When the New Year is over, there are more or less single young people around us who have not returned home for too long, and as soon as they return home, they are urged to marry and even want to run away from home. We chatted with them, what are their tricks to go home for the New Year and face them to urge marriage?
Text | Financial gossip female author: Hehua
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Coming home for the Spring Festival, have you been urged to get married?
In the past few days, the topic of "Don't force the 90s in the New Year" has been on the hot search. In the video, in the face of the pressure of her parents urging marriage, a Hangzhou girl wittily replied that when she went home, she would "reverse marriage urging".
The "reverse" step begins by saying that he is going back, then questioning his parents when to arrange blind dates, urging them, and finally transferring the pressure to his parents, "so that parents will not push themselves." ”
This topic has resonated with many netizens, and some people have also posted an incident from their classmates' relatives. Recently, the old man in the young man's family passed away, and finally returned home after three years of the epidemic, but was madly urged to marry by his parents. After he couldn't bear it, the young man simply said that he had taken down his cousin, who was ten years older and widowed, and also performed a scene of "I call you sister, you call me dad" with his cousin's daughter at home.
provoked his parents to force them to urge marriage with death before, and now they are forced to go abroad to register, afterwards, the young man concluded, "As long as you are Yang Guo, you can beat and urge marriage"...
Of course, there is no way to refer to extreme cases, but more or less around us for the New Year, there are also single young people who have not returned home for too long, and as soon as they return home, they are urged to marry and even want to run away from home.
"30-year-old single flight attendant, forced to go on a blind date when she went home to take the exam"
Fang Yuan, female, 30 years old, former flight attendant, currently squatting at home
I come from a small 18th-tier county in the southwest region, after graduating from university, I entered a domestic leading airline as a flight attendant, flew to international routes after flying domestic routes, and after working for a few years, I went to the Netherlands and Paris to play, buy on behalf of me, and also fell in love with my crew colleagues.
The young ex-boyfriend is tall and refreshing, but he is a playboy, entangled with his ex-girlfriend, we talked for two years, and finally broke, no matter how I transferred after the breakup, I looked down and didn't look up, very annoyed and sad. To avoid him, I lost my mind and jumped to another smaller airline in another city.
But soon, because of poor welfare, poor leadership, and a sharp decrease in the number of flights under the influence of the epidemic, a person wandered hard and couldn't make money, my mother advised me to simply go back to my hometown to prepare for the teacher's exam. So, I went home in the middle of 2022, and then began the journey of being urged to get married...
My mother is the eldest in the family and a teacher, and she is the kind of tiger mother who can get up at six o'clock in the morning to memorize words, and she can say everything at home. I had no income at home for the time being, not only was she urged to prepare for the exam, but also had to urge blind dates during the Spring Festival. As soon as I opened the mobile game, she was anxious, thinking that I was 30 years old, had no future and no partner, and her colleagues could hold their grandchildren.
I retorted, and my mom said don't call her "mom" if you can't find someone.
▲ This picture comes from the Internet, Fang Yuan said that her mother also said "don't call me mother if you don't get married"
Then go on a blind date, but I wonder if my mother is so eager that when I see a man my age on the street, I think I should find out.
On the eve of the Spring Festival, the workers all went home, my mother brought her colleagues, relatives and friends, students' children or brothers to me on blind dates, she still did not pick, "bachelor's degree" whitewashed as a high education, "stupid mouth does not speak" whitewashed into calm and reliable, successively met a few middle-aged men of one meter six, bald, slightly small money, and proud men of the same age, my aunt directly called the matchmaker to ask her not to choose this kind of time.
Then my blind date was replaced by someone from the system. There was a guy who was 3 years older than me and worked for an electric power company, but not only did he not pay for the date, but he also felt that he was very good, and once boasted, "Without me, you can't use electricity in this city."
Now it is the Spring Festival, relatives and friends have more dinners, after sitting at the table, I have been asked 8 times if I have a partner, and currently there are 5 blind dates arranged on the second day, the fourth day of the new year, and the fifth day of the new year.
I'm thinking now, whether to pretend to be sick in Fuyang, or run away from home and join my aunt, I can't sit still and wait to see biodiversity...
"In the face of urging marriage, I only need to delay and perfunctory, so that my parents are convinced that I can't get married"
Zoey, female, 29 years old, former media personality, current student
I'm a native of Beijing, and I work in Shanghai, where I only came two years ago. Just because, the age of being urged to marry by parents has arrived.
My parents are very caring about me, before I went to school and work near home, I was a little trembling when I went back late, and I didn't dare to openly indulge in amusement activities such as the script killing room, and after arriving in Shanghai, the emperor was far away, and I could finally casually lie down as a salted fish.
Now I have no partner, I am not in a hurry, and I don't even want to go home for the New Year, in case my parents and relatives urge marriage, because it will definitely be troublesome. Last Spring Festival, I only stayed at home for 5 days, so I pretended to work overtime in the company and returned to Shanghai, and this year because I just quit my job and returned to Beijing, I was going to study in Australia next year, so I had to stay at home for a long time.
But fortunately, next year I will run away, people are "unstable", blind dates naturally can't get along, everything is perfect.
Next year, the year after tomorrow to study abroad, parents are not around, the voice of urging marriage can not be heard, at least can be quiet, this is also my consistent strategy, but, let's run! Be flexible.
After graduating and returning to China in a few years, I should already be an over-age woman at the age of 31, and I hope that the marriage market will let me go. But my friend said, "As long as you are over 30, your parents will accept the truth," and I was glad to hear it, but I hope so.
Anyway, I am now a combination of "running away from home + delaying perfunctory", don't try to change the thinking of an old person, it's too difficult, just let them accept the fact that you are too old to marry.
