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Intimate moments on the sidelines
A few days ago, Beckham took his little princess Xiaoqi to watch a football game. Well, this is a normal thing. But who knows, the interaction between the father and daughter directly made the audience and netizens dumbfounded!
And guess what? Beckham not only hugged his daughter's waist, but also let Xiao Qi straddle his lap directly! You know, Xiao Qi is not a child anymore, he is 13 years old, and his body is very well developed. This picture, tsk, to be honest, is a bit spicy!
Netizens fryed
As soon as this incident came out, the Internet immediately exploded. Some people say that this is a normal father-daughter interaction, but some people think it is too much. A netizen @ Xiaofang, who loves melons, said: "Oh my God, where does this look like a father and daughter, it's like a couple!" Another netizen @rationally looked at the problem and said: "Western culture and Eastern culture are different, we can't use our own standards to judge others." "
There are also people @gossip expert who sprayed directly: "Does Beckham have any abnormal thoughts about his daughter?" That's too much, isn't it? "Speaking of which, Xiao Qi, this girl is really a day at a time. I remember when she was born, Beckham's pampering energy simply regarded her as the most precious treasure in the world.
Now, Xiao Qi has grown up, tall and outstanding, and she is completely a little beauty. But in Beckham's eyes, she is probably still the little princess who needs her father to hold in his arms. Speaking of which, Beckham's name of "daughter control" is not for nothing. From the day Xiao Qi was born, he regarded his daughter as the pearl of his palm.
Remember? In order to choose a name for Xiao Qi, Beckham tried his best. "Harper Severn Beckham", the "Severn" in the name is his favorite number 7. This father's love is no one! Not only that, but Beckham also retired early for Xiaoqi! After Xiao Qi was born, he announced that he would leave more time for his family, especially this little padded jacket.
To be honest, Beckham's love for his daughter is really a little unaccustomed in the eyes of us Chinese. A psychology expert @Professor Zhang analyzed: "In Western culture, physical contact between parents and children is very normal. However, considering that the child has entered puberty, parents should still pay attention to maintaining proper distancing. "
Another family education expert @李师 said: "Parents' love for their children is understandable, but the way to express it should be appropriate. Especially for public figures, it is more important to pay attention to their words and deeds, so as not to bring a bad influence to the public. "
The collision of cultural differences
In the final analysis, this incident is a reflection of the cultural differences between the East and the West. In the West, intimate interactions between parents and children are common. But in China, especially for children who have grown up, parents tend to keep a certain distance.
An international student @小明 said: "I have lived abroad for many years and am used to seeing intimate actions between parents and children. However, after returning to China, I found that there was indeed a relatively restrained relationship between parents and children in China. In the face of doubts from the outside world, the Beckhams don't seem to care. David Beckham's wife, Victoria, even openly expressed her support for her husband's love for his daughter.
According to media reports, Victoria said: "David is a good father and his love for his children is unconditional. We have a good family relationship, and the outside world should not comment on this. This matter has caused a stir on the Internet, and the comments of netizens are also varied.
@吃瓜群众A: "This is too exaggerated, the 13-year-old daughter is so old, and she is still sitting on her father's lap, it's really strange!" @理性思考者B: "I don't think it's a big deal, every family has its own way of getting along, as long as they feel comfortable." "
@关心青少年成长C: "I think Beckham should pay attention. After all, the daughter has entered puberty, and it is better to keep an appropriate distance. @八卦爱好者D: "Wow, Beckham spoils his daughter so much!" But to be honest, if my husband treats my daughter like this, I might be a little jealous! "
Faced with this situation, we interviewed several experts to hear their professional opinions. Psychologist Professor Wang said: "Parents' love for their children is very important, but it is important to pay attention to the way they express themselves. Especially when the child enters puberty, parents should adjust the way they interact with their children appropriately so as not to cause distress to their children. "
Teacher Li, a family education expert, pointed out: "Each family has its own way of getting along, and we should not use a single standard to judge. However, as a public figure, Beckham's actions do have a certain impact on the public, and he should be more mindful of his words and actions. "
Sociology expert Professor Zhang added: "This incident actually reflects the differences between Eastern and Western cultures. We should be more open-minded to understand family relationships in different cultural contexts, but at the same time, we should pay attention to protecting the rights and interests of minors. "
What do you think?
To be honest, it's really head-scratching. On the one hand, the open culture of the West, on the other hand, is the traditional concept of our Chinese, and when the two collide, it will not be fried!
But then again, let's not just eat melons, we might as well take this opportunity to think about what is the right way to get along with parents. Professor Zhao, an expert in family psychology, said: "There is nothing wrong with parents' love for their children, but it should be expressed appropriately. Especially when the child enters puberty, parents should appropriately adjust the way they interact with their children so as not to cause unnecessary distress to their children. "
Mr. Wang, a sociologist, pointed out: "This incident actually reflects the differences between Eastern and Western cultures. In the West, intimate interactions between parents and children are common. But in China, especially for children who have grown up, parents tend to keep a certain distance. We cannot judge by a single standard, but we must also pay attention to protecting the rights and interests of minors. "
We need to respect the way families get along with each other in different cultural contexts; On the other hand, as a public figure, Beckham's actions do have a certain impact on the public.
We should not judge such behavior by a single standard. But at the same time, we also need to think about how parents should adjust the way they interact with their children at different stages of their development, so as to express love without causing unnecessary distress to their children.
What I want to say is that there is no substitute for the love that parents have for their children, whether in the East or in the West. It is important that this love is expressed in an appropriate way. As for what is "appropriate", each family may have its own standards. What do you think about this? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area, let's discuss together!