In the afternoon, I was attracted by a hot search. Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin landed on the first hot search, and the topic of this hot search was "Zhang Ruoyun sent Tang Yixin a cherry tree".
In the variety show "Semi-Familiar Lovers", Tang Yixin shared an interesting story in his love affair with Zhang Ruoyun.
Zhang Ruoyun knew that Tang Yixin liked to eat cherries, so he gave her a cherry tree and planted it in the family yard. Later, the cherry tree blossomed and bore fruit, but it was stolen by the bird.
The comments of netizens are full of envy, and they have left comments such as "this love is really enviable" and "so sweet, I am so envious".
The romance in love may be very simple, or it may be just a small habit of yours, or a small preference, the other party can write it down carefully, and pay practical actions to achieve it for you, which is enough to add a sweetness to love.
From ancient times to the present, there are countless love stories, and in the last century, there was such a couple, their love touched generations of people, they are Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu.
01.
Reading Mr. Yang Dai's "The Two of Us", I was attracted by the ordinary and warm life of their family of three, and I was even more moved by the quiet and long-flowing love between the two of them.
Qian Zhongshu once wrote a sentence to Yang Dai, roughly: Before seeing her, he never wanted to get married; after marrying her, he never regretted marrying her.
Do you believe in love at first sight? The love between Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu just confirms this. The two first met in 1932, and by the end of 1998, when Qian Zhongshu died, the two spent 66 years together.
After the first meeting, the two had a good feeling for each other, Qian Zhongshu began to write letters to Yang Chen, and the two exchanged wild geese, one after another, writing more and more diligently, until they fell in love.
After the two met, they went to school together, from love to marriage, to having a daughter Qian Yuan, in the great changes of the times, the two have always been each other's guardians.
Qian Zhongshu once said to Yang Chen: "From now on, we can only die and no longer be born and depart." ”
For more than sixty years, they did it, and until the moment Qian Zhongshu left this world, Yang Dai was with him.
In 2016, Mr. Yang Dai passed away, but her love with Qian Zhongshu will be passed down with the words and become the envy of generations of young people.
02.
In "The Two of Us", Yang Dai wrote: "No matter how difficult the situation we are in, what never stops is reading and writing, because this is also our pleasure. ”
Two people have a common hobby, which is a fortunate thing. Even if not, in the process of getting along, it is a very romantic thing to be able to respect each other or cultivate one with your heart.
We all like to be with people who have the same three views, and common hobbies, like a kind of glue, can make the relationship between two people more intimate.
When Qian Zhongshu wanted to write "Siege of the City", Yang Dai made a great "sacrifice", and she spent more energy on helping her husband create a comfortable creative environment.
The two support each other and grow together, although they have experienced many troubles and experienced the heat and cold of the world, but the two can turn their daily feelings into fine wine and drink lightly and taste carefully.
In the days when the two were not together, Qian Zhongshu often wrote letters to Yang Chen, specially writing down the events in her life, so that even when they were not together, the two could know each other's living conditions.
When there is a difficulty, the two will always bear it together, and then the difficulty is no longer a difficulty. As Yang Dai said in "The Two of Us", if we are a little happy, we will also become very happy.
Maybe that's one of the meanings of love.
03.
There is a saying that "appreciating a person begins with appearance, respect for talent, fit in character, long on kindness, loyal to character."
In this impetuous world, good love always seems to be rare. Therefore, many people will be afraid of marriage, because they do not know whether the person they meet is the person who is worth a lifetime.
True love should be: I love you, and you are free. The love between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai is a good interpretation of this.
Once Qian Zhongshu was faced with a major choice in his life, when he was struggling to obey his family's advice or his own wishes, Yang Dai did not interfere with him too much, but said his own suggestions and reasons.
The two almost did not quarrel after they were together, and when the two discussed things, they decided, not just by the decision of one party.
Love is mutual respect, to help, to perfect each other, not to bind, control, possess. Truly good love should be for the other party to become a better self, support each other, and grow together.