▲ Originating from Zoey
"My mother urged me to go on a blind date, squeezed my eyebrows and talked about it like a talk show"
Ni Ni, female, 27 years old, working in the system
I am twenty-seven years old and twenty-eight years next, and I feel that I am still young and in a hurry to get married, but my parents are too anxious.
They are actually very good parents, civil servants in small counties, attach importance to education, do not value sons over girls, and are willing to tilt all their resources to me, but they still can't escape the constraints of traditional concepts, but they just think that I can be happy if I have a man to take care of me, I get married and have children.
I was 26 years old after three years of master's studies and entered the system of a northern city. When everything settled, my parents began to urge marriage, first worried that my thick legs did not conform to the aesthetics of white and thin, saying that I was like an elephant and could not be married, so that I could lose weight; Let me pay more attention to my colleagues and friends, and find a "golden turtle son-in-law" as soon as possible, otherwise I will end up alone.
But I have always believed that girls can be independent, free, and confident, in order to avoid suppression, I have been cold war with them for most of the year, do not call, do not contact, slowly, the relationship eased, their marriage urging has also changed from direct push, to curve salvation, suggestive innuendo, like a silent drama that everyone knows, which only makes me feel funny.
For example, when I came home during the Spring Festival, my parents found a festive pink three-piece suit, which depicted a man riding a bicycle carrying a woman, smiling happily, next to love, obviously for the newlyweds' wedding room. My mother frowned as she made the bed, "Happy, right?" For marriage! ”
▲ Network screenshot, Yi Yi also agrees with this view
This kind of marriage urging also invaded every life scene of eating and drinking. For example, when eating Chinese New Year's Eve meal, suddenly a sentence "Tableware looks good, right?" Our family has many spare sets of small electrical appliances and tableware, all for your wedding, dowry, but I don't know when I can use it. ”
Watching TV in the living room, the paint on the ceiling fell off, I asked if I wanted to pay for the renovation of the house, my parents pretended to be very pitiful, choked and said, "Just two old people at home, not worthy of living in such a good house, when you bring your boyfriend back, we will quickly decorate this house." ”
Including me said, in a few years I will change the city to develop, it is more conducive to promotion, my parents agree, because "the current urban permanent population is too small, so there is no contact with high-quality men, go to the big city, the social area will expand, it is easier to find us a good son-in-law!" ”
And paradoxically, they cut back on food and clothing to save a house, a car, and a dowry for me, but they were also afraid that I would be bullied in marriage, and often said that I had to have premarital property, don't be deceived, it's quite incomprehensible...
Now, under my strong resistance, I have not yet reached the step of blind date, but only explicitly hinted at urging marriage, and I only have one sentence in my heart, "The big New Year, come here, do you want to say it without knowing the New Year?" ”
"I have a girlfriend, I am not married, my parents urge me to get married, it is very painful"
Wang Shi, male, 32 years old, financial practitioner
I am different from everyone's story, most of them have no object and are urged to marry, I have an object, my girlfriend refuses to get married, and my parents urge marriage.
I work in microlending, and a few years ago, my girlfriend and I worked as a front desk at the same financial company. At the age of 25, professional and very unpopular, there is definitely no future in being a front desk, so I suggested that she should take the certificate, securities business, accounting practice, etc., and then change to a better job.
My girlfriend also competed, and after a few years, not only did she get the accounting job, but she also passed the certified accounting certificate. Of course, it is very hard to prepare for the exam, but now her salary is very considerable, she can reach more than 300,000 yuan a year before tax, or even 400,000, and she does not sit at work, and she travels every month, which is even much higher than my salary.
It turns out that the object earns more money and the family status becomes higher. There was a fight and we didn't want to clean up the room, and I said for a moment that girls should do housework at home, she said "I earn more than you", and then I ran out of words.
Every year I wanted to marry her, but she always said, wait until the CPA test. Dragged on like this, years passed. Now, the note will be tested, there is no other reason, right?
▲ Talk show about parents urging marriage
My parents are very anxious, I am 32 years old, I am the eldest in the family, the second eldest is married and has children, I have not moved. However, my parents are currently just waiting for us to get married, and they are not arranging blind dates.
However, my friend has a cousin, in her twenties, still studying, her boyfriend has been talking for five years, and she has not yet planned to get married, and her parents have begun to ask tactfully, "Do you want to change to someone who can get married?" "It's also more radical.
If they don't move in the next year, it is estimated that uncles and aunts will have to directly prepare to arrange blind dates for her, a few Plan B.
"My parents don't know that I don't like girls, and it's embarrassing when I urge marriage"
Song Song, male, 27 years old, script killer shop host
My family is more traditional, and I didn't tell my parents that I didn't like girls. Therefore, I usually work in Changsha, and when I return to the small county below on National Day and Spring Festival, they began to urge marriage.
These days, I just went on a blind date with a girl. The main reason for going is for fear of trouble, my parents urged, and I didn't want to come out, so I went to see it first.
The other party's family and work are very good, and they look very temperamental, which should be the type that most people will like, but I feel a little embarrassed, but my family and her parents know each other, the small city is not big, they know each other's roots, in order to maintain the image, I have to try to pretend to be a straight man.
Finally, we exchanged polite pleasantries at the café, and I paid for it and sent her home.
In the past few days, I am also quite emotional, saying that the new year is new, but in the new year, I may still have to "cater on the surface and avoid the marriage and blind date" of my parents. Moreover, our circle objects change quickly. Sometimes, I'm a little pessimistic about my future.
However, live a good day and live in the moment.
Happy New Year! Please take a look at the fireworks I saw during the Spring Festival.