There are three questions in this world that will never be solved: the chicken or the egg, what to eat for dinner, and—
Inexplicable body anxiety, when will it disappear.
Just recently, actor Jiang Shuying caused a lot of controversy because of a passage on a variety show.
In the show, a group of people chatted at the dinner table, and Jiang Shuying mentioned that she had a lot of meat in her little belly: "My baby belly is out." ”
"I don't have a baby face, but I have a baby belly."
Qin Lan, who was next to her, answered the words and said that she had also eaten a small belly, explaining that it is normal for women to have a small belly, which can play a protective role;
At this time, Jiang Shuying, who was sure that he didn't eat it, and it was really a baby's belly, looked a little relieved.
"Well, I'll be a little happier when I think so."
In the show, the topic of baby belly is over.
Outside the show, although fans repeatedly clarified that it was just a rush at the dinner table, the discussion around "baby belly" continued.
"I'm really fed up with these naïve names."
"Why is aesthetics popular now and more and more baby-like?"
In the aesthetic trend in recent years, the "Baby Strict Selection Series" has gradually become a hit of the times.
First of all, it is the baby eyelashes that have exploded recently.
The so-called baby eyelashes, also known as baby bends and baby eyelashes, are different from the past Internet celebrity hits such as fairy eyelashes and sunflowers, which pursued thickness, curl, and exaggerated exaggeration:
The core of baby eyelashes is to imitate the eyelashes of a three- or four-month-old baby, creating a long, straight, and naturally thick effect of newborn eyelashes.
Like this/Source: Picture Worm Creative
With the explosion of the baby bend, it has brought all kinds of derivatives.
Falling tail baby bend, oblique flying baby bend, comic baby bend, pure desire baby bend, you can't even imagine that there are so many tricks on the basis of baby eyelashes.
Of course, eyelash styling is only the appearance, and the atmosphere created by it is the key.
The curvature of the baby's eyelashes should be maintained in a subtle arc, and the end of the eyelashes should be naturally lengthened, with the main purpose of highlighting the sense of innocence, brokenness and childishness.
The introduction on the Internet has also gradually enriched with the addition of baby curve styles.
"The tail can be extended, divided into two layers of eyelashes, and can even be slightly raised like butterfly wings, maximizing the pure eyes of the girl, the innocence and sexiness without temptation."
How to equate "baby xx" and "baby xx" with sex appeal and temptation, no one can say clearly, only that in the corner where no one cares, similar new terms are not uncommon.
After talking about the baby's eyelashes, the second step of transforming the baby's eyelashes from top to bottom comes to the baby's teeth.
Baby teeth are also called baby teeth, before that, many people's cognition of baby teeth probably still stayed in the field of mother and child.
When a mother raises a 10-month-old baby, when the baby teeth erupt, the tube only exposes the upper and lower four teeth.
Once baby teeth, it was synonymous with cuteness, just like this
But that's all in the past, and now with the popularity of adults + baby teeth, baby teeth have been given a new mission: to visually narrow the face and increase the sense of childishness.
The description and meaning have also changed dramatically, from delicate and sweet, to childish vitality, whether the mouth can only show two teeth when the mouth is slightly open, has become a new chain of aesthetic contempt.
Highlight the goofy, cute, and non-aggressive / Source: Xiaohongshu
You know, baby eyelashes may also be achieved through tools, false eyelashes, etc., but it is not so easy to transfer the "baby teeth" to adults.
Some people may look closer to the aesthetics of baby teeth because they are born with rabbit teeth, but in most cases, adult teeth are different from the size of young children -
Adults who want baby teeth either need to extend the length of the two front teeth or have to sharpen or blacken the two No. 2 teeth next to the front teeth.
On social platforms, there are many people who post the strategy of "going ashore" for their young teeth, some of whom spend more than 100,000 yuan, grind off their originally healthy teeth for this purpose, and even grind them at home.
When you laugh, your front teeth are a few millimeters more subtle than the teeth on both sides, and somehow they have become a symbol of youth that exudes shallow sensuality.
So, isn't this world a grass platform, but a huge kindergarten?
