Wen Yiduo once said: "In the culture of the Chinese, they will always retain the imprint of Zhuangzi. ”
Throughout his life, Zhuangzi advocated freedom and emphasized the equality of all things, and he believed that everyone has their own unique value, and everyone should be themselves throughout their lives, not for other purposes.
Among the many stories of Zhuangzi, the one that people talk about the most is three fish.
01
The one in the North Underworld is not consumed
In "Zhuangzi Inner Chapter - Wandering Away", it is written: "There is a fish in the North Underworld, and its name is Kun. The Kun is so big that I don't know how many thousands of miles it is. Turned into a bird, its name is Peng. Peng's back, I don't know how many thousands of miles it is. Flying in anger, its wings are like clouds hanging from the sky. ”
The first time I saw the fish of the Northern Underworld, it was jaw-dropping. Such a big fish can turn into a bird, flutter its wings with a thousand miles of wind, and the sky can be compared with the clouds. What a majestic fish, what a free fish!
Just when people envy its freedom, Zhuangzi thinks that such freedom is "to be treated".
No matter how big the fish is, it can't take off without wind, and it can't make waves without water. Behind the seemingly freedom, in fact, it is restricted by external objects.
If a person wants to be truly free, he should not be trapped by external objects, not be surrounded by glory, and not seek fame and fortune.
Su Shi once hiked to Songfeng Pavilion to enjoy the scenery.
When he walked halfway, he felt a little tired, he looked at the pavilion from afar, and found that there was still a long way to go.
Advance is also bitter, retreat is also bitter, Su Shi pestle in place, and then suddenly realized: "What is the place to rest here?" ”
If the heart is free, there is no internal friction and is not bound by worldly habits.
No one said that you can't rest in the middle of the mountain, not to mention that Su Shi thinks that the scenery in the middle of the mountain is also very good, so why do you have to go to the top of the mountain?
In the end, he felt that his actions were like a fish hooked, and he was suddenly relieved.
You see, how happy people are who don't consume themselves!
Life is ultimately the process of pleasing yourself, and 99% of the things that happen to you have nothing to do with others. When we don't need to rely on external objects to get attention, we can keep more time for ourselves.
A person who never consumes himself will devote himself wholeheartedly to the matter of loving himself, and he will definitely live a dazzling and bright life.
02
Hao Liang's one, I don't care
"Zhuangzi Qiushui" records the debate between Zhuangzi and Hui Shi.
Zhuangzi and his friend Hui Shi were walking on the bridge in Haoshui, and they saw the tiáo fish swimming leisurely in the water below the bridge.
Zhuangzi said: "The sea bass is very calm when it travels, and it is the joy of fish!" ”
Hui Shi replied: "Zifei is not a fish, but knows the joy of fish? ”
Zhuangzi retorted: "The son is not me, and I know that I don't know the joy of fish?" ”
After a few rounds, they were still at loggerheads.
But the fish had already swam away according to its own itinerary.
Not in the evaluation of the unexpected world, do what you like or should do with peace of mind, this is the joy of fish, but also the joy of people.
In life, we don't need to be burdened by other people's evaluations, and we don't have to care too much about other people's likes and dislikes.
This is how the talented girl Li Qingzhao lives.
She gave up nun red because of her love of reading since she was a child, and at the age of 15, she began to amaze the world with her bold and bold poetry.
At the age of 25, Li Qingzhao wrote "Theory of Words", which was written by everyone in the Northern Song Dynasty, including Su Shi. She felt that Su Shi's words could not be counted as words, just a kind of uneven verse, and there was no rhythm and insufficient charm.
Although her comments also have shortcomings, they have provided a lot of help for future generations to study poetry.
In addition to expressing his heart in the things he loves, Li Qingzhao also dares to face problems in life, and when he was married for the second time, he filed for divorce because he was dissatisfied with her husband's behavior.
It took a lot of courage for a woman to risk jail time and sue her husband for divorce.
It is Li Qingzhao's boldness and fearlessness that has made her unique poetic style.
Anyone's comments and comments on you can only be an expression of his own value, not one-ten-thousandth of your truth.
Not caring is the most stable spiritual core of a person, and not caring is also the best way for a person to become himself.
03
The rivers and lakes are not entangled
There are two fish in "Zhuangzi Inner Chapter - The Great Master": "When the spring dries up, the fish are on land, wet with each other, and foam at each other, it is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes." ”
The springs dried up, and the fish were trapped on land and snuggled up to each other, moistening each other with saliva in order to survive.
In such a bitter relationship, it is better to let go of each other, or throw into a new river, or hide in the rivers and lakes alone. In short, life is full of ups and downs, if you want to be difficult with each other, it is better to fulfill each other.
As Zhuangzi himself said: "Fish forget each other in the rivers and lakes, and people forget each other in Taoism." ”
Legend has it that the poet Cui Jiao once had an affair with a maidservant of his aunt's family.
Later, the maidservant was betrothed to a dignitary by her aunt.
Cui Jiao was powerless to prevent this from happening, and he couldn't save the relationship between the two people, and he was sad for a long time.
Once went out on a holiday, Cui Jiao was able to meet her again.
The two looked at each other, both regretting each other. But in the face of reality, Cui Jiao still wrote the sentence "As soon as Houmen enters the deep sea, Xiao Lang is a passerby from now on".
Instead of dwelling, it is better to let go.
In all relationships and relationships, excessive social disproportionality can cause trouble for the other person.
It was Cui Jiao's sense of boundaries that made the woman's husband Yu Di see their deep feelings and be willing to become adults.
In the end, Cui Jiao got his wish and was with his beloved.
Cui Jiao's non-entanglement and Yu Di's non-entanglement are both out of reason and courtesy.
People with high energy are not entangled, they are not entangled with the old, and they are not entangled with the past.
Letting go cleanly and quietly is the beginning of a person's life becoming better.
I believe that those who leave have a reason, those who are close have good luck, do not force anyone, it is respect, and who is not entangled is a blessing.
04
I've seen a passage like this:
"This mountain looks at that mountain high" because we cannot see our own merits. When you start to pay attention to yourself, you will find your goodness; When you start pleasing yourself, you already stop consuming yourself.
A person who is getting happier and happier is not because he has become better, but because he has learned to love himself more and more.
What you are willing to let go of, you will not be trapped by something, and what you don't care about, will not hurt you.
When you understand the three fish of Zhuangzi, you will also understand the truth of life. Live well at all times, because you want to be yourself, and you don't need to be anyone else.