Jia Pingwo once said in "Temporary Sitting": "Those women who look fashionable and noble, may be expensive satchels stuffed with kneaded toilet paper, the lining under the skirt is washed yellow, and the stockings in the delicate high heels have long been hung silk." ”
Deeply. This book, written by Mr. Jia Pingwa four times, has been written for two years, explains 12 women thoroughly, and also interprets the different lives of 12 women.
As this passage says, those women who look fashionable and noble may only be superficially glamorous, but only they know in their hearts.
In his book, in his pen, there is no shortage of such women. Read the whole book, you will find that he said that such a fashionable and noble-looking, in fact low-level woman, emotionally, often falls into a desperate situation.
And the reason is not so complicated, it is nothing more than because the lower the level of a woman, the more she will pretend to be noble, and the easier it is to ignore the important factors of mate selection.
Women at a higher level will look for a suitable partner, but women at a lower level will usually spin around in these two kinds of men.
1. Men with good family conditions but no sense of responsibility
Among the dozen or so women in the book "Temporary Sitting", there is a woman named "Xin Qi". Xin Qi, born in the countryside, poor family conditions, from childhood enough to live a hard life.
In her perception, marriage can change her destiny, and men can make her start a different life journey than before. Therefore, she is bent on meeting and clinging to rich men, at all costs.
Therefore, when she met a wealthy businessman from Hong Kong, she willingly and without hesitation made the means to enter the arms of this man, and did not hesitate to divorce her husband.
For some women, admire the ignorance and fearlessness of Xin Qi, who can abandon the original match and choose other men for money. But for most smart women, the move is tantamount to a moth to a fire.
Sure enough, after the divorce, When Xin Qi was full of joy and fantasy about living a good life and having a rich life in the future, he did not expect that this man was just playing with her.
After getting her, the man disappeared without a trace, leaving only One person, shocked, sad, regretful and hateful.
Despite her mixed feelings, she was still unwilling to face the facts, and she still wanted to have children for this man, fantasizing that this man could return to her side again, and the onlookers sounded the alarm bell for her.
The sisters around her were blunt, telling her that people like her were actually irresponsible, irresponsible men. Such a man has never paid his heart to Xin Qi, just because he has money and plays with her, how can he marry a woman home because of a child?
In other words, even if Xin Qi's status is recognized for the sake of children, how can he not abandon Xin Qi again after having children with other women?
At this time, Xin Qi realized how ignorant his former self was.
A woman who wants to marry well is not wrong with the idea itself. But this must not be an absolute condition for a woman to choose a man. If a woman can only see money in her eyes, does not pay attention to the sense of responsibility and sincerity of men, it is bound to appear vulgar, the level is too low, and such a woman is destined not to be cherished by men, and naturally will experience twists and turns in her feelings.
2. A man who is deeply emotional on the surface and heavy in reality
There is a man in "Temporary Sitting" called "Yi Guang". Yi Guang often communicates with the women in the tea house, but he never really likes anyone, really establishes a relationship with anyone, and only has a deep affection for a Russian girl.
In order to get this Russian girl, he tried his best, said all the sweet words, and did his best to express himself. Faced with such a strong and affectionate pursuit, the Russian girl naturally could not resist and quickly threw herself into his arms.
However, when he made the act of leaving the girl a strand of hair with great affection, the girl who was deeply impressed found that Yiguang had originally collected a lot of girls' hair.
At this time, she understood that Yiguang was not dedicated to her, nor was he affectionate, but abusive. He was just one of his many "prey", and there was nothing special about it.
Later, after she woke up, she returned to her hometown and cut off contact with Yiguang.
I was glad the girl was awake and not confused. But anyone who is confused by this kind of man and thinks that he is the most special one will often fall into passivity and make some unimaginable moves.
Undoubtedly, such a woman is not smart and the level is not high. A smart woman understands that in love, the cheapest thing is amorous, and what we are looking for is a man who is devoted to you.
What a woman's level is, she will choose what kind of man. Women at a low level often pay attention to appearance, what they see in their eyes is the material, and it is the man's superficial affection; women at a higher level will pay attention to the man's inner and value the man's special feelings, and will not be confused by the illusion, and will not easily fall into the trap of men.
Of course, it's not easy to do that. Only when you have a rich spiritual world, have walked through enough places, read enough books, and understood the world and human emotions, can you gradually understand how to have a greater chance of choosing the right person.
In 2020, as soon as "Temporary Sitting" was published, it was shortlisted for the "October Good Book List", and then was named the "Overall Champion of Novels of the Year".
Because the scale of this book is larger than "Waste Capital", it has also caused a lot of doubts!
Some netizens said: Contemporary literary heroes always describe things in the beds of men and women, and they are impatient.
More netizens said: Isn't this the contemporary version of "Golden Plum Bottle"?
In the face of such doubts, Jia Pingwo only said lightly:
Ordinary people see "vulgarity", but as long as you have experienced life and you think about it with your heart, you will appreciate the essence of this book!
Jia Pingwa was reluctant to do more explanations, because he believed that he had spent too much effort to write this "Temporary Sitting", and its content itself was not vulgar, and only people with vulgar eyes saw that everything was vulgar.
Only those who have experienced the reality of this society can truly appreciate what is expressed in the book, which is Jia Pingwa's decades of social experience and thinking wisdom!
The content is very real, looking directly at human nature, but what it wants to tell us is not how dark we are in the place, but to tell us that darkness does exist, but we still have to live well.
So rather than saying that the story itself is the history of the affair of 12 women, it is more of a history of the struggle of urban people.
This book has been a very best seller since its launch, and has sold more than 20 million copies in half a year, if you feel lost and wrapped in desire now, you may wish to quietly jia Ping's concave books, which may give you a little guidance.
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