The woman married to a million-dollar household, and after the flash marriage and pregnancy, she was miserable, and the mother-in-law: afraid that she would take the money and run away

Wen | Purple Leaf Girl

The female writer Qi yannian once wrote in "Pingsheng Huan":

"Marriages are often full of holes. And a hasty marriage is a loophole in itself. Once you fall into it, you fall to the bottom of that dark, damp, invisible hole. It will always take a lot more effort to climb out than when you fell in. ”

Regarding marriage, many people have advised young people not to treat marriage as a child's play, but to be cautious; especially for women, there are many more admonitions than men, such as "marriage is the second reincarnation of women." ”

Chinese-style marriage, after a hundred years, has a long history, as a parent, the expectations of women's marriage are almost the same, and they all hope that their daughters can "marry a good family". But there are not many parents who make it clear what is the three words of "good family", so that many young people treat marriage, defining the so-called "good family" as "rich", or being confused by "love", and finally, after entering marriage, they find it too late to regret it.

Marry a millionaire, a woman's marriage, must be happy?

Once upon a time, 33-year-old Hu Xiaoying (pseudonym) was such a woman, one of the envy objects of relatives and friends around her, married to a million-dollar expropriator, but when it comes to this marriage, to this day, Hu Xiaoying is not half happy, but has a more sad look on her face.

Subsequently, Hu Xiaoying told us about her marriage.

Two years ago, Hu Xiaoying was working outside the home, met her 34-year-old boyfriend Zhou Hu (pseudonym), the two met for less than 3 months, and the boyfriend's mother made a marriage request to Hu Xiaoying.

At that time, the relationship between Hu Xiaoying and Zhou Hu had not yet reached the point of talking about marriage, at that time, Hu Xiaoying did not want to marry Zhou Hu immediately, but Zhou Hu's mother repeatedly urged the two to get married early, as for the reason, it was the hometown of her boyfriend Zhou Hu, and it was about to be levied, if Hu Xiaoying married in the past, there would be one more quota.

Therefore, Hu Xiaoying could not withstand the urging of her future mother-in-law, and hastily married her boyfriend Zhou Hushan, and after marriage, Hu Xiaoying soon became pregnant;

Immediately after, the levy money also came down, Hu Xiaoying revealed that the demolition money is about 2 million, after getting the money, the in-laws contributed 820,000 yuan to buy a house of 1.4 million, however, a year has passed, seeing that other residents have moved in, Hu Xiaoying's house, but has not been handed over.

As for the reason, it is because Hu Xiaoying has a late-stage fee of about 30,000 yuan, which cannot be paid, resulting in the inability to deliver the house; even if the house is delivered, Hu Xiaoying has no money to renovate.

It is reasonable to say that 30,000 yuan is not much, but since Hu Xiaoying flashed marriage and pregnancy, after giving birth to her daughter, she lost her job, had no source of income, and had to raise children.

Therefore, Hu Xiaoying can only ask his mother-in-law for money, after all, when the original levy of 2 million yuan, Hu Xiaoying's mother and son have two shares, and it is reasonable to ask for it to be used for life.

But I didn't want to, the mother-in-law was actually a dime, Hu Xiaoying felt that he was "deceived", the mother-in-law let her marry Zhou Hu, that is, she rushed to collect money, and did not treat her as a family at all.

Secondly, Hu Xiaoying also revealed one thing, once the mother-in-law had a quarrel with other aunts, Hu Xiaoying came forward to dissuade, as a result, the mother-in-law felt that she had suffered a loss, so she let her husband Zhou Hu slap her, at that time, Hu Xiaoying's face was swollen and bruised.

Recalling the past, Hu Xiaoying always believed that her in-laws did not treat her as a daughter-in-law and felt that she was being used.

Today, she has no money, and her daughter is also her husband's family, and she has nothing, and she feels very wronged.

In the process of talking, Hu Xiaoying also revealed to us that she had repeatedly made requests to separate the family, but all of them were rejected by her mother-in-law, and even took out an IOU.

The IOU said that there was 1.4 million yuan in arrears, and the mother-in-law told Hu Xiaoying that all this was borrowed by her husband Zhou Hu to her mother-in-law before marriage, in addition to buying a house and daily expenses, Hu Xiaoying and her husband Zhou Hu's collection money had already been spent.

In this regard, Hu Xiaoying was a little angry, when she first married, she did not know that her husband Zhou Hu had arrears, afterwards, she also confronted her husband, and her husband Zhou Hu confessed to her that the arrears were written by her mother-in-law, and the requirements were excessive:

"The husband asks the mother-in-law to take 10,000 yuan, and the mother-in-law asks the husband to write a loan of 50,000 yuan; the husband takes 50,000 yuan, and the mother-in-law asks the husband to write a loan of 100,000 yuan."

Therefore, Hu Xiaoying had an idea, thinking that her mother-in-law Zhang Qiuping (pseudonym) was deliberately embarrassing herself, and the purpose was to cross the river and tear down the bridge.

Then, accompanied by us, Hu Xiaoying once again found her mother-in-law to reason, this time, how will her mother-in-law Zhang Qiuping defend herself?

The mother-in-law said her concerns in front of everyone, it turned out that Hu Xiaoying was married for the second time, and the first marriage had two children, and she was worried that her daughter-in-law Hu Xiaoying took this money and ran away.

Secondly, the mother-in-law also revealed that her son Zhou Hu was not self-motivated and had no job, and she originally wanted to marry a daughter-in-law who was diligent and thrifty and help her manage her son Zhou Hu, but she did not want to, and her daughter-in-law Zhou Hu Xiaoying was also a master who spent a lot of money.

Hearing her mother-in-law gossip, Hu Xiaoying was not happy, and then, he led us to see the skin care products she used, cheap skin care products, low-grade milk powder, this series of evidence, self-evidently tells us that Hu Xiaoying is not the daughter-in-law who is extravagant in her mother-in-law's mouth.

After some communication, we also finally figured out that the main cause of the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the root cause of all this, is Zhou Hu, a man who has no self-motivation and no responsibility.

Because the family is a levy household, Zhou Hu is idle all day, often playing cards and losing tens of thousands, and a group of wine and meat friends eat and drink, do not know how to be frugal, smoke is more than a hundred boxes, live a life, very luxurious.

The mother-in-law looked in her eyes, while doing a hurry, she also indulged Zhou Hu's profligacy, at the same time, looking at the son who hated iron and steel, she blamed the responsibility on Hu Xiaoying's body, and Hu Xiaoying's life was naturally not good.

Ye Xuan mentioned in "Paper Marriage":

"Marrying someone is not only marrying a man, but also marrying a family."

People often say that marriage is not a matter of two people, but about two families, parents always look forward to their children, marry a "good family", in fact, the so-called "good family", does not refer to whether the economic conditions of the other family are good or bad, but depends on a family style.

There is a Chinese saying that "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse will punch holes", the growth environment of a family, the innate creation of a person's three views, the choice of mate, the first thing to pay attention to is the character of the other party, at the same time, but also pay attention to the other party's family style.

Good family style, humility and courtesy of being an elder, family harmony, and kinship; bad family style, preoccupied calculations, and arbitrariness; marriage, if unilaterally only value money, ignore character and family style, is often stupid; good marriage must be three views of positive, mutual growth, two-way rush.