Hands that don't look slender, are called "baby hands", and the standard copywriting is "makes people look impulsive"; The purple needle, which was originally given to children during injections, is called "baby needles", and adult girls use them to represent that the blood vessels are thin enough......
Along with the baby's aesthetics, there is also the "baby literature" that has been blown and blown up.
It originated from a hot search on the Internet: when a couple eats, the boy orders a meal, and the girl brings a small bowl, divides a little food from the boy's bowl, and calls the small bowl "baby bowl".
Highlight eating less and eating less
It's normal to say that it's just a little love between couples, and the content of the accompanying text and comment area is: Is there really a girl who can eat a whole bowl, and a girl who doesn't hurt anyone will be an independent big woman.
The baby bowl has become a part of baby literature, which has been used by children and is not easy to break, and has been pulled into a girl's small bird stomach and the evidence that someone only hurts when she eats less.
The subtext is nothing more than that women need to eat less, think less, do less, and rely more to create a sense of so-called vulnerability and become the chosen party.
Just like in "Tokyo Women's Illustrated Guide", when the heroine's boyfriend broke up, she asked unwillingly: "If a woman would choose a rich man, what kind of woman would a man choose?" ”
The boyfriend replied: "A woman who has nothing, no dreams of her own, no ideals, just a woman who innocently supports his dreams." ”
It must be admitted that the process of women's aesthetic change in today's popular narrative is a process of continuous infantilization.
At first, younger women were admired, but later they were not young enough, so they became obsessed with girlishness; The girly feeling is not enough, and then it slides to the toddler, and then all the way to the baby who is only a few months old.
But only talking about juvenile aesthetics is probably only the tip of the iceberg of women's aesthetic dilemma.
Every once in a while, a new word is coined to change the law to discipline the female body; And behind the explosion of every new word, there are women who are coerced more tightly.
The BM girls who were brought to fire by the Italian company Brangy Melville were once synonymous with fashion, referring to girls who could only wear the brand's XS or S size clothes.
At that time, although the standard weight of 160 height was 55kg, some people still regarded the BM girl's 160cm-47 kg as the standard.
When a young girl swipes up an Internet celebrity with a thin body as thin as a piece of paper on the Internet, and goes down to the BM store to look at a young shopping guide who is so thin that she has only a handful of bones, it is inevitable to wonder if she is too fat and too undisciplined.
Because of the posture of a leg on a chair and reverse waist, the comic waist that became popular in the circle drove countless young girls to copy the same posture to prove their figure.
Someone can't do it? Excuse me, then eat less, or even refuse food, until you are tightly embedded in this action.
Under the discipline that satisfies the outside world, women frame their bodies into a certain tighter and tighter condom. Source: CCTV
When the right-angled shoulder is highly respected, the trapezius muscles, which originally control the movement of the neck, become an "ugly thing" that must be removed because they do not meet the standards of beauty;
It is not enough to achieve the high cranial crown of the relay only by perming and ironing, and there are many people who inject fixative solution into the cranial crown ruthlessly to create a height-increasing effect on the top of the head.
There are also A4 waists, elf ears, and protractor holy bodies, which make people tremble, for fear that if there is any point that does not match, they will be kicked out of the popular aesthetics.
The pursuit of "perfection" for half a lifetime, the return is a set of stationery for primary school students - the face should be a protractor, the shoulders should be at right angles, and the legs should be as thin and straight as a compasse
It's just that how many people have built themselves according to the template again and again, and stepped on the pit again and again, only to discover the truth on the other end-
Whether in the name of "appreciation" or "joke" as a package, women's bodies have never escaped the trap of being objectified.
The cleavage formed by the fullness of the chest will be called the "career line", and the subtext is that women can achieve material and career achievements with their sexy beauty;
If the chest is not prominent enough and the bust is small, it is called "airfield" and is used to mock the "lack of femininity".
If you have a little more body hair, you will be called a "female tank" if you are a little stronger, and if you have a line on your face, you will be called a cat tattoo...... In short, everything is like, but it is not like a person.
If you refuse to be anxious about your appearance and don't pay for extreme aesthetics, you will inevitably fall into the trap of liberation.
