A man's love, in fact, is very simple, there is no need to guess at all.
Therefore, every time I encounter questions such as "does he not love me when he does this" and "how to test whether a man is sincere or false", I always have to advise: if you think he does not love you, then he really does not love you.
There is no need to look at love too complicated, men and women in the moment of falling into true love, the performance is similar, flesh and blood, care, initiative... If you can't perceive the unique changes between these lovers, you should also have a number in your heart.
Don't think that men's ambiguity is natural, and don't take men's silence as deep. If a man's question about love and non-love cannot give you a clear answer, always take care of him left and right, not active and not enthusiastic, most likely is not love.
Remember, if he really loves you, a man won't miss out on any opportunity to release his love, and he will become very proactive, proactive enough to make you wonder if he really has such a good idea?
In fact, a man who has real feelings for you will become active.
Reach out to you and pay attention to everything about you
There are always people who struggle with love and unlove, trying to verify love as soon as the wind blows, or persecuting or flattering, and have to get answers.
There are many such girls, immersed in the pain of love, unable to perceive love, but unwilling to let go.
Boyfriend is busy at work on weekdays, rest days are not playing games or meeting friends, and she has little contact, does not take the initiative to call, send messages, receives messages in a timely manner, and so on.
Girls always have to ask the bottom of the question: Why are you always so busy? Is the game important or am I important? Friends can't do without you? Are you really so busy that you don't even have time to call? Why didn't you ever take the initiative to care about me?
The more hysterical the girl became, the more silent the boy became, and in the end he died.
The ending is often that the boy leaves dashingly and the girl indulges in emotional wounds.
However, women tend to overlook the reality that the person who loves you will definitely take the initiative to contact you and pay attention to everything about you, and vice versa.
Man's love, very "wolf nature", with a desire to conquer, true love makes him eager to show himself, want to show the best of himself in front of you, want to let you know, with him is your most correct choice.
Therefore, in order to prove his love and sincerity, a man will definitely take the initiative to contact you.
Even if he is busy, he will send you a message in the gap between meals, seize every minute, seize every opportunity to contact you. Always pay attention to you, once you know what happened to you, he will appear to you against all odds.
Just like Gu Wei in the TV series "The Rest of Your Life, Please Give More Advice", as a doctor, he was so busy that he hit the back of his head with his feet and did not even have time to go to the toilet, but after receiving help from Lin Zhixue, he immediately appeared next to her.
Because of the true feelings, so omnipotent, so care, initiative, enthusiasm, from the heart want to please the beloved.
Take the initiative to explain to you relationships with other members of the opposite sex
Someone held the chat history in the boyfriend's mobile phone and forced the boyfriend to ask what your relationship was;
There are several times to delete a certain opposite sex in the boyfriend's communication, and the next time you turn over the phone to find the other party lying in the address book again;
Some people worry all day long, worried that their boyfriend has lost his sense of proportion with the warblers and swallows around him.
Either way, the feelings of gain and loss are always exhausting.
After watching an emotional show where the girl told about her boyfriend's transgression with the other members of the opposite sex, the boy did not think so, but accused the girl of turning over his mobile phone as an invasion of his privacy and interference with his freedom.
It is true that I do not approve of the behavior of turning over your partner's mobile phone without permission, but the emotional problems reflected behind this behavior cannot be ignored.
In "The Rest of Your Life, Please Give More Advice", From the moment he liked Lin Zhi School, Gu Wei was trying to explain his relationship with Gao Huan, at that time, Gu Wei and Lin Zhi School were still only doctors and patients' families, but when Lin Zhi School talked about Gao Huan, Gu Wei quickly explained that they were just classmates and colleagues.
If a man truly loves you, he will not let you be sad for love, take the initiative to explain the relationship with other members of the opposite sex to you, one is afraid of hurting you, and the other is afraid of causing unnecessary misunderstandings. As long as you show the slightest hesitation about his social relations, he will immediately sit down and patiently explain to you.
With him, you feel secure inside, and even if he has close friends of the opposite sex, you won't worry that he will do something sorry for you.
Take the initiative to introduce you to those around you
You have been together for many years, but you know nothing about him, you have not met his colleagues, friends, family, go back to each other's homes every New Year's Day, and never contact you during the separation.
Although you live under the same roof, you are like a tenant in the same house, and you sometimes wonder if one day he suddenly disappears, will you never find him.
Men don't love you, they will have reservations about you, you seem to be intimate, but in fact strange.
And what kind of man is it that has touched your true feelings? Without you asking, he will also take the initiative to introduce you to the people around you, colleagues want to introduce you to colleagues when they gather, friends are busy when they are small gatherings, they want friends to know you, and when the time is ripe, they will definitely introduce you to your parents and relatives.
Love needs to be boldly confessed, he may not send a circle of friends to show love, but he will definitely let the people around you know your existence and actively help you integrate into your circle.
He will tell friends and family what is cute about you, and he will tell them about your taboos, protect your vulnerability, and prevent the ignorance of others from hurting you.
Know that for most men, marriage means bondage, and stability means no freedom.
A man's willingness to introduce you to the people around him requires great courage and determination, which means that he is responsible for the relationship, there is no way back, even if it goes through layers of tests, he must hold your hand and go firmly.
Take the initiative to plan the future with you
Men say they love you, but they delay mentioning marriage, and they are forced to no way, and a sentence of "I am not ready" sends you away.
Believe me, all the men in the world who claim "I'm not ready" are not temporarily unsure of getting married or unsure of the future and want to fight for a few more years to give you the best life.
It's that he doesn't want to marry you in the first place, in other words, he doesn't have you in his future plans.
If you take a man's "rejection" as "implicit" and he says that he is not ready, you are at ease to wait for him to prepare, I am afraid that you will suffer a big loss in your feelings.
How many living examples tell us that a man who is not ready to get married can immediately throw himself into the next relationship after breaking up and get married and have children soon after.
Don't be silly girls, it's not that he's not ready to get married, he just doesn't want to marry you.
The man who truly loves you, from the moment he is with you, is constantly planning your future, when to buy a house, when to meet your parents, when to get married, when to have children... Piles and pieces were in his heart.
He will take the initiative to talk to you about future planning, take the initiative to talk about all the things related to you, and envision and your future.
There is restraint in a man's love, but also enthusiasm and initiative, only when he is with the person he loves, he can't wait to turn his vision into reality.
A female reader shared her love story with me, on the eve of her marriage with her husband, she was sent to other cities to do projects, so busy that she didn't have time to prepare for the wedding.
Ben thought that it was too late to prepare, it was better to postpone it for two months, her husband was in a hurry to get married, specially took annual leave to contact the wedding company, buy wedding supplies, etc., she was at ease to finish the project, and the wedding was almost ready.
If it is not the power of true love, how can a man take the initiative to spend energy doing these trivial and boring things?
In the man's world, the line between love and non-love is very clear, and the sign that a man really loves you is the "three actives". In his initiative, he hides his deep affection and determination.
When you are loved, please cherish it; when you don't love, please stop the loss in time.
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