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Everything has cracks, and that's where the light comes in.
—Leonard Cohen
In "Please Give More Advice for the Rest of Your Life", Gu Wei said this sentence to Lin Zhixue, and this sentence is the appearance of their love. This article is also an agreement with readers, hoping to talk about their love.
The same frequency but no love
Gu Wei in "The Rest of Your Life Please Give More Advice" is a young and promising surgeon, all of whom say that thirty years old is standing, and for him, a thirty-year-old person only has the cause of curing diseases and saving people, and there is no love. However, for everyone around him, he and his colleague Gao Hun are the golden children in the hospital, and it is only a matter of official time to fall in love and get married.
Whether it is the external conditions or the degree of tacit understanding between the two people working together, it seems that all the conditions for love to occur are indeed met. In particular, two people have a high degree of opportunity for dialogue in the same field, and it can be said that they are the same frequency people we often say.
It is reasonable to say that people of the same frequency have a better chance to become lovers, not to mention that Gu Wei and Gao Huan from classmates to colleagues, get along day and night, and experience and witness many important moments in each other's lives, which are all added to the feelings. When Gao Huan was still a classmate, he fell in love with Gu Wei, and all he could see was Gu Wei, but Gu Wei was not far away and did not make any statement.
Gao Huan thought that this was caused by Gu Wei's personality, Gu Wei's cold treatment of people was family heirloom, but also a professional habit, Gao Huan also had such a side, so in Gao Huan's view, as long as he has been working together and accompanying, Gu Wei and her marriage are within reach.
It wasn't until the appearance of a patient's family that Gao Huan found that her judgment was wrong, and Gu Wei was not unenlightened about love, but only opened up to her. When Gu Wei clearly explained to Gao Huan that they had always been good friends, good colleagues were nothing more than that, and they had never had a single love for Gao Huan.
The reason for this is that they are a type of person. We all think that people of the same frequency can have better love, and they can insist on going longer, Gao Huan thinks so, many people in life will think like this, but Gu Wei is telling you that he does not want to come home after a day of work, or discuss work, or see another self.
The love he wants is the person who can shine in his life, and this person is Lin Zhixue.
Complementary love is a beam of light
Gu Wei has been someone else's child since he was a child, and after work, in the eyes of everyone, whether it is talent or appearance, it is perfect, but Lin Zhixue has seen the dark side of this big boy's heart.
Lin Zhixue told Gu Wei that when I saw you rescue patients in the ward that day, I knew that you must be the kind of genius player who has everything in control, and people like you feel that you can change the world with your own strength. So when something goes wrong, the greater your sense of responsibility, and the feeling of powerlessness is stronger than ours.
As the saying goes, everything has cracks, there will be no perfect people and things in this world, for those who are almost perfect, the cracks or cracks will be very small and deep, and they will not be easily seen by others, nor will they be allowed to be seen.
In such a place, only sunlight can penetrate and shine into it, so that the life that has been dim and dull in the usual days can be revitalized. The significance of Lin Zhixue's life to Gu Wei lies in this, which is why he and Gao Hun have coexisted for many years, but there is no feeling of love, and Lin Zhixue, who has known Lin Zhixue for several months, can hold hands for a lifetime.
Gu Wei and Lin Zhixue fell in love, making everyone wonder, a doctor and a cellist, a mature man in his thirties, a college student in his early twenties who had not yet entered society, a tall and straight man with an online appearance, and a little girl who was cute in addition to cuteness.
How to see the lives of two people are parallel lines, there will be no intersection, but they are in love. This is the legendary complementary type of love.
The beauty of complementary love is that two people who are completely incongruous in the eyes of others come together, and they can also be like the mortise structure, and the advantages and disadvantages can be tightly sewn together, which is another kind of perfection.
I remember reading a cartoon before, to the effect that each of us came to this world, missing a part, only to meet the other half can make up for each other, and then like a wheel can go out together for a long time, long to a lifetime.
Different frequencies make love awkward
Complementary love is bound to have many different frequencies. Gu Wei and Lin Zhi schools also suffered from the embarrassment of different frequencies.
Gu Wei, whether from age or profession, has entered a calm and rational state, and the state of Lin Zhi school is the moment when the flower season blooms, and there is vitality and more emotional everywhere. Gu Wei told Lin Zhixue that he had studied a major, Lin Zhixue could not understand it, Lin Zhixue and Gu Wei discussed cello music, and Gu Wei could only simply appreciate it because of love.
In addition to the cognitive difficulties of communication at the spiritual level, there are also differences in living habits that are more difficult to overcome.
Lin Zhixue has the common preference of girls of this age, love to eat hot pot and drink Coke, but in Gu Wei's life, these are unhealthy living habits, and they have never been tried.
These are some of the appearances of two people getting along, and the result is essentially that when the problem appears in front of two people, they cannot think the same way, that is, there is no tacit understanding.
Isn't that heartfelt?
Just like Gu Wei took Lin Zhi School on his first formal date, Lin Zhi School tried to make herself an intellectual lady who wanted to cater to Gu Wei, and Gu Wei tore the glue sticker from Lin Zhi School's eyes without realizing it. The screen can feel that laughter is not alive, if in reality, it is only embarrassing and depressed.
Therefore, complementary love, in the future, many people will feel that they cannot be together at all, because it is too difficult to want tacit understanding, and the way of thinking of the two people is the opposite.
Complementary love can also have happiness
Although the ending of this drama is fairytale, Gu Wei and Lin Zhi will be happy because they have received the key to the happiness of complementary love.
For complementary love, when opening an intimate relationship, there must be a bottom line of thinking, that is, the other party and themselves have a lot of differences, these are not necessarily the place, it is likely to be the way of thinking, may also be the habit of life, the difference in the way of thinking is the place that can make up for their shortcomings, the difference in lifestyle is to make their own life more possible.
If there is no such awareness, blindly pursuing tacit understanding, it is likely to bury this relationship with your own hands, and finally come to a conclusion that people of different frequencies cannot walk together.
After establishing this awareness, there can be further sublimation, that is, to appreciate the differences of the other party rather than dislike. It can be said that the spark of love that can make two completely different people rub out the spark of love must be that the other party has its own appreciation part, just like Lin Zhixue appreciates Gu Wei's sense of responsibility and accepts his high coldness, and Gu Wei also appreciates Lin Zhixue's meticulous warmth and acceptance of her heartlessness and lungs.
Once there is appreciation in an intimate relationship, it is like injecting a babbling stream, which can always nourish love and make the relationship more unbreakable.
And the seemingly simplest and most difficult point is to overcome the differences in their living habits together. For everyone, before meeting the other half of true love, at least one person has lived for one or two decades, has their own comfort zone in life, and once they have different living habits, there will indeed be discomfort.
Since it is a complementary type of love, you must understand that while opening up a different life in the opposite direction, you also need to have some attempts and experiences, not necessarily change, but at least to be acceptable.
Gu Wei has the habit of cleanliness brought about by his profession, and Lin Zhixue tried to accept it from the beginning, and after each time he disinfected his hand, he would specially hold it up in front of Gu Wei and let him check it. A thing that would have been embarrassing and troublesome, just because of a small response by Lin Zhixue, it became an intimate action between lovers, and Lin Zhixue gave Gu Wei a baby, making people eat a wave of dog food unexpectedly.
Therefore, once you meet a complementary type of love, don't rush to make up your mind, or regret that your brain was in the water after a few years, all choices are the best choice, but you need the rest of your life, please pay more attention to advice.
(The pictures are from the screenshots of the TV series "Please advise more for the rest of your life", if there is infringement, please contact to delete)