Just like the so-called mother's face and mother's skin, the original focus was on mother's nature-
But it has gradually become necessary to achieve a point where people can't see where they are beautiful when applying makeup and plastic surgery, but they are quietly becoming beautiful.
It seems to be a compliment, but people still have to learn all the beauty skills in order to change from an ordinary face to a mother's face.
On the face, this acre of three-point land should be studied to find out the square circle, the amount of meat, whether it is tight and close to the bones, and the height of the row;
The various body parts are constantly enlarged, rounded and flattened, the thighs and calves are proportional, and the chest is high or low......
"Thin is good, fat is bad; The young state is good, and the old state is bad", there is no self-reflection and others remind.
Liu Yifei, who was wearing a swimsuit, came, and had to take two sentences: "quite fat", "no lines", and "people are too tolerant of her" before leaving.
Source: "The Story of Rose"
A woman's body is not a woman's body, but a disciplined, symbolic, contradictory, and secretive body.
Now we can't even say the comic chest, the chest is called thunder, and it is divided into big thunder, small thunder, and potato thunder according to size.
In the past, milk caps were used to order milk tea, but now they have to be matched with milk caps with chest stickers, and normal body parts have become forbidden words that are difficult to speak.
The chest patch has also changed from a normal summer clothing accessory to a soft and waxy milk cap.
Public opinion is constantly making words, and people not only abide by the words, but also have to reinvent themselves like the Barbie workshop.
The pursuit of beauty is understandable, but it is often just a matter of selling anxiety and creating demand.
The baby's eyelashes are on fire, and the beauty shop is quickly launched; Juvenile teeth are on fire, and private dental clinics advertise juvenile veneer teeth.
Appearance anxiety is younger than the age, and the pressure of being young, naïve, and emaciated has not decreased at all.
Even, the pressure has never been so great.
In similar discussions, we often see the following statements:
It's just a word, why is it so serious.
Perhaps the crux of the matter is that, in addition to the growing anxiety about appearance, women are losing more and more.
In a survey of 100 women, all women imagined an ideal woman based on social standards and imagined that they had these characteristics, how would their lives change?
More than 70% of women believe they are treated better.
Criticizing and judging a person's physical appearance does not mean caring about the person's health.
The next step for women to be framed by aesthetic standards is to get lost in the eyes of others.
As Mullah Ganchitano puts it in her book Servitude: How Beauty Enslaves and Consumes Women:
What young women learn is not the desire for another person, but the desire to be desired.
This takes up a lot of women's time that should be spent looking for what they want, allowing them to drain their energy little by little in the pursuit of perfection.
"Women's Guide to a Better Life" also did a survey on "how women choose sizes when shopping", and the results found:
Some women would rather buy an M size dress even if they know they are not in M size.
Because both the clerk and the media are promoting the more advanced theory of small size: UR is like this, and so is BM.
Subconsciously, these women want to reduce their anxiety and make themselves happy by buying small-sized clothing, which is a "white lie".
But the truth is that instead of being happy, it's even more unhappy.
Experienced more internal friction and spent more money / Image source: Weibo @最人
Women's growth process is often a process of being gazed at by others, the importance of appearance is emphasized, and media messages always emphasize women's sexual attractiveness.
This has led to some women unconsciously accepting self-objectification and viewing themselves from the perspective of a "third party".
It causes depression, anxiety, physical shame in women, and can lead to eating disorders as well as behavioral disorders related to sexual behavior.
Those perfect bodies that have been circled also make people no longer pay attention to the infantilization, sexualization, and objectification of women, making them more vulnerable to violence-
"At least when it's not a person in front of me, but a Barbie, I can drag her around, and I can use it as I like without its consent.
Because Barbie can't speak. ”
So, let the female body, return to the body itself. Teeth that can eat and chew are good teeth; A butt that can go to the toilet is a good ass.
There are bulges on both sides of the waist, the corners of the mouth can be upturned or bent down, and there are muscles in the calves...... These are all normal human body structures.
What women really have to do is probably only:
"Trying to accept our true selves, we don't need to be recognized by anyone."