Jia Pingwo once said in "Temporary Sitting": "Those women who look fashionable and noble, may be expensive satchels stuffed with kneaded toilet paper, the lining under the skirt is washed yellow, and the stockings in the delicate high heels have long been hung silk." ”
Deeply. This book, written by Mr. Jia Pingwa four times, has been written for two years, explains 12 women thoroughly, and also interprets the different lives of 12 women.
As this passage says, those women who look fashionable and noble may only be superficially glamorous, but only they know in their hearts.
In his book, in his pen, there is no shortage of such women. Read the whole book, you will find that he said that such a fashionable and noble-looking, in fact low-level woman, emotionally, often falls into a desperate situation.
And the reason is not so complicated, it is nothing more than because the lower the level of a woman, the more she will pretend to be noble, and the easier it is to ignore the important factors of mate selection.
Women at a higher level will look for a suitable partner, but women at a lower level will usually spin around in these two kinds of men.
Men with good family conditions but no sense of responsibility
Among the dozen or so women in the book "Temporary Sitting", there is a woman named "Xin Qi". Xin Qi, born in the countryside, poor family conditions, from childhood enough to live a hard life.
In her perception, marriage can change her destiny, and men can make her start a different life journey than before. Therefore, she is bent on meeting and clinging to rich men, at all costs.
Therefore, when she met a wealthy businessman from Hong Kong, she willingly and without hesitation made the means to enter the arms of this man, and did not hesitate to divorce her husband.
For some women, admire the ignorance and fearlessness of Xin Qi, who can abandon the original match and choose other men for money. But for most smart women, the move is tantamount to a moth to a fire.
Sure enough, after the divorce, When Xin Qi was full of joy and fantasy about living a good life and having a rich life in the future, he did not expect that this man was just playing with her.
After getting her, the man disappeared without a trace, leaving only One person, shocked, sad, regretful and hateful.
Despite her mixed feelings, she was still unwilling to face the facts, and she still wanted to have children for this man, fantasizing that this man could return to her side again, and the onlookers sounded the alarm bell for her.
The sisters around her were blunt, telling her that people like her were actually irresponsible, irresponsible men. Such a man has never paid his heart to Xin Qi, just because he has money and plays with her, how can he marry a woman home because of a child?
In other words, even if Xin Qi's status is recognized for the sake of children, how can he not abandon Xin Qi again after having children with other women?
At this time, Xin Qi realized how ignorant his former self was.
A woman who wants to marry well is not wrong with the idea itself. But this must not be an absolute condition for a woman to choose a man. If a woman can only see money in her eyes, does not pay attention to the sense of responsibility and sincerity of men, it is bound to appear vulgar, the level is too low, and such a woman is destined not to be cherished by men, and naturally will experience twists and turns in her feelings.
A man who is deep in love on the surface and is actually a man with a heart
There is a man in "Temporary Sitting" called "Yi Guang". Yi Guang often communicates with the women in the tea house, but he never really likes anyone, really establishes a relationship with anyone, and only has a deep affection for a Russian girl.
In order to get this Russian girl, he tried his best, said all the sweet words, and did his best to express himself. Faced with such a strong and affectionate pursuit, the Russian girl naturally could not resist and quickly threw herself into his arms.
However, when he made the act of leaving the girl a strand of hair with great affection, the girl who was deeply impressed found that Yiguang had originally collected a lot of girls' hair.
At this time, she understood that Yiguang was not dedicated to her, nor was he affectionate, but abusive. He was just one of his many "prey", and there was nothing special about it.
Later, after she woke up, she returned to her hometown and cut off contact with Yiguang.
I was glad the girl was awake and not confused. But anyone who is confused by this kind of man and thinks that he is the most special one will often fall into passivity and make some unimaginable moves.
Undoubtedly, such a woman is not smart and the level is not high. A smart woman understands that in love, the cheapest thing is amorous, and what we are looking for is a man who is devoted to you.
What a woman's level is, she will choose what kind of man. Women at a low level often pay attention to appearance, what they see in their eyes is the material, and it is the man's superficial affection; women at a higher level will pay attention to the man's inner and value the man's special feelings, and will not be confused by the illusion, and will not easily fall into the trap of men.
I hope that you are not such a low-level woman, and I hope that all women do not only care about the superficial nobility and brilliance, but also pay attention to the inside. Because only when you are such a person yourself, you will have a pair of eyes that can see through men, and you can have fewer twists and turns and hurts in your feelings, and less experiences of being disappointed.
Of course, it's not easy to do that. Only when you have a rich spiritual world, have walked through enough places, read enough books, and understood the world and human emotions, can you gradually understand how to have a greater chance of choosing the right person.
Jia Pingwa, who has been silent for decades in 2020, returned to everyone's vision again with his new work "Temporary Sitting".
Originally thought that "Waste Capital" was the limit, but I didn't expect that "Temporary Sitting" brought a huge surprise to everyone! There are deeper character portrayals, flesh and blood, serene tranquility, and the depiction of hand-to-hand combat between men and women is more exciting. In particular, Yiguang Three Plays Ocean Horse Eva is a classic, which has more depth and taste than The Seven Plays of Zhuang Zhidi in "Waste Capital"!
The book "Temporary Sitting", he spent a lot of energy to create, into the wisdom of life for decades. He said that those who can understand can see epiphany, and those who cannot understand see only tacky.
Jia Lao wrote about the 12 women, although each woman is circling between men, as if writing their emotional history, to be precise, the history of the struggle of 12 women. However, the writing method of "Temporary Sitting" is similar to that of "Waste Capital", and there are many "bold" contents in the book, so it has also caused a lot of criticism.
Everyone's struggle is a contest between human nature and desire, and Jia Lao has recorded them with a pen, and it has also recorded us. Because to look at the lives of 12 women is to look at our own lives.
If you are oppressed by life, troubled by work, and confused in love, you may wish to read this good book that integrates 12 kinds of life, which may give you some different inspiration and thinking.
"Temporary Sitting" + "Waste Capital" + "Free and Alone" + "May Life Be Calm" gives you not only sensory enjoyment, but also spiritual epiphany.