We tend to be casual with our friends and family.
After all, everyone is familiar with each other, and it is possible to tolerate some tempers with each other.
This is normal.
But some people's practices are very "abnormal".
They don't treat their families with a good face at all. Instead, he used all his patience on outsiders.
It can be said that the "treatment" of the family in them is extremely poor.
What are these people doing?
In fact, after a person has lived all his life, he will understand when he is sixty years old: this kind of behavior that is not good for relatives, but pleasing to outsiders, is meaningless.
01 People with image baggage
In reality, some people don't have the patience to treat others by nature. He is at home, you can fully see it.
He is very impatient with his lover and children, and even often loses his temper.
But outside, he has social baggage. Maintain a good image.
He worries about others and says that he is not good, so outside, he will try his best to disguise himself.
In fact, this approach is a bit scary.
Like, we've all heard about something. An acquaintance next to him seems to be a good gentleman or a good wife.
But one day, it was confirmed that what he was doing at home was horrible, and it was almost eye-shattering.
This kind of person is to hide his true character, and then release it all to his family.
The concealment is high.
Some people have a terrible negative side of their character.
And he will release all the negative things to his family, and in front of outsiders, he will play the image of a good gentleman and a good lady.
In fact, inside, it is very scary.
Therefore, when we look at people, we can't just look at the surface, but we must have an in-depth understanding and then make deep friends.
02 People who can't tell the difference between good and good
In reality, the reason why some people are kind to outsiders and bad to their own families is fundamentally because they can't distinguish between good and bad.
Let's take the simplest example.
When many people are in a difficult life, in fact, they rely on their families for support.
For example, material support, such as housing, borrowing money, etc. On weekdays, I help take care of the children, and most of the family helps.
But he couldn't tell the difference between these gains and losses.
Instead, he spends a lot of time on his so-called friends.
And the latter is just a play on the spot, and it has no practical effect at all.
Be sober. Treat your own interpersonal relationships, but also have accurate stratification.
People who are truly kind to themselves, such as family and friends, are a priority. can get our most love, and energy.
But for others, it's time to let it go.
Don't mess up your relationships without prioritizing them.
03 I don't know how to cherish
Most of us will have a characteristic of "not knowing how to cherish".
That is, to treat what you don't have and pursue it vigorously. I despise what I already have.
Some people, the reason why they please outsiders, is that they forget to cherish the family affection they already have.
It's a pity.
For example, many of us have turned a blind eye to the kindness of our family members.
On the contrary, it is a little bit of goodwill to outsiders, and I am particularly excited.
This is a bit of a disadvantage to the family.
For example, in some families, the children are already very good, but the parents still don't know how to cherish them.
On the contrary, he praises other people's children every day for how good they are. This is also not knowing how to cherish blessings.
If a person lives and does not know how to cherish it, then he will never be satisfied.
In the end, they lost what they already had.
It will also make your desires endless and exhausting.
Is it worth it?