot of money for the time being, even if the conditions are not too good, but his character is reliable, he can always slowly make himself live a good life through his own efforts.
However, some women, do not look up to such honest people, they always like those who will only play with feelings of the love field prodigal son. They do say a lot of sweet words to make you happy, they do do a lot of romantic things, they do surprise you, but so what? They can't give you anything but that.
He won't give you a commitment, he won't give you a future, and he won't take any responsibility for you.
All they want is to enjoy the moment, and when they get tired of it one day, they may directly draw a line with you. After all, for them, you are no different from the goods you spend money to buy, and the only value of existence is to make him happy.
Only low-level women will allow themselves to become men's playthings, because they have no self-esteem, let alone win men's love and respect.
Don't think that with youth and beauty, you can exchange everything you want, once people lose themselves, lose the bottom line of being a person, and then want to get back on the right track, it is almost impossible.
A truly intelligent woman doesn't just look at the surface when she looks at people. They will know how to be responsible for themselves, will value feelings, value character, and emphasize morality, rather than not caring about nothing and only recognizing money.
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