Share a special educational experience. When I was a child, I had a special educational experience. At that time, my parents were very busy with work and didn't have much time to take care of me, so I was sent to live with my grandmother in the countryside.
Grandma's house is a small village, where the people live a simple and simple life, but their love is the most sincere.
After marrying far away, my road to divorce is comparable to a TV series, and I will talk about it today.
So, we hired a lawyer to help, hoping to solve the problem through legal means. With the help of our lawyers, we finally signed a divorce agreement and decided to break up peacefully.
I meditated at my grandmother's house for a while, and slowly regained my inner peace and courage.
However, just when I thought everything was going to get better, something unexpected happened.
One day, I received a strange phone call, and the slightly crying woman claimed that she was my ex-husband's new girlfriend, and she told me that my ex-husband was the owner of her place of work and that they had been together for a while.
Afterwards, my ex-husband confessed that he had a new relationship and hoped that I would understand.
As a result, my ex-husband and I fell into a new round of quarrels and conflicts.
I was exhausted by this new family conflict, and I didn't know how to deal with it. I am willing to divorce my ex-husband, but I feel helpless about the child's support and future.
As long as we work together, there will be hope for everything.
The sudden divorce plunged me into a deep sense of loss and despair. I felt like a wounded animal, hiding in a corner and unable to extricate myself.
Life after the divorce was not as good as I had imagined, and the children gradually began to become rebellious. When I was with him, I was always emotional and became irritable and impatient, which made our relationship even more strained.
I didn't know how to face my life again. When my heart was heavy, my grandmother would always tell me with concern: "Find your inner strength and courage, you need children now, and you need yourself even more."
In the process, Xiaofang's husband filed a divorce agreement to divide the property, but Xiaofang felt that it was not fair.
This incident also made me reflect on whether my divorce agreement was also unfair, and I was deeply anxious and afraid.
However, just when I thought that everything would slowly get better, a new contradiction arose. My grandmother started to have some problems with her body, and she didn't tell me at first, but I found out that she wasn't in such a good state by looking at her.
I was very worried about her, but she didn't seem to want me to worry.
By chance, I found my grandmother's medical report, and I learned that my grandmother had a disease that was not optimistic.
This contradiction makes me very anxious. I didn't want to break my grandmother's expectations, but I couldn't bear to hide it from my family.
"Grandma, I know you don't want us to worry, but I'm really worried about you. You have to believe that your family will always be there for you.
Grandma's eyes glistened with tears as she slowly spoke her inner words. It turned out that my grandmother didn't want us to worry about her, she just wanted to be able to face all this in the most peaceful state, and she also wanted us to have good memories of her.
We hugged each other and cried, and in that moment, our hearts were closer to each other. I understand my grandmother's distress, but I still decided to tell my family all this, for my grandmother's sake, for our family affection.
During this time, our family was by my grandmother's side, accompanying her and making her feel our love. We spent a lot of warm time together and rekindled our warm feelings for family.
I haven't been back to my grandmother's house for a long time, walking in a familiar small village, which is still so quiet, idyllic and simple.
When my grandmother saw me this time, her expression was a little confused, and she seemed to have something to say to me, but she didn't say anything. In the evening, my grandmother took out an envelope, and when I opened it, I saw that it was a letter I had written to her many years ago, and it was written that I missed her.
After listening to my grandmother's words, I suddenly realized that she had been silently caring for me all along. I was very touched by all this.
After my husband and I divorced, my children and I returned to my grandmother's house, hoping to start a new life under her care.
She felt that the divorce was a very dishonorable thing, and I didn't stick to it, which made her disappointed in me.
Moreover, as an adult, I should have the right to choose my own way of life and should not be bound by moral concepts.
Perhaps, there was some misunderstanding between us.
During this time, the conflict between me and my grandmother made me feel very painful. I am troubled by the arguments and disagreements between us.
While I was trying to adjust myself, I was also looking for ways to communicate well with my grandmother. It all makes me feel exhausted.
Soon, I rediscovered the rhythm of life at my grandmother's house, and my children quickly integrated into life here with my grandmother.
However, I didn't expect that the next conflict would be triggered by my younger brother Xiaowei.
Xiaowei is the only child of my grandmother, and since I have been working in other places all the year round since I became an adult, my relationship with Xiaowei is not particularly close.
The neighbors where my grandmother lived also respected him, and the elders of the family often bowed to him.
However, grandma took care of all Xiaowei's affairs too much. She always holds Xiaowei in the palm of her hand, and listens to Xiaowei's opinion on every decision.
And during the time I lived with my grandmother, I never found my place.
Gradually, my grandmother and I relied on Xiaowei to make me feel uncomfortable. The child complained that I always left time for my grandmother and Xiaowei, and I could only silently comfort him.
This situation reached its peak, and one weekend, my grandmother and I had an argument over Xiaowei's affairs.
The contradiction was not resolved, and I realized that maybe I needed to make some changes. But the matter of Xiaowei may be a very difficult situation to deal with.
After all, conflicts in the family will inevitably exist, and we may need more communication and compromise. As for what to do next, I don't have a clear